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My Story - NFA
I'm here to tell my story for those who may be going through a difficult time right now. I just want to say there is always hope that the right decision is made!
One day, I was in work and I received a phone call to go to my local police station. I was shocked. I thought what could this possibly be? I drove to my police station to be told I was being arrested for RAPE!. All I can explain was I was in pure shock. I went white and I just froze completely. The officer put me in a holding cell to where I was then taken to the desk and was told what rape I was being arrested for. I was then put in a proper cell where I laid on the 'hard bed' whilst I waited for my solicitor. It took about and hour to 2 hours for my solicitor to arrive (which was just a random one they choose) My solicitor read out my accusers statement and I jut couldn't believe it. This was my EX partner who was accusing me of rape. None of it added up I couldn't believe she had done this to me. I was being falsely accused of something I didn't do.
I honestly felt like my life was over. Thoughts running in my head wondering what has she got on me? And I couldn't make sense of it because I didn't do anything. But then the thoughts kept coming back and doubting myself even when I knew that I hadn't done what I was being accused of. I thought she must have something or framing me- and I can reassure you that these thoughts are normal. I told my solicitor I didn't do this. I didn't do anything that she is saying. I was then taken back to a cell. 30 minutes later I was taken into a room and interviewed. The police asked me numerous of questions which I replied. I didn't do it. everything was consent. We were together and our relationship was fine until last minute we broke up because we just didn't get along anymore.
But I did not do what she is saying. I was then allowed to leave the police station where I was put on bail. I can assure you that the bail period doesn't get easier. It's a long wait. For at least 5 months I was put on bail where I would attend the station and be told the CPS haven't made a decision. It felt like the world on my shoulders day in day out. I would hear police sirens and I would panic thinking there coming for me. I just didn't know what to do. I kept contacting my solicitor - I forgot to mention that I did change my solicitor to a local one that specialised in rape not the one that was given to me on the day. And they told me not to worry and we couldn't do anything until the CPS have made a decision. On my 6th last bail 3 weeks later I received a call to say the CPS have made a decision. The decision was NFA
and the correct decision was made . I was over the moon and I was so relieved and I felt a massive weight come off my shoulders.
But still to this day, I cant understand and I don't think I ever will. Why did she accuse me of something so crazy that I didn't do. But I can reassure everyone now, Please don't panic and please stay strong. Get a great support network and a great solicitor. Remember. Until the CPS make a decision you don't need to be paying any money to a Solicitor. The best thing for yourself to do is relax and as hard as it sounds try to occupy yourself. And then when you're ready start writing events down and any evidence that will back you up, because if you don't get NFA then you have something to work with, with your solicitor . I was told that the majority of cases get NFA and some don't, Just keep hope stay calm and relaxed. 5 months seemed hell for me at the time but I can re-assure that the CPS are not against you and majority of the times can tell when something doesn't add up and in my case it didn't, none of what I was accused of added up.
If anyone needs a chat. Just email me and I'll be happy to answer any questions
I apologise in advance if this is in the wrong section
Take care
God Bless
One day, I was in work and I received a phone call to go to my local police station. I was shocked. I thought what could this possibly be? I drove to my police station to be told I was being arrested for RAPE!. All I can explain was I was in pure shock. I went white and I just froze completely. The officer put me in a holding cell to where I was then taken to the desk and was told what rape I was being arrested for. I was then put in a proper cell where I laid on the 'hard bed' whilst I waited for my solicitor. It took about and hour to 2 hours for my solicitor to arrive (which was just a random one they choose) My solicitor read out my accusers statement and I jut couldn't believe it. This was my EX partner who was accusing me of rape. None of it added up I couldn't believe she had done this to me. I was being falsely accused of something I didn't do.
I honestly felt like my life was over. Thoughts running in my head wondering what has she got on me? And I couldn't make sense of it because I didn't do anything. But then the thoughts kept coming back and doubting myself even when I knew that I hadn't done what I was being accused of. I thought she must have something or framing me- and I can reassure you that these thoughts are normal. I told my solicitor I didn't do this. I didn't do anything that she is saying. I was then taken back to a cell. 30 minutes later I was taken into a room and interviewed. The police asked me numerous of questions which I replied. I didn't do it. everything was consent. We were together and our relationship was fine until last minute we broke up because we just didn't get along anymore.
But I did not do what she is saying. I was then allowed to leave the police station where I was put on bail. I can assure you that the bail period doesn't get easier. It's a long wait. For at least 5 months I was put on bail where I would attend the station and be told the CPS haven't made a decision. It felt like the world on my shoulders day in day out. I would hear police sirens and I would panic thinking there coming for me. I just didn't know what to do. I kept contacting my solicitor - I forgot to mention that I did change my solicitor to a local one that specialised in rape not the one that was given to me on the day. And they told me not to worry and we couldn't do anything until the CPS have made a decision. On my 6th last bail 3 weeks later I received a call to say the CPS have made a decision. The decision was NFA
and the correct decision was made . I was over the moon and I was so relieved and I felt a massive weight come off my shoulders. But still to this day, I cant understand and I don't think I ever will. Why did she accuse me of something so crazy that I didn't do. But I can reassure everyone now, Please don't panic and please stay strong. Get a great support network and a great solicitor. Remember. Until the CPS make a decision you don't need to be paying any money to a Solicitor. The best thing for yourself to do is relax and as hard as it sounds try to occupy yourself. And then when you're ready start writing events down and any evidence that will back you up, because if you don't get NFA then you have something to work with, with your solicitor . I was told that the majority of cases get NFA and some don't, Just keep hope stay calm and relaxed. 5 months seemed hell for me at the time but I can re-assure that the CPS are not against you and majority of the times can tell when something doesn't add up and in my case it didn't, none of what I was accused of added up.
If anyone needs a chat. Just email me and I'll be happy to answer any questions
I apologise in advance if this is in the wrong section
Take care
God Bless
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