On behalf of brother - girlfriend accusing brother of rape

[Ray3200]

Hiya,
This is a long one so please bear with me. My brother has been seeing a girl for 3 months or so. The girl has bipolar and personality disorder and is currently on no medication. They have a good relationship. She is being sentenced to stabbing her ex boyfriend in the throat tomorrow. Today my brother asked if she would like him to attend for support. She blew up at him. He left the house to go to the shops and when she came back, she refused to let him leave the house. She said she was going to make his life hell, threatened his mother and pregnant sister. He managed to sneak a rucksack out the bathroom window and make an excuse of needing fresh air and ran out the front door. Discovering he was gone she later texted him accusing him of rape the previous night. She said she had called the police at approximately 10:30am. We have not heard anything from the police as of yet. The girl has posted on facebook his name, location and said he should be named and shamed and has been private messaing his friends telling them he has raped her. She has been goading people to attack him. She has threatened his house, said she will attack his mother when she walks back from work also. My brother has phoned the police in regards to threats and false accusations but the police do not want to know and keep saying 'it's tit for tat'. She has texted a friend saying she said the police say my brother is on the run, despite him giving police his name, address and situation on the phone when he rang to report it. She also said she has 'an interview' tomorrow. We are at a loss as of what to do next. Any advice would be much appreciated.

[Ray3200]

Forgot to add, she has previously accused an ex of sexual assault and he went to prison for it. Also a handful of her ex's have injunctions against her.

[Pond31]

Forgot to add, she has previously accused an ex of sexual assault and he went to prison for it. Also a handful of her ex's have injunctions against her.

Hi Ray3200

First thing to say is that this a not a new story. If the FA is known to the police that is a good thing for your brother as they must be more careful about taking it forward.

1. Don't contact her in any way and do not respond even to threats of self harming etc
2. Keep a record of the texts and messages. If she has contacted people you know privately ask them to save messages and send you screen shots.
3. Do not contact the police and only wait for them to they contact your brother. As there is a chance that she will not go to the police. If he speaks to them first then the police will investigate so DONT CONTACT THE POLICE.
4. Is she is making threats to your family members and others then wait until she goes to the police and if she does get them to report her for harassment or threatening behaviour.
5. Get you brother to write down all he remembers about the night before.
6. Do not speak to her and avoid her at all costs.
7. Search you local area for a good specialised solