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Hello all,
I am here because I have heard that I am being accused of raping someone I had sex with almost three years ago - I am unsure of the date. I am 22 and in my final year at university, I have my finals coming up in under two weeks and I cannot believe this is happening to me.
My case:
I heard through my best friend that a mutual friend of ours had been confided in by this girl that she believed I had raped her at an evening we were all present at two or three years ago. We were all at another friends house with a few other people, the host had made some of his own GHB which I believe we all took. I took quite alot of it which means my memory of the night is seriously patchy (which makes this whole thing even scarier because I genuinely can't remember bits). Basically we were having a bit of a party and it ended up later in the night that the girl and myself were in a bedroom together. I have no real recollection of what happened earlier other than taking the drug and talking to the host, who was seriously intoxicated. My best friend says he remembers the girl and myself flirting, and I remember talking to her too.
We were talking and she suggested that we take all of our clothes off (I believe she has claimed I took her clothes off). I remember thinking that I could barely see at this point and my vision was all red. I THINK but I can't definately remember that we undressed each other and started kissing and had mutual oral sex. She then got really sick and I remember clearly helping her be sick whilst we we were both just in our pants. Another guy walked in and was helping but I told him to leave because I thought it would distress the girl as she was partially undressed. We went back to bed and after a while we started having sex, quite quickly she said that it was hurting so we stopped and went to sleep. In the morning because I remembered we'd had unprotected sex I told her that I thought I didn't have anything and asked her if she knew if she was ok - she said yes. Then we shared a taxi or lift which dropped her off at her house before I went home. I may have seen her around in pubs since but i've not really spoken to her since that night.
Now I hear that she has been having counselling about it and has told her parents she was raped and confided in this mutual friend. I do not know whther this is going to go any further but I have been in shock since my best mate told me, I feel sick all the time and I cannot concentrate on preparing for my exams. Any advice anyone could give would be so helpful. It was such a messy night but I can't believe that anyone would think that forcing someone to do something against their will would turn me on. Reading the stories on here has only made me more scared, is there anything I can do? Would talking to her help? I am willing to do anything I just can't stand that someone would think I am capable of such an awful act.
Many thanks.
I am here because I have heard that I am being accused of raping someone I had sex with almost three years ago - I am unsure of the date. I am 22 and in my final year at university, I have my finals coming up in under two weeks and I cannot believe this is happening to me.
My case:
I heard through my best friend that a mutual friend of ours had been confided in by this girl that she believed I had raped her at an evening we were all present at two or three years ago. We were all at another friends house with a few other people, the host had made some of his own GHB which I believe we all took. I took quite alot of it which means my memory of the night is seriously patchy (which makes this whole thing even scarier because I genuinely can't remember bits). Basically we were having a bit of a party and it ended up later in the night that the girl and myself were in a bedroom together. I have no real recollection of what happened earlier other than taking the drug and talking to the host, who was seriously intoxicated. My best friend says he remembers the girl and myself flirting, and I remember talking to her too.
We were talking and she suggested that we take all of our clothes off (I believe she has claimed I took her clothes off). I remember thinking that I could barely see at this point and my vision was all red. I THINK but I can't definately remember that we undressed each other and started kissing and had mutual oral sex. She then got really sick and I remember clearly helping her be sick whilst we we were both just in our pants. Another guy walked in and was helping but I told him to leave because I thought it would distress the girl as she was partially undressed. We went back to bed and after a while we started having sex, quite quickly she said that it was hurting so we stopped and went to sleep. In the morning because I remembered we'd had unprotected sex I told her that I thought I didn't have anything and asked her if she knew if she was ok - she said yes. Then we shared a taxi or lift which dropped her off at her house before I went home. I may have seen her around in pubs since but i've not really spoken to her since that night.
Now I hear that she has been having counselling about it and has told her parents she was raped and confided in this mutual friend. I do not know whther this is going to go any further but I have been in shock since my best mate told me, I feel sick all the time and I cannot concentrate on preparing for my exams. Any advice anyone could give would be so helpful. It was such a messy night but I can't believe that anyone would think that forcing someone to do something against their will would turn me on. Reading the stories on here has only made me more scared, is there anything I can do? Would talking to her help? I am willing to do anything I just can't stand that someone would think I am capable of such an awful act.
Many thanks.
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