No one to turn too

[RFLH]

not to mention the washing ............!

[Rights Fighter]

I take it that this is a reference to the three bottles of vino that you downed in a day!!! I bet you won't be doing that again in a hurry!

[RFLH]

If it had been in a day I may wll have been ok - it was 20 minutes and not one of my finer moments - so I'm told.

[Rights Fighter]

In that case it can't have been proppa wine cos you'd have been dead hon! You are not used to drinking!!!

When I spoke to your other half you'd got through about 1 1/2 bottles and was asleep (or semi) and the rest you had drunk later as you were asleep for some time according to the emails I was getting! Silly moo!!!

Next time you decide to get piss*d come and stay with me and I'll show you how to do it in a ladylike way with no throwing up!!!

[RFLH]

oh it was - bear in mind I hadn't eaten for a week either. I know I was out of it a few minutes after the third - don't think it stayed in very long!!

Serves me right, shouldn't drink in temper, but it was that or do bodily injury.

Bloody bunny boiler.

[Rights Fighter]

You are NOT a bunny boiler

[RFLH]

no, not me. The other 'woman'!!

I don't think there will be a second performance

[Rights Fighter]

Well make sure there is no trace of numbers and addresses anywhere. I haven't seen you post up about this on this forum so I will say no more on the matter! Apart from a certain male person will have a hard slap next time I see him.

[RFLH]

I'll hold him!

[isi]

Hi Sammy, I truly understand what you are scared about. With his family being so close and no family around for support, I was and suppose still am in exactly the same position.

The person who raped me is the father of my child, he is in prison now and I went through the same thoughts as you. He has a huge family and they are all into the wrong thing. He did not work but still managed to drive brand new cars and go on holiday 4x a yr. Not nice people at all. I moved house and got rid of my bed. Its the best thing I could have done under the circumstances. I was scared I was going to be killed.

I did go through with the video statement and it did have the right result/verdict at the end of it. Many cases do not see the right end result though and that is something you cannot control even though that is what you need right now, you need to feel in control. It is completely your decision if you make a statement. I looked at it like I was giving someone else my problem, I let them take my problem away so I did not have to keep it locked inside rotting me away. You need to feel comfortable and in control as much as possible in regards to giving evidence. It is hard but whatever the verdict may be you could look at it as serving justice to womankind. If you dont I completely understand because yes it is hard but dont let that put you off, you seem like a strong person.

Did you contact the police pretty much straight away? Sorry for so many Q.

I hope you are not suffering too much from drinking last night? Try and stay away from it if you can, it will only make things even more confusing than it already is.

PM me if you need a chat? and dont worry if you dont understand the previous posts, rights fighter and rflh have known each other for some time and obviously think they are on msn on a private conversation but they are brilliant help if ever you need and can offer advice and give you a good cheer up if you need it x

[RFLH]

consider my wrist slapped isi - but its my way of coping.

If I didn't flip things around I'd have gone mad years ago.

[Saffron]

Laughter can be the best medicine!
Sammy64, as Isi says, you have done the hardest part - try to think about it as passing your problem to someone else to deal with. You just need to take some time to heal and don't beat yourself up over it. It was not your fault.
Keep posting - if you are feeling down it is always better out than in!

[sammy64]

Help and support..

Cor blimey...Was really good today, had call back from head office at victim support, they left a message to call another number..!!!!!! no reply...rang Haven again and spoke to a man who was not at all helpful until i pushed him and he turned out to be a receptionist!!!!!! he then put me through (after not putting up with him telling me to get in touch with police)....He put me through to a doctor, who was lovely. They have given me an appointment for tomorrow...The thing is rape crisis was answerphone again. I know people are volunteers, but surely something must be done to help people who have been raped..!!!! Your site has been the only release I have had, and I thank you all...I dont know the surname of my police officer who took me to haven, but knew she was coming back from holiday today. She not been in touch..I tried to call her but because I only knew her as Jackie ,no one knew what or who I was talking about, just kept passing me on to different extensions...I thought she would have been in touch with me today, but she's not.!!!! . I am 61 years of age and live in Welling. I went to college today, I made myself because I enjoy it. I felt strong today, I got everything ready last night and cleaned the house alot..But I now find myself in tears and frightened again...How can the police expect us to go to court and go through more than we've been through, when they just don't seem to care at all !!!! There is no support or help anywhere. Its so wrong.. WHY ??? I was so positive today, and now feel I should just ignore it and make out it didnt happen....sorry for going on x

[sammy64]

Hello again

I dont know what PM you means.. It did make me think when I saw messages from rights fighter and friend..I wonder if this is a real site and Im just telling people things and its all a joke..!!!!! Who started this site? who owns this site?. I called the police straight away, it was my 61st birthday.....I dont know if having no help is making me stronger or not, - I think it is..I really feel, strongly .that I need to do something to help women who have been raped, This is S..t...I think I will just go .... him, seems alot easier....not going to haven tomorrow, not going to ring anyone for support or advice, going to sort this out myself now. ..

[Rights Fighter]

PM = Private Message. Click on the user name and you will have an option to PM the user you wish to contact.

If you look at the rest of the forum you will see that this site is real and deals with both aspects - supporting genuine victims of sexual abuse and also supporting those who have been falsely accused.

Have a good nosy about and you will see.

RFLH went through a really *****y week last week which is what the banter about drinking was about.