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    So yesturday i received a phone call from an old friend who ive not had contact with for about 10 years. He told me the police was wanting to talk to me about an incident that happened back in 2007.

    He told me some of the details about what the police have phoned up about and said he remebers nothing untoward taking place.

    The story goes as follows. Me and My Mate have gone into town for a few drinks, knowing we are going to meet up with his GF and one of her mates. We all have alot to drink, have a laugh and get one very well. We all then agreed to go back to my mates house, Which we all did and ended up in his bedroom.

    We carry on drinking in the bedroom then decided to go to bed, My self and friend on the floor and My mate and his GF on the bed. I dont rember the exacts on how how but we ended up having sex on the floor, and they were having sex on the bed. During this we were all laughing at the situation we found our selfs in. Eventually we all ended up in the same bed. But there was no sexual contact between myself and the other couple.

    Eventually we all fell alseep and woke up the next morning at around 5am, my mate had work so we all jumped into a taxi and were all dropped off at our houses.

    I only ever saw the girl one more time in a bar a few weeks later, we never spoke then and still havnt to this day.

    I have already contacted the police and have a volentary interview next week regarding the allegation. I already have sourced a solicitor and she is now in contact with the police. I know i shouldnt have in retrospect but spoken to the other 2 people who were in the room at the time and they know nothing took place that was anything regarding assault, and they have both spoken to the police over the phone.

    I cannot put into words how stressed i feel and sick to the stomach i am. I now have a Wife a good job, house and all that come with it. I'm so fearful that i will lose it all

  • #2
    Hi

    I am sorry you are going through this, there are a lot of people who have went through the same thing. If the police are already involved then the best thing is to get yourself a solicitor and discuss the matter. There is a list on here of solicitors who specialised in defending rape cases. http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...ight=solicitor . Once you speak to them you can arrange to speak to the police via them.

    It may take some time to deal with this matter and you need to look after yourself and you mental health. Don't contact you accuser but you can have a look at her Facebook page to see if it say anything. Don't message her.

    write down what you remember. Ask your friend to write down what they remember.

    But first things first is solicitor.

    Pond31

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    • #3
      I dont even know the FA's last name so there no chance i can even look her up if i wanted too, and quiet honestly i dont think reconise her.

      I have a solicitor sorted out and she has already spoken to the OIC last night, but i've had no feed back from her yet.

      I just want some information.

      How often is it appropriate to contact a solicitor?

      Will my phone and Pc be siezed, even tho it happened 13 years ago and i've never had contact with her?

      Cheers

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Chipmunk View Post
        I dont even know the FA's last name so there no chance i can even look her up if i wanted too, and quiet honestly i dont think reconise her.

        I have a solicitor sorted out and she has already spoken to the OIC last night, but i've had no feed back from her yet.

        I just want some information.

        How often is it appropriate to contact a solicitor?

        Will my phone and Pc be siezed, even tho it happened 13 years ago and i've never had contact with her?

        Cheers
        I am sorry to say that you will have to learn to be patient about this matter, getting information or a response from solicitors or OIC make take time. It is always right to contact a solicitor and is a worthwhile investment. I do not know if your phone or PC will be seized but I would back them up just in case. The police seized my PC months after I was arrested, using a bogus excuse to get a warrant, they claimed I was targeting vulnerable women on dating sites.

        The police have used peoples web searches against them, example being that someone search for BDSM Porn, so they must of course be a deviant sex fiend. So if you want to you can wipe your HDD by using software such as DBAN where you boot from a USB and overwrite your HDD.

        The police have to look into cases but hopefully they will do it quickly.

        Pond31

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        • #5
          Most of these post-coital 'withdrawal of consent' cases are of the 'she said' 'he said' type as there usually are no witnesses to the incident leading to the allegation.

          You have two witnesses who will confirm that the encounter was consensual and no force was used. However (and there's always a 'but'!) I expect that the FA will claim that she was too intoxicated to give consent; this of course is subjective and you may wish to consider how to respond if this comes up in your interview.

          Edit to add that if the police thought that your phone or PC would be useful to them, you would already have had an early morning 'knock on the door' to collect them! However if you need them for work Pond's advice regarding back-up is very sound.
          Last edited by Casehardened; 1 February 2020, 06:32 AM.
          'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger'

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