Sexually abused age 11-16 and raped no justice no cica.

[natasha]

Hi my name is natasha.
10 years ago i was sexually abused in everyway by my step dad who brought me up from birth so i thought of him as my real dad and he made me call him dad and changed my surname by deedpole to his.
I never claimed compensation as i was so messed up from it all and told by mum she deserved money not me.
It has taken me years and years to get my head straight.
I have a horrible family who all stuck by my mum who chose my step dad over me.
And all my family made me believe i was to blame and to feel sorry for my mum which i did and have always felt bad even though i was a child and i did not want to be abused and raped by him.
I just recently tried to put in a claim for cica compensation and i got refused as there is a time limit of 2 years since the incident happened they said.
But it does state that they can make exceptions in cases like mine yet i still got refused which only seems my luck as i never got justice for what i suffered all he got was a caution and put on sex offender register for 5 years my mum never wanted to press charges against him and my parents both told me to keep my mouth shut so i mucked up on the video interview with the police and he escaped because i was so scared to tell the truth but i did in the end as they pressured it out of me but because i denied it at first they just cautioned him and he continued raping me after he was cautioned as my mum allowed him back around th family home the police knew he was still around i even showed them a suicide letter he gave me as he was playing with my mind again the police just said tell us if anything else happens which it did it got worse but i just felt i couldnt turn to them anymore as they was not helping and i was only turned 16 then.
Anyway victim support thinks i should challenge this decision as they think its wrong.
Does anyone know do you think i would be successful if i went ahead and challenged this decision or am i just wasting my time as i dont have any hope now and just dont think anyone is interested even been to the police lately to report what he did to me after the caution and to be honest the police arent rushing to help me like they never did years ago.
Does anyone have any advice i only want to claim compensation so i can move away and get out of here from my evil family and him being local i just dont have the money to be honest to get away from these evil people i cant even go out of my house on my own at all and take medication because i suffer bad depression.

[RFLH]

Hi Natasha, I'm so sorry that you have been let down by the system.

I know absolutely nothing about the compensation rules, but if you have a look at http://www.accident-compensation-inf...plication.html they may be able to offer you advice on how to appeal the decision.

It sounds as if getting away is the best thing for you to do. Have you been to the Citizen's Advice Bureau for help? http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/

Hopefully somone with more knowledge about this will be along shortly, I just wanted to let you know that I've read your post.

[Saffron]

Hi Natasha and welcome

I am sorry you have been so badly let down by the "justice" system. As with RF, I'm afraid I do not know much about how to claim compensation/appeal CICAs decision, but I will PM one of our members who might know, and I will ask her to visit the forum.

Saffron

[isi]

Hi Natasha,

Im so sorry to read your story, and I can totally understand why you want to get away. How old are you now? I take it from your post that you no longer live at home?

I would go back to the police and make a statement from beggining to end about what happened. It sounds dreadful the way they have treated you and that should not happen. A man being cautioned for rape of a child is absurd.

I would appeal against the cica decision because you were a child at the time and being intimidated by your step dad. I think you have to justify to them why they should waver the time limit i.e being a child and suffering from mental health problems. Its hard enough having to write down what happened and then they throw it back in your face.

I have just reported previous abuse that happened over 10 years ago. I have not put in a claim for cica yet but I will do when the police give me the go ahead. My aim in reporting was not about the money though, it was to get justice if at all possible.

Maybe they have refused it because you did not claim at the time of the allegation? you should call cica regarding the decision. You can move away from where you are now without your cica claim though. You can apply to be housed in a different city through your local council or housing. If you are private renting you could always move somewhere else too and private rent there. Good luck and I hope you manage to start a fresh new life and keep us posted about your progress.

