Nineteen months ago, I was 14 and a guy of 24 approached me on a bus. He was very nice and asked for my number, to which I happily gave him. Soon before this incident, I had moved cities and I had no friends at that time - I was very lonely. I seeked attention and the company of someone who liked me.
We decided to go on a date to the cinema and he asked me back to his flat - I refused. The following day we decided to meet up and he took me back to his flat offering to pay my bus fare, I expected his flat to be huge so we could just chill and watch television. I expected nothing from him. All I wanted was company and love. We entered his 'flat' which turned out to be an appartment - a bed and a bathroom we could hardly move. From that moment on I felt awkward. He offered me a can of Fosters, I must of drunk 1/4 of that can if that. He kept on touching me with affection and then kept dragging me towards him asking for a kiss - I refused. He called me boring.
Time flew by, it was late by now. I had no bus fare as my day ticket expired after 00:00. He offered no money to pay my bus fare. He then went into kiss me - I kissed him, it was not that bad, it's only kissing afterall. Then he got too much and asked if I wanted sex. I said no I am not ready and with that he got under the covers and went to sleep "Well if you don't want sex, I might as well go to sleep"... He turned the lamp off. I was sat in the darkness, my brother rang me to see where I was, I told him I was sleeping out at my new friend's house from school. I had to stay now.
I did a stupid thing, I made touchy gestures which gave him the go-ahead to have sex. I just did not want to be sat in the dark alone and having sex meant he was awake.
After that night I told a friend in secrecy what happened. She did not keep this secret and it is now circulating around school 19 months later. School is a living nightmare for me. I am a changed person, I have learnt from my mistake.
I just don't know what this is, is this completely my fault for giving him my consent? I just don't know. To this day I regret what I did and it hurts me when I still get the rumours back in my face.
Thank you for taking time to read this thread.
Sarah.
We decided to go on a date to the cinema and he asked me back to his flat - I refused. The following day we decided to meet up and he took me back to his flat offering to pay my bus fare, I expected his flat to be huge so we could just chill and watch television. I expected nothing from him. All I wanted was company and love. We entered his 'flat' which turned out to be an appartment - a bed and a bathroom we could hardly move. From that moment on I felt awkward. He offered me a can of Fosters, I must of drunk 1/4 of that can if that. He kept on touching me with affection and then kept dragging me towards him asking for a kiss - I refused. He called me boring.
Time flew by, it was late by now. I had no bus fare as my day ticket expired after 00:00. He offered no money to pay my bus fare. He then went into kiss me - I kissed him, it was not that bad, it's only kissing afterall. Then he got too much and asked if I wanted sex. I said no I am not ready and with that he got under the covers and went to sleep "Well if you don't want sex, I might as well go to sleep"... He turned the lamp off. I was sat in the darkness, my brother rang me to see where I was, I told him I was sleeping out at my new friend's house from school. I had to stay now.
I did a stupid thing, I made touchy gestures which gave him the go-ahead to have sex. I just did not want to be sat in the dark alone and having sex meant he was awake.
After that night I told a friend in secrecy what happened. She did not keep this secret and it is now circulating around school 19 months later. School is a living nightmare for me. I am a changed person, I have learnt from my mistake.
I just don't know what this is, is this completely my fault for giving him my consent? I just don't know. To this day I regret what I did and it hurts me when I still get the rumours back in my face.
Thank you for taking time to read this thread.
Sarah.
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