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Hey all,
I have been following these threads for a few weeks now as I too have found myself being falsely accused of something that I have not done. These threads have been an absolute God send in helping me through this, so thank you so much for creating this forum for those of us who have no idea on what to do or how to cope.
Many years ago my ex-girlfriend was raped and it absolutely destroyed her. I helped her and supported her through the aftermath, so for me, to be accused of something like this was just unbelievable. The night that I found out that the police wanted to speak to me, I was suicidal.
From this website I found out about some solicitors near me in the North West that specialise in false accusations and in the end I chose to use Louise Barrow of Simpson Heald Pearson, in Wigan
I cannot emphasise enough how amazing she has been. She spoke to me a few times on the phone before my interview which helped me a lot and also corresponded via email. In the days leading up to my interview I kept replaying the night in my head and I wrote down the entire series of events of the evening in question; this helped me to get everything in order. I also found that writing it out reminded me of the little things which seemed innocuous at the time, but was actually useful evidence.
All of that advice I gleaned from here and was invaluable.
After the FA's accusation she was obviously interviewed; then there was an independent witness that was interviewed. I had my interview yesterday which took a couple of hours but before the interview my solicitor had a few questions for the interviewing officer as the accusation/disclosure seemed a bit off. I wont go into details so that's all I can say really, but according to the officer, the FA's story is completely different to the independent witness.
My solicitor seems to think that this will be thrown out soon and the police officer even hinted at it too after the interview. The officer was extremely nice to me as I nearly broke down at one point during the interview but I think that she believed me. Afterwards she implied that this will be gone off her system soon and that I shouldn't worry. She said she has to go back to the FA and go over everything again though. Hopefully the FA will come clean but even if she doubles down on the accusation and this goes to court, she hasn't been truthful and open so I think that her story will get torn apart.
Since the interview I feel that a weight has been lifted. I am usually extremely pessimistic so if I'm thinking positive, then I know there's good reason! It's not over yet, but I wanted to share my story for a few of reasons -
1. Around 8-10 years ago I suffered from mental health issues and used to self harm. I never thought I would ever be in a position like that mentally ever again as I am such a strong person now. Or at least that's what I thought. Because this is such a sensitive subject for me, I was triggered and I found myself suicidal when I found out about the accusation. I feel fine now all things considered, but I can't believe that I was contemplating suicide just a few weeks ago because of a lie. So point one, is please do not act on any suicidal thoughts or feelings especially if you know you've done nothing wrong! This leads me to point two...
2. Try not to think the worst. You don't know until you know. I assumed so much which was just making everything worse in my head. I know it's easier said than done but just try.
3. If you can get support (friends or family), then make the most of it. On the day I was at my worst, a friend came to see me to make sure I wasn't acting on my thoughts. Although I didn't want her there at first, she got me through that day.
3. If you need a solicitor in the North West - Louise Barrow of Simpson Heald Pearson, in Wigan
4. I wanted to thank the people on here offering advice and help, the creators and also to those of you who have shared your trials and tribulations.
Good luck to each and everyone of you facing this. Hopefully the next time you hear from me is when I receive the NFA!
I have been following these threads for a few weeks now as I too have found myself being falsely accused of something that I have not done. These threads have been an absolute God send in helping me through this, so thank you so much for creating this forum for those of us who have no idea on what to do or how to cope.
Many years ago my ex-girlfriend was raped and it absolutely destroyed her. I helped her and supported her through the aftermath, so for me, to be accused of something like this was just unbelievable. The night that I found out that the police wanted to speak to me, I was suicidal.
From this website I found out about some solicitors near me in the North West that specialise in false accusations and in the end I chose to use Louise Barrow of Simpson Heald Pearson, in Wigan
I cannot emphasise enough how amazing she has been. She spoke to me a few times on the phone before my interview which helped me a lot and also corresponded via email. In the days leading up to my interview I kept replaying the night in my head and I wrote down the entire series of events of the evening in question; this helped me to get everything in order. I also found that writing it out reminded me of the little things which seemed innocuous at the time, but was actually useful evidence.
All of that advice I gleaned from here and was invaluable.
After the FA's accusation she was obviously interviewed; then there was an independent witness that was interviewed. I had my interview yesterday which took a couple of hours but before the interview my solicitor had a few questions for the interviewing officer as the accusation/disclosure seemed a bit off. I wont go into details so that's all I can say really, but according to the officer, the FA's story is completely different to the independent witness.
My solicitor seems to think that this will be thrown out soon and the police officer even hinted at it too after the interview. The officer was extremely nice to me as I nearly broke down at one point during the interview but I think that she believed me. Afterwards she implied that this will be gone off her system soon and that I shouldn't worry. She said she has to go back to the FA and go over everything again though. Hopefully the FA will come clean but even if she doubles down on the accusation and this goes to court, she hasn't been truthful and open so I think that her story will get torn apart.
Since the interview I feel that a weight has been lifted. I am usually extremely pessimistic so if I'm thinking positive, then I know there's good reason! It's not over yet, but I wanted to share my story for a few of reasons -
1. Around 8-10 years ago I suffered from mental health issues and used to self harm. I never thought I would ever be in a position like that mentally ever again as I am such a strong person now. Or at least that's what I thought. Because this is such a sensitive subject for me, I was triggered and I found myself suicidal when I found out about the accusation. I feel fine now all things considered, but I can't believe that I was contemplating suicide just a few weeks ago because of a lie. So point one, is please do not act on any suicidal thoughts or feelings especially if you know you've done nothing wrong! This leads me to point two...
2. Try not to think the worst. You don't know until you know. I assumed so much which was just making everything worse in my head. I know it's easier said than done but just try.
3. If you can get support (friends or family), then make the most of it. On the day I was at my worst, a friend came to see me to make sure I wasn't acting on my thoughts. Although I didn't want her there at first, she got me through that day.
3. If you need a solicitor in the North West - Louise Barrow of Simpson Heald Pearson, in Wigan
4. I wanted to thank the people on here offering advice and help, the creators and also to those of you who have shared your trials and tribulations.
Good luck to each and everyone of you facing this. Hopefully the next time you hear from me is when I receive the NFA!
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