My wife told me that she was raped when she was 13 years old. I have always been very sympathetic and understanding. However, a few nights ago, we were watching the news or some program about rape, when the topic of rape and victims' sexual arousal during the rape soon arose.
Now, I understand that if sensitive parts of the body are massaged, etc. that sexual/physical arousal can occur even if the mind is saying "no way." But my wife was forced to perform oral sex. The 16-year-old boy who raped her never penetrated her and never massaged her vagina or breasts. Yet, my wife said that she became aroused, her vagina became lubricated and her nipples hardened.
Please understand, I do not want to offend anyone, and I holeheartedly sympathize with anyone who has been raped in anyu fashion. That being said, I would be lying if I said I didn't I find my wife's story a bit fishy. Can anyone who REALLY KNOWS about the psychology of rape tell me if her arousal should have happened?
I mean, if someone forced something into my mouth that i did not want to be there, even if that something was a breast or vagina, I can tell you that I most certainly would not become aroused and get an erection. If someone was massaging my penus that would be another story, but oral only...????
This is really bugging me and I can't exactly talk to my wife about it. I guess what I want to know is if my wife is being honest with me/herself when she says she was raped?
Please, I mean no offense, I just have never been educated about rape and am finding this a bit overwhealming. Please help me understand all of this.
Now, I understand that if sensitive parts of the body are massaged, etc. that sexual/physical arousal can occur even if the mind is saying "no way." But my wife was forced to perform oral sex. The 16-year-old boy who raped her never penetrated her and never massaged her vagina or breasts. Yet, my wife said that she became aroused, her vagina became lubricated and her nipples hardened.
Please understand, I do not want to offend anyone, and I holeheartedly sympathize with anyone who has been raped in anyu fashion. That being said, I would be lying if I said I didn't I find my wife's story a bit fishy. Can anyone who REALLY KNOWS about the psychology of rape tell me if her arousal should have happened?
I mean, if someone forced something into my mouth that i did not want to be there, even if that something was a breast or vagina, I can tell you that I most certainly would not become aroused and get an erection. If someone was massaging my penus that would be another story, but oral only...????
This is really bugging me and I can't exactly talk to my wife about it. I guess what I want to know is if my wife is being honest with me/herself when she says she was raped?
Please, I mean no offense, I just have never been educated about rape and am finding this a bit overwhealming. Please help me understand all of this.
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