Take care x

[natasha]

hi thanks for all the replys ive recieved so far. i was turned down by the Cica because of the time limit its says on the letter i recieved today.
I have already been to the police again stating my story to see if anything can be done and the police lady said that if it was true what i was telling her he should have never got just a caution but im certain that i told alot of information 10 years ago what he did but they seem to think i didnt i even have my social service files that i never got to see as my mum hid them all from me and pretended that they were lost. so i requested copies which i didnt have a clue that i could do that to be honest until now and after seeing those files i was shocked that my family called me a liar and my mum wanted to be with him still and didnt want to press charges on him and didnt want me on the child protection register she such a horrible mother. Im Now 26 im with a partner who ive been with for 10 years i knew him since all my school life and he took me away from these nasty people but we still live local to them as my partners family also all live down here aswell. i have twin daughters and i could never act the way my mum acted to me to my daughters and it really hurts me alot.
So anyway im now waiting for a reply from the police to tell me if i have any case still for what he really did to me as i so badly want justice my family act like nothing happened to me and everyone did actually blame after it all saying im i proud of what ive done no wonder my head has been so messed up my partner has helped me so much and helped me realise so much now. im still extremely destroyed and suffer badly from my past because of what he did to me and having no real family anymore and knowing my luck he will further escape this aswell now which will kill me inside if he does but ive got to try and just hope and then try and find a housing exchange if i can.
thankyou all for your lovely replys i wish more people were understanding of me.

[friday]

the 2 year deadline should begin from your 18th birthday or the date of the last incident (whichever is later). in order for the cica to waive the 2 year deadline they must be convinced you had a good reason for not applying within that time such as you were too distressed. they may also want to see evidence of your reasons such as letters from a doctor that show you were unable to cope with daily life and/or things relating to the crime. feeling too scared to apply because of the perpetrator living near/with your family is also a valid reason.

if the cica agree that it was not possible for you to apply anytime sooner than you have then they may waive the deadline because it is deemed to be in the interest of justice.

if they accept your arguement that it was not possible for you to apply sooner then they will then look at the merits of the case and if they believe, on a balance of probabilities, that the crime occurred then you should receive compensation.

[isi]

Hi Natasha,

It sounds like you have taken some positive steps towards getting some acknowlegment and justice about what happened to you. Going to the police again was a brave thing to do as its so hard going over it all again and again. Have you heard anything from the police yet about what they are going to do? I know it can take some time before they start investigating historical crimes as they have to deal with the new crimes that are happening first due to evidence ect.

It sounds like you have a good support network and we are also here if you need to get things off your chest. I know it has helped me posting here when I feel like my head is about to explode.

You can also speak to victim support regarding your cica claim or there are specialists who deal with cica claims but I know that they take a certain percent of your claim for their service.

Isi x

[Saffron]

Hi Natasha

I agree with Isi - a grown man being given a caution for the rape/sexual abuse of a minor is absurd! Well done on having the courage to go back to the police, I hope they treated you with more sensitivity this time. As far as I understand it, for an adult to receive a caution they have to admit that they did what they have been accused of! Which is even more outrageous! A grown man admits he forced sexual contact onto a child and he gets a caution?! What kind of world do we live in?

With regard to you moving away, have you tried a house swap? I am not sure if this would work if you are in council-funded accommodation, but if your home is owned by you it could definitely be an option. Just a thought.

I hope you realise what a courageous step you have taken by going back to the police. Please let us know how you get on. And keep posting - better out than in!

Saffron x

[friday]

^you can do a house swap from one council to another. basically they set up a swap (either a direct swap between two people or via a chain). if you wanted more info about that i could find it for you.

some solicitors will help you free of charge under legal help if you are in receipt of certain benefits or on a low income. i only know if one in kent/se london but i know that cant be the only one.

[keepon]

justice system is fraud

hi

i to was abused by my blood father, started at the age of 7, and ended wen i was 13, social services were involved , my dad was arrested by police, and social services, his actual words were " what ever my daughter has said i have done i have done ", i told social services and the police near enough every thing that he done to me, and strick me down my dad recieved a caution, fhe raped me, and done everything you could possible think off,

i was returned to my family home the same night the abuse was out, with my parents, the abuse did stop, but wot my dad done to me has destroyed my life, i never heard that i could of got compensation for wot he done to me, i think i deserve some sort of compensation for wot he done to me, and more to the fact the POLICE and SOCIAL SERVICES let me down,