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Well.. i am 16 and i was at a friends party a few months back. Anyways, this girl had come over and the start of the night, we'd got chatting and pretty much got along, then we went our own ways and went around with other people. We keep bumping into eachother in the night and we'd both had a bit to drink, im not sure about her but i was pretty much sober at this point, maybe tipsy, but she kept coming onto me and then was like "Stop ive got a boyfriend"... i just laughed and walked off and carried on drinking with my friends. Later on in the night i was drunk and having a laugh with my friends when she wanders over again and comes onto me, me being drunk i dont care about the state shes in and we end up kissing. As the night goes on it gets a bit more serious, even though id seen her kissing about 3 other guys at this point, i really didnt care. Ends up at the end of the night, after a hour or so of fooling around, we had unprotected sex. I wake up in the morning with her and we have a small chat and she fills me in basically on what had happened, i knew we'd had sex, although i didnt know wether id used a condom or not (turns out my friend had taken the one i had in my wallet). So basically, she went off in the morning, being off with me i could guess why. After alot of annoying people blaming me for the nights actions because it was unprotected, i went off and home.
Anyways, i find her email out online and i start messaging her asking her if shes ok. A couple days later i get a reply, so you know, i ask her if shes taken the pill, not to cover myself, but just to make sure shes taking the precautions, and telling her id help her out and all that. Basically i get alot of abuse back off her.. and then off her friends, saying im a twat etc, and that i should go die and that. I ignore this and stop messaging her, thinking she needs some time to get over things. Couple days later i ask her what her situation is because, i was starting to get worried shed be stupid and not take the pill as a way of getting back to me, although, i got told its none of my business by her friend again.
I find out from a good friend of mine, whos a good mate of hers, shes taken it, so i get to worry less about things. A couple days after this i get alot of abuse saying ive been taking the piss out of her, and that i think the whole situation is funny (a couple guys at college making jokes about it and me seen smiling), and after the abuse stopped i get to go back to normal, and carry on.
A couple more days after this, a little argument happens, because id basically had enough of the abuse, because id done nothing wrong, i was then accused of not being as drunk and taking advantage of her, and accused of rape.
After that basically it became public knowledge that id apparently raped her, and people believed her over me because shes well liked as it were, and i had a rough month or two where one of my best mates so i thought, wouldnt speak to me and eventually it died down, although im still refered to as a rapist by some people when they think i cant hear.
The whole situation never went to the police, but im wondering even though its still two months on, if i should do anything because, my parents dont know about this, and im wondering if i should take action or not, because i want to clear my name, but dont know if its worth the hassle and costs, since i am jobless and only a student.
The whole situation i still believe was to scare me into going
Anyways, i find her email out online and i start messaging her asking her if shes ok. A couple days later i get a reply, so you know, i ask her if shes taken the pill, not to cover myself, but just to make sure shes taking the precautions, and telling her id help her out and all that. Basically i get alot of abuse back off her.. and then off her friends, saying im a twat etc, and that i should go die and that. I ignore this and stop messaging her, thinking she needs some time to get over things. Couple days later i ask her what her situation is because, i was starting to get worried shed be stupid and not take the pill as a way of getting back to me, although, i got told its none of my business by her friend again.
I find out from a good friend of mine, whos a good mate of hers, shes taken it, so i get to worry less about things. A couple days after this i get alot of abuse saying ive been taking the piss out of her, and that i think the whole situation is funny (a couple guys at college making jokes about it and me seen smiling), and after the abuse stopped i get to go back to normal, and carry on.
A couple more days after this, a little argument happens, because id basically had enough of the abuse, because id done nothing wrong, i was then accused of not being as drunk and taking advantage of her, and accused of rape.
After that basically it became public knowledge that id apparently raped her, and people believed her over me because shes well liked as it were, and i had a rough month or two where one of my best mates so i thought, wouldnt speak to me and eventually it died down, although im still refered to as a rapist by some people when they think i cant hear.
The whole situation never went to the police, but im wondering even though its still two months on, if i should do anything because, my parents dont know about this, and im wondering if i should take action or not, because i want to clear my name, but dont know if its worth the hassle and costs, since i am jobless and only a student.
The whole situation i still believe was to scare me into going