I've started a new thread, simply because I don't want an OP's original to be hijacked and another furore break out!
What I was saying on there is this- if you have to ask the question "Was I raped?" I would cautiously suggest the answer is "No". In the current sexual climate all waters are now muddied. If someone else SUGGESTS you have been raped that is dangerous territory imho.
It was in reply to a woman whose husband had sexual practices she did not like and he was also quite a control freak it would appear.
I was once in a relationship like this but I never felt it was rape- at times I was more than happy to have sex with him so to me it was something we didn't agree on.
I left after 20 years as I could no longer deal with his controlling attitude which became increasingly aggressive.
I admit I'm pushing 60 and was brought up in a more sexually strict society in some ways. Back then it was acknowledged that it was normal for teens at puberty to have same sex crushes. All it meant was that they were same sex crushes- now we have all this teenage angst about sexuality - again has society's attitude made it a problem where there wasn't one?
Was I raped?? It's like asking "Did I have an orgasm? Ladies- surely you would know??
What I was saying on there is this- if you have to ask the question "Was I raped?" I would cautiously suggest the answer is "No". In the current sexual climate all waters are now muddied. If someone else SUGGESTS you have been raped that is dangerous territory imho.
It was in reply to a woman whose husband had sexual practices she did not like and he was also quite a control freak it would appear.
I was once in a relationship like this but I never felt it was rape- at times I was more than happy to have sex with him so to me it was something we didn't agree on.
I left after 20 years as I could no longer deal with his controlling attitude which became increasingly aggressive.
I admit I'm pushing 60 and was brought up in a more sexually strict society in some ways. Back then it was acknowledged that it was normal for teens at puberty to have same sex crushes. All it meant was that they were same sex crushes- now we have all this teenage angst about sexuality - again has society's attitude made it a problem where there wasn't one?
Was I raped?? It's like asking "Did I have an orgasm? Ladies- surely you would know??
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