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I feel slightly relieved already just to have found this site. I have not discussed my issue with anyone since the ugly situation arose exactly one year ago.
Mine is a complicated one, although there is no police involvement, i almost wish the police were involved so i could have a chance to prove i have done nothing wrong.
Last June, i was 25 at the time, i decided to have it out with my mother to find out why she hadn't spoken to me in 6 months, although, i lived in her house, and why she looked at me with a look of disgust on her face.
After a heated arguement, to which my father & 2 sisters were spectators, my mother stated she had found something out about me that had caused her to hate me.
She then said, to my utter astoishment, that i had raped my girlfriend and she knew about it. I was speachless from hearing this, and while i comprehended what had just been said, my little sister of 4 years junior, went on to give a detailed explaination of how i had forced myself on my girlfriend of 4 years on the previous new years eve. My whole family already knew all the details.
My initial response was to confront my girlfriend as something had obviously been said between her and my sister, and she said that my sister had been asking her initimate questions about our relationship during a conversation that my girlfriend had considered insignificant. Basicly, she had given no indication that rape had ever occured. This was my sisters version of events that the word rape had been used. To give more detail of what exactly happen that new years eve, my girlfriend had already been sick that evening due to too much booze. When in bed together that evening we had sex, but she didn't feel like it as much as me. This is what she told my sister, and my sister told my mum i was a rapist.
Immediately after this i was forced to move out of the family home, and i now have no relationship at all with my family, i have not worked since, and have been declaired bankrupt as a result, and i have not slept a decent night since, with almost my every waking thought being given upto this.
I now live with my girlfriend, the same one, and our relationship is good, although our sex life has greatly suffered as i now find it difficult to be intimate with her, due to my mental state.
My girlfriend has not seen or spoken to any of my family since as she believes this was a ploy by my little sister to split us up.
It is all because of my sister, twisting something my girlfriend has said in a private discussion and then telling my mother and whole family that i raped her.
What can i do? I have not seen a doctor about this due to embarresment. I have not discussed it with any friends for the same reason. I don't have any friends anymore as i have shut myself off from the world. It's like i'm an agrophobic now, afraid to go outside.
I think i need a therapist, but have no idea about how to get one, and have no spare funds to pay for one. This whole incident has completely turned my life upside down, with no sight of reconsiliation with my parents.
Can i report my sister to the police for this false accusation? What would be likely to happen? I've tried to discuss this with my girlfriend, but she wants to just forget it. She does not realise how deeply this has affected me.
How can i clear my name? Of course my girlfriend denies that she has ever been raped. I feel my sister has tried and succeeded to ruin my life. How can i expose her as the visious lier she is.
I feel slightly relieved already just to have found this site. I have not discussed my issue with anyone since the ugly situation arose exactly one year ago.
Mine is a complicated one, although there is no police involvement, i almost wish the police were involved so i could have a chance to prove i have done nothing wrong.
Last June, i was 25 at the time, i decided to have it out with my mother to find out why she hadn't spoken to me in 6 months, although, i lived in her house, and why she looked at me with a look of disgust on her face.
After a heated arguement, to which my father & 2 sisters were spectators, my mother stated she had found something out about me that had caused her to hate me.
She then said, to my utter astoishment, that i had raped my girlfriend and she knew about it. I was speachless from hearing this, and while i comprehended what had just been said, my little sister of 4 years junior, went on to give a detailed explaination of how i had forced myself on my girlfriend of 4 years on the previous new years eve. My whole family already knew all the details.
My initial response was to confront my girlfriend as something had obviously been said between her and my sister, and she said that my sister had been asking her initimate questions about our relationship during a conversation that my girlfriend had considered insignificant. Basicly, she had given no indication that rape had ever occured. This was my sisters version of events that the word rape had been used. To give more detail of what exactly happen that new years eve, my girlfriend had already been sick that evening due to too much booze. When in bed together that evening we had sex, but she didn't feel like it as much as me. This is what she told my sister, and my sister told my mum i was a rapist.
Immediately after this i was forced to move out of the family home, and i now have no relationship at all with my family, i have not worked since, and have been declaired bankrupt as a result, and i have not slept a decent night since, with almost my every waking thought being given upto this.
I now live with my girlfriend, the same one, and our relationship is good, although our sex life has greatly suffered as i now find it difficult to be intimate with her, due to my mental state.
My girlfriend has not seen or spoken to any of my family since as she believes this was a ploy by my little sister to split us up.
It is all because of my sister, twisting something my girlfriend has said in a private discussion and then telling my mother and whole family that i raped her.
What can i do? I have not seen a doctor about this due to embarresment. I have not discussed it with any friends for the same reason. I don't have any friends anymore as i have shut myself off from the world. It's like i'm an agrophobic now, afraid to go outside.
I think i need a therapist, but have no idea about how to get one, and have no spare funds to pay for one. This whole incident has completely turned my life upside down, with no sight of reconsiliation with my parents.
Can i report my sister to the police for this false accusation? What would be likely to happen? I've tried to discuss this with my girlfriend, but she wants to just forget it. She does not realise how deeply this has affected me.
How can i clear my name? Of course my girlfriend denies that she has ever been raped. I feel my sister has tried and succeeded to ruin my life. How can i expose her as the visious lier she is.
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