my first sexual experience was being raped. as you can imagine this really messed up my opinion of sex. i thought that was almost normal. i had no respect for my body. it took me a long time to learn to say no (i still find it hard) because i'd rather believe i was in control than risk the person ignoring my wish and doing it anyway.
i became quite promiscuous about a year (almost exactly a year) after it happened. i guess it was about trying to reclaim my body and create new memories of sex. ive had two real relationships but the first was a disaster. he was emotionally controlling, verging on abusive (or perhaps i am still in denial), would call me all sorts of horrendous names and make me feel worthless, was physically violent on occasions, i could never say no to sex with him and then he either attemped to rape me or did (i was asleep after drinking too much and woke up naked). his defence was that he couldnt get it up so it was ok!
i finally met a guy who was lovely. supported me through both court cases. understood when i couldn't have sex or if i had flashbacks during sex. he was truly an amazing guy but my feelings changed. perhaps all the drama of court and the realisation that the system doesnt work has made me cynical and not the person i used to be so thats why the relationship fell apart, or perhaps i'm just running away because its scary cos i'm not used to someone being nothing but caring and respectful.
now i'm just confused. i don't want to be on my own cos i must have USE ME written on my head. i don't want to be on my own cos i'm lonely but too much has happened. my ex found videos someone had taken of me on the internet. i should go mad at the man involved but i can't. it just seems like everyone knows i'm stupid and naive and takes advantage. but i just let them because i expect it now.
ive lost all self respect and don't know how to live anymore. i am fed up of being vulnerable and getting walked all over but i don't have the strength to fight back. sex has already been ruined for me so i don't even expect anything else. but if i keep expecting people to treat me like **** then they will. im a self-fulfilling prophecy.
ok, this is a ramble. i'll shut up. no one needs to reply. i'm just in a weird mood.
i became quite promiscuous about a year (almost exactly a year) after it happened. i guess it was about trying to reclaim my body and create new memories of sex. ive had two real relationships but the first was a disaster. he was emotionally controlling, verging on abusive (or perhaps i am still in denial), would call me all sorts of horrendous names and make me feel worthless, was physically violent on occasions, i could never say no to sex with him and then he either attemped to rape me or did (i was asleep after drinking too much and woke up naked). his defence was that he couldnt get it up so it was ok!
i finally met a guy who was lovely. supported me through both court cases. understood when i couldn't have sex or if i had flashbacks during sex. he was truly an amazing guy but my feelings changed. perhaps all the drama of court and the realisation that the system doesnt work has made me cynical and not the person i used to be so thats why the relationship fell apart, or perhaps i'm just running away because its scary cos i'm not used to someone being nothing but caring and respectful.
now i'm just confused. i don't want to be on my own cos i must have USE ME written on my head. i don't want to be on my own cos i'm lonely but too much has happened. my ex found videos someone had taken of me on the internet. i should go mad at the man involved but i can't. it just seems like everyone knows i'm stupid and naive and takes advantage. but i just let them because i expect it now.
ive lost all self respect and don't know how to live anymore. i am fed up of being vulnerable and getting walked all over but i don't have the strength to fight back. sex has already been ruined for me so i don't even expect anything else. but if i keep expecting people to treat me like **** then they will. im a self-fulfilling prophecy.
ok, this is a ramble. i'll shut up. no one needs to reply. i'm just in a weird mood.
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