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Falsely Aucused??
Dear, Members of daftmoo.org.uk
On the 04/11/2018 I was out clubbing in my local town on a Saturday evening with a friend I get public transport with on weekly basis. I was approached by a young man named (***********) who I know as I always see him clubbing and have the friends that I associate with myself and him too. He came up to me and said the following “ I need to speak to you about something I was told by one of my friends you raped (*********). I’m asking you because my mate told me and I think its disgusting”. I know its horrible but I thought I would ask you about it or I was going ****ing knock you out tonight”.
(This guy was drunk mumbling his words and not making a great deal of sense but I could catch on to what he saying to me).
My Response:
“Well I don’t know why your friend is making up these false claims when this never happened and also it’s the first I’ve heard of it”. “There’s nothing I can say towards you but that’s isn’t true its all bunch of ****”.
His Response:
“I believe you mate I just wanted to ask you because I didn’t think it was you”. “ I know your good lad plus if you did something like that you wouldn’t be out clubbing and you sure would be hiding from everyone”. It's now been 1 month since this conversation.
CONVERSATION BETWEEN THE TWO OF US IS OVER.
His friend was an old mate of mine who I used hang out with a lot and go clubbing with regular. After hearing this I was very angry at the time as I had been drinking myself at the time. This person who made these statements is normally out clubbing weekly so I went to look for him to confront him and fight him. Unfortunately and thank goodness, I didn't find him, but I saw few of his mates who mates who were also my mates (not close mates just people I go out with clubbing or hang out when we’re out) and they asked why I'm looking for the person in question and I said ”his telling people I raped (************) one of his mates said I've heard that as well myself. Then I spoke to them about how there night was going etc they wanted me to stay out but I told them I have work the next day so I went home
LEFT THE NIGHT CLUB, CONVERSATION OVER
INFORMATION ABOUT ME &THE WOMAN IN QUESTION
•Known each other for years, have friends who hang out together
•Gone clubbing together numerous times with friends
•Always have been friends nothing more
•Used to hang out a fair bit
•Spoke on social media every now and again
•three months after sleeping with me message me on Instagram saying “have you been tested better not have anything” she deleted her Instagram so no way I can get these messages
CLUBBING TOGETHER & HAVING SEX
•We were out clubbing together with a bunch of friends about 7-8
We’re drinking but left as the nightclub got boring and went home
•Hooked up and started to kiss in the nightclub
•All of our friends saw us together all night
•Kissing and touching each other up outside in the city centre
•Got home a lift will all out friends
THE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE PART & MORNING AFTER
{All slept in 1 room as there wasn't enough space me and the FA slept on the floor with a male friend next is who was half asleep/ sleeping. Had sex for short period no longer than 5 minutes. Stopped as she was too lazy to go on top and I was unable to reach full erection so we decided to stop and sleep then went to bed. A number of people slept in the same room, so we weren't alone.}
{Was embarrassed for sleeping with me and went downstairs really moody and upset. Began to cuddle my male friend and kiss him and also try it on with him during the morning. I presume she was embarrassed because I was best mates with her ex-boyfriend.
[WE SLEPT TOGETHER 19 MONTHS AGO]
MY DEFENSE OR THINGS THAT I THINK I CAN USE TO HELP ME
•The nightclub has video cameras all around the club
•One of the bar staff who works in the nightclub and I personally know saw with the woman
•The person who let us stay at the house is backing me up we spoke
•I have slept with her friends and even best friends some aren’t friends anymore
THE GUY MAKING THESE FALSE CLAIMS AND TOLD HIS MATE
{Fast forward 19 months. I spoke to the person making these class claims in a calm manner and explained to him these things his telling people are dangerous and not fair and could have a serious impact on someone's future and cause issues. He seemed to understand what I was saying and he admitted that he had told his friend this and apologised to me via the telephone. But he did say the FA said to him why didn’t you stop him from having sex with me.
THE STEPS I HAVE TAKEN SINCE
•I have stopped going out clubbing in my local town
•Not going to locations where I might bump into her
•Not socialising with the same friends
•Not on any social media platforms
•Have a list of solicitors and lawyers who to deal with sexual offences cases in case
•Written down everything I remember
•Got a brand new phone that’s clean
•Have not spoken to FA at all or when I found out these so-called rumours
•Have a friend who updates me if he sees or hears anything on social media
•Researched information in case I shall be arrested
STEPS & OBSERVATIONS REGARDING THR FA
•Taken video screen records of her out clubbing
•Screenshots with dates of her clubbing
•Screenshots of her with people I’ve slept with
•General stuff of her clubbing and enjoying herself
•Friend keeping an eye on her on social media etc etc
THINGS TO POINT OUT
•She has told a woman who I used to date that we ****ed
•Spoke about sleeping with her friends and openly told her friends.
I have not been arrested nor invited for a voluntary interview. I haven’t had any further anyone come to me and ask if I have rapped this girl or heard any rumours. Only that one time when I was clubbing and that guy was out clubbing. I’m planning to leave my job after the new year as this girls ex-boyfriend works at the same place as me and I know he probably knows and also his friends with the guy who said this rumour to his friend who spoke to me when I was clubbing.
It's been a tough time for me emotionally and physically. I have felt so low never felt like this in my life, been accused of something you never did after having 1 stand which was consensual. Then fast forward couple months later someone comes up with this! I have wanted to kill myself and been looking at ways to kill myself. After finding and reading this forum/group it has made me realise not to kill my self but be strong. I will not be falsely a used because I am male.
If anyone has any advice or information or even just any suggestion please do respond back.
