Having worked with those who claim to be falsely accused of sexual abuse (many are telling the truth and some are not) I have to say that some partners of the genuinely falsely accused have actually been victims of sexual abuse as a child and/or as an adult.
However, in the same way - when somebody first contacts me to say that they are or have been falsely accused of some sort of sexual offence - I do not automatically believe them. it takes me some time to sort the "wheat from the chaff".
In the same way - I come across some people claiming to have been raped/sexually abused, and again I do not automatically believe each and every one.
Not everybody tells the truth about every thing.
Having had my own experiences of certain things in life which I will not go into on this public forum, I am in a position to weigh up certain claims, from both those who protest their innocence of allegations of sexual offences and those who say (or think) that they have been sexually abused.
I work for a solicitor in criminal defence and I get to see paperwork which includes important evidence that the jury did not get to see/hear for one reason or another.
Yes I agree that being raped is a physical sometimes violent act of control against the will of the victim. I can also see that being falsely accused of such a crime can have the same sort of reactions in people in that some will kill themselves rather than go to prison for something so heinous.
I have seen the families/wives/partners of completely innocent men go to pieces when their men have gone to prison and labelled for life as a pervert, when they have been falsely accused of a crime that has never happened. I have heard nightmare accounts of physical, sexual and mental abuse some of these (innocent) guys are subjected to while they are in prison.
Mental torture can cause physical pain. Pain is pain. The pain is equal. It is not a competition.
The two sides can co-exist on the same forum providing there is equal respect for both sides. I know that the two "sides" can co-exist because of my own experiences. I have been on both sides of this mucky coin.
However, in the same way - when somebody first contacts me to say that they are or have been falsely accused of some sort of sexual offence - I do not automatically believe them. it takes me some time to sort the "wheat from the chaff".
In the same way - I come across some people claiming to have been raped/sexually abused, and again I do not automatically believe each and every one.
Not everybody tells the truth about every thing.
Having had my own experiences of certain things in life which I will not go into on this public forum, I am in a position to weigh up certain claims, from both those who protest their innocence of allegations of sexual offences and those who say (or think) that they have been sexually abused.
I work for a solicitor in criminal defence and I get to see paperwork which includes important evidence that the jury did not get to see/hear for one reason or another.
Yes I agree that being raped is a physical sometimes violent act of control against the will of the victim. I can also see that being falsely accused of such a crime can have the same sort of reactions in people in that some will kill themselves rather than go to prison for something so heinous.
I have seen the families/wives/partners of completely innocent men go to pieces when their men have gone to prison and labelled for life as a pervert, when they have been falsely accused of a crime that has never happened. I have heard nightmare accounts of physical, sexual and mental abuse some of these (innocent) guys are subjected to while they are in prison.
Mental torture can cause physical pain. Pain is pain. The pain is equal. It is not a competition.
The two sides can co-exist on the same forum providing there is equal respect for both sides. I know that the two "sides" can co-exist because of my own experiences. I have been on both sides of this mucky coin.
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