Suicide following being accused of lying

[myhome]

http://www.msn.com/en-gb/news/uknews...id=mailsignout

[Rights Fighter]

Very sad. I doubt we will ever know the truth of it....

[Izzy]

The other side...

Think this might strike a chord with quite a few people..

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...now-story.html

[Casehardened]

Indeed, now that he has opened up publicly, there is no harm in mentioning that he initially sought advice from this forum.

[whatsgoingon?]

I remember his case - amazing he's had the courage to put his side of the story across. What comes up again and again is that the police inspectors don't do their job, that is investigate. It would save the courts, individuals and ultimately the nation a massive amount of money if only they did what they are paid to do by the tax-payer as well as save so much heart-ache and the possibility of tragic events like like this one.

The only good that can come out of this is that people ( and hopefully the police, who knows???) slowly become aware of the tragedy of false accusations and maybe it'll deter some potential false 'alligators'. I wonder if people would have been so sympathetic had he killed himself. He still has to carry on with the rest of his life, people thinking there's no smoke and possibly blaming him for a suicide.

Also, were her mental health issues being addressed adequately ? I suspect they weren't. Perhaps if some of the police budget went to the mental health one (which I read amounts to 1% of the total health budget) perhaps they would not have so much 'crime' to fight.

[Rights Fighter]

The other side of the tragedy of course, is when a genuine victim goes to the police, they are either not believed or it gets dropped due to lack of evidence.

Yet some falsely accused people are taken to trial on exactly the same (lack of) evidence - one person's word against another.

Some years back a solicitor friend had had enough of having to rescue me from my mentally abusive ex who I had kicked out - I thought it would turn violent. When I was first sat in front of the police officer in the police station he looked at me as though completely bored. My friend was a duty solicitor too, and she made him sit up by saying "I'm a solicitor and I know she is telling the truth". He then listened to what I was saying with a little more interest.

A few days later the ex had made some stupid allegation about me "stealing" his belongings intending to sell them on. Those were the belongings he left behind in the hope I would invite him back to "collect" them. I was in process of moving out of the flat and the same officer came to my flat in uniform in a marked police car. A bit embarrassing. I took him into the flat saying "may I draw you attention to the fact I am moving" pointing out the packed boxes lining the walls. I then took him to an armchair and behind that I pointed out the ex's stuff, which I was intending to get a taxi to take it to him as I didn't want him anywhere near me.

The officer could see exactly what the ex was playing at by then. He took everything that the ex had left behind and put it into the boot of his car (yes - there was so little it didn't need a van!) I said to him "you realise he will be sniggering behind his hand at the thought of a police officer acting as courier". He said "Don't worry it won't be happening again". He wasn't happy.


My point is, for every false accuser of whatever type of abuse, there is a genuine victim who will be met with the same look of either disbelief or "here we go again" sort of look - that's another tragedy.

[whatsgoingon?]

You're probably right and domestic violence (from males or females) all too often gets very low or no priority. If they could find a way of sorting the liers from the genuine cases then they could concentrate on the genuine ones. Lie detectors? Unfortunately and despite having a specially trained units for rape cases it's so much easier to sit in an office trying to boost figures rather than putting themselves out to investigate properly before they arrest etc.

BTW - many moons ago I had my newly received building society card and no. taken from my purse by a flat-mate and £500 withdrawn. I went to report it and was interviewed and detained for near on 2 hours in very intimidating circumstances. I don't think my complaint was even registered and I came out of there feeling humiliated and demoralised.