A negative post, help please

[Faith]

Brilliant news!
Justice is done.

[fighter]

this made me cry! tears of joy, am so happy for you, BDC! Enjoy your freedom, life and your son! :-)

[Verity]

Psalm 38:32-33

The wicked lie in wait for the innocent man,
seeking to take his very life.
But the Lord will not leave him in their power
nor let him be condemned when brought to trial.

This is the word of the Lord and his covenant to us.

[Saffron]

I'm so happy to read this wonderful news. Justice has been done. Thank you for letting us know.

[Rights Fighter]

Psalm 38:32-33

The wicked lie in wait for the innocent man,
seeking to take his very life.
But the Lord will not leave him in their power
nor let him be condemned when brought to trial.

This is the word of the Lord and his covenant to us.

Oh so true. God does not send us these terrible times but if we allow Him, he will help us through them.

Brilliant news BDC.

[largactyl1]

Wow! Brilliant news.

Did you start to feel confident at any particular part of the trial? What kind of thing did your barrister ask the Accuser? What sort of things were you questioned about? It might shed some light for other people here who have been falsely accused - those of us who have never been to court just have no way of knowing what to expect.
Very best wishes
Jen

[Boys don't cry]

Trial

Just one thing,you cannot be confident during a trial even though sometimes you believe you are, you will never be 100%.You are in the biggest roller coster ever,Thorpe park is just a joke.
The jury doesn't show any emotion and probably isn't allowed to.
First they show a video statement of my wife,then an audio from me.
Previously to the trial I wrote as much information as I could about the development leading to the false rape.
You must remember as many details as you can,details are the most important things.
Does the "victim" have motives to claim for rape against you:My wife had.
So my barrister asked about my wife's affair,about money,about divorce...
He was so good,reaching slowly his goal to prove that she was lying and that she only wanted me out of the house.
My wife of course was trying to deny everything to convince the jury that I was the baddy.
But I had some material evidence that she used to "sponge" me.
So:she had an affair,she used to take advantage of me financially:She started to be less credible.
I had a really important witness who saw her just after the "rape"and this person couldn't believe it and testify against her.
So already 3 wrong things for my wife and the barrister suggested her what really happened in the bedroom,she denied everything.
My turn came with the "barking"prosecutor.
"You are a liar,you raped your wife who didn't love you anymore.
She cried ,she repeatedly said "No"but you didn't listen,she is smaller than you so she couldn't resist..."
"Be careful members of the jury,maybe this man maybe didn't do anyting wrong in the past but it is just the beginning"
"At what time did you go in the bedroom,what was your position,..."several times.
The prosecutor was so loud,hitting me hard,my head was so painful I will never forget.
I told the jury that I would never do this to her or to anyone and that I reasonably believed that she was consenting.
My barrister's turn to try to save me:"Look at this man who came in the bedroom,kissed and caressed his wife(She accepted this),...
The jury was paying so much attention,when he finished his speech I thought that they would stand up and applause;I was tempted to.He was asolutely perfect and told them you must be 100% sure to convict someone".
"In the bedroom there was just his wife and him so can you be 100% sure about what happen in it?"
When I was interviewed by the police last year,the officer asked me did she say "yes" at all and I answered "No".
So in court they asked me the same question and the barrister said"Look this man accepted that his wife never said yes from the beginning..."
Who would be genuine like this,anyone would have said "Yes, she said yes".
The police nearly caught my wife lying from the beginning and asked her if she wanted to mislead them,she of course said there was no intention at all.
She as well hidden what she said to the important witness.
I had some character references,so some of them came to testify for me.
I went back home quite confident but once again not 100%.
Last day the judge read the whole story from my wife, me and the witnesses. I could feel that he was with me,I was more and more happy.
I left the room with a smile and the barrister was less happy about this.
"You musn't smile".He wrote a character letter to the judge in case I would go in to try to reduce the time I would do in jail.
Jury was sent out and a few hours later came back with the verdict.
I started to cry with my son's picture just infront of me,I was so scared.
Jury came back in the room,still no emotion,no smile, nothing.
One stood up and said the magic words "NOT GUILTY".
The police officer near me said "you are free to go".I had wings.
I said twice "thank you" to the jury,once to your honour and left like a bullet.
Never again.

[Faith]

...and so begins the rest of your life

[NOHOPE]

really helpful postthat for us that are coming up to trial.
well done

[Saffron]

Thank you for sharing that BDC. It is extremely helpful to other members who are facing trial. More tears in my eyes again, second time! First was reading of Denise's son's NFA.
xxx

[felix]

Thank you BDC for that - moving and so helpful....

[just married]

BDC, this is such a sad story, and I'm so sorry for what has happened, but glad to see you now free from the 'industry' of investigation and the horrible sounding trials and tribulations that followed. Thank you for posting your experience.
I'm wondering, do you have continuing contact with your accuser, and I certainly hope you managed to find a way to maintain contact with your child.

best wishes.

[Boys don't cry]

Just married.

After beeing unanimously found not guilty my "ex" wife was clever enough to arrange a non molestation order.
So I cannot go 100m near our house.
I don't know what she said to my son but now he is having post traumatic stress disorder.
He is having counselling.
I am allowed to write to him once a month in exchange of a picture.
So I must go to Cafcass and to court in order to prove once again that she is just an evil liar.

Because she didn't manage to put me underground nor in jail,she now is accusing me of other things.
She even blackmailed me through my son's guardian that she would "push"my son to see me if I admitted what she accused me of.
I love my son more than anything in the world and would do anything for him but I would never accept something I never did.

So it is exacly like Crown Court,it is easy to accuse someone of anything but now I am prepared.
I kept a copy of the character references,of written notes from her to prove once again that it is just financial.
I am getting used to it and win again step by step.
Everything she says,I prove the contrary by material evidence.
She has just her words,I have the physical evidence.
So once again she starts to be less credible.

The only correspondence I have with her is just to retaliate via solicitors.
I do not want anything ever from her.
She is just "somebody I used to know".

I am still alone after 15 months but everyone would understand.
I am shy and less confident than ever ,busy with full and parttime jobs.
Busy fighting for more than a year.
While I am off,I just visit museums in London or the beach while the weather is ok.
August,one day at the Reading festival.
In a way I enjoy my freedom but b.....y hell I feel lonely.
I would love just to invite a girl and nothing more.
I'd like to study again (it's never too late)but I know I cannot yet,I wouldn't be able to concentrate.

She is no more talking to her sister who came as a witness for me.
Now I am stronger and when you have been accused of rape,the rest seems a lot less important.
I told my son's guardian that she is dangerous and in a way I am please I am out of there.
At least there is no more love and it was dramatically quick to undertand and to make myself a reason.

Thank you for your concern.

For my son

[RFLH]

sorry to read that BDC - there are some messed up and wicked people out there.

I hope that you do take up the strands of your life soon, start to tudy and get out and about. As for being lonely - you can be in a relationship and still be that. Hopefully you'll soon feel at ease enough to mix more and once you have sorted out the legal battle over your son, you'll be able to enjoy life again.

ps - Gotye is rather good!

[just married]

BDC...

I'll write soon...

I'm sorry...

I think romeo is not dead...

thank you for your words...

I'll look for the book you metioned later...