Kind regards
On the 04/11/2018 I was out clubbing in my local town on a Saturday evening with a friend I get public transport with on weekly basis. I was approached by a young man named (***********) who I know as I always see him clubbing and have the friends that I associate with myself and him too. He came up to me and said the following “ I need to speak to you about something I was told by one of my friends you raped (*********). I’m asking you because my mate told me and I think its disgusting”. I know its horrible but I thought I would ask you about it or I was going ****ing knock you out tonight”.
(This guy was drunk mumbling his words and not making a great deal of sense but I could catch on to what he saying to me).
My Response:
“Well I don’t know why your friend is making up these false claims when this never happened and also it’s the first I’ve heard of it”. “There’s nothing I can say towards you but that’s isn’t true its all bunch of ****”.
His Response:
“I believe you mate I just wanted to ask you because I didn’t think it was you”. “ I know your good lad plus if you did something like that you wouldn’t be out clubbing and you sure would be hiding from everyone”. It's now been 1 month since this conversation.
CONVERSATION BETWEEN THE TWO OF US IS OVER.
His friend was an old mate of mine who I used hang out with a lot and go clubbing with regular. After hearing this I was very angry at the time as I had been drinking myself at the time. This person who made these statements is normally out clubbing weekly so I went to look for him to confront him and fight him. Unfortunately and thank goodness, I didn't find him, but I saw few of his mates who mates who were also my mates (not close mates just people I go out with clubbing or hang out when we’re out) and they asked why I'm looking for the person in question and I said ”his telling people I raped (************) one of his mates said I've heard that as well myself. Then I spoke to them about how there night was going etc they wanted me to stay out but I told them I have work the next day so I went home
LEFT THE NIGHT CLUB, CONVERSATION OVER
INFORMATION ABOUT ME &THE WOMAN IN QUESTION
•Known each other for years, have friends who hang out together
•Gone clubbing together numerous times with friends
•Always have been friends nothing more
•Used to hang out a fair bit
•Spoke on social media every now and again
•three months after sleeping with me message me on Instagram saying “have you been tested better not have anything” she deleted her Instagram so no way I can get these messages
CLUBBING TOGETHER & HAVING SEX
•We were out clubbing together with a bunch of friends about 7-8
We’re drinking but left as the nightclub got boring and went home
•Hooked up and started to kiss in the nightclub
•All of our friends saw us together all night
•Kissing and touching each other up outside in the city centre
•Got home a lift will all out friends
THE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE PART & MORNING AFTER
{All slept in 1 room as there wasn't enough space me and the FA slept on the floor with a male friend next is who was half asleep/ sleeping. Had sex for short period no longer than 5 minutes. Stopped as she was too lazy to go on top and I was unable to reach full erection so we decided to stop and sleep then went to bed. A number of people slept in the same room, so we weren't alone.}
{Was embarrassed for sleeping with me and went downstairs really moody and upset. Began to cuddle my male friend and kiss him and also try it on with him during the morning. I presume she was embarrassed because I was best mates with her ex-boyfriend.
[WE SLEPT TOGETHER 19 MONTHS AGO]
MY DEFENSE OR THINGS THAT I THINK I CAN USE TO HELP ME
•The nightclub has video cameras all around the club
•One of the bar staff who works in the nightclub and I personally know saw with the woman
•The person who let us stay at the house is backing me up we spoke
•I have slept with her friends and even best friends some aren’t friends anymore
THE GUY MAKING THESE FALSE CLAIMS AND TOLD HIS MATE
{Fast forward 19 months. I spoke to the person making these class claims in a calm manner and explained to him these things his telling people are dangerous and not fair and could have a serious impact on someone's future and cause issues. He seemed to understand what I was saying and he admitted that he had told his friend this and apologised to me via the telephone. But he did say the FA said to him why didn’t you stop him from having sex with me.
THE STEPS I HAVE TAKEN SINCE
•I have stopped going out clubbing in my local town
•Not going to locations where I might bump into her
•Not socialising with the same friends
•Not on any social media platforms
•Have a list of solicitors and lawyers who to deal with sexual offences cases in case
•Written down everything I remember
•Got a brand new phone that’s clean
•Have not spoken to FA at all or when I found out these so-called rumours
•Have a friend who updates me if he sees or hears anything on social media
•Researched information in case I shall be arrested
STEPS & OBSERVATIONS REGARDING THR FA
•Taken video screen records of her out clubbing
•Screenshots with dates of her clubbing
•Screenshots of her with people I’ve slept with
•General stuff of her clubbing and enjoying herself
•Friend keeping an eye on her on social media etc etc
THINGS TO POINT OUT
•She has told a woman who I used to date that we ****ed
•Spoke about sleeping with her friends and openly told her friends.
I have not been arrested nor invited for a voluntary interview. I haven’t had any further anyone come to me and ask if I have rapped this girl or heard any rumours. Only that one time when I was clubbing and that guy was out clubbing. I’m planning to leave my job after the new year as this girls ex-boyfriend works at the same place as me and I know he probably knows and also his friends with the guy who said this rumour to his friend who spoke to me when I was clubbing.
It's been a tough time for me emotionally and physically. I have felt so low never felt like this in my life, been accused of something you never did after having 1 stand which was consensual. Then fast forward couple months later someone comes up with this! I have wanted to kill myself and been looking at ways to kill myself. After finding and reading this forum/group it has made me realise not to kill my self but be strong. I will not be falsely a used because I am male.
If anyone has any advice or information or even just any suggestion please do respond back.
Kind regards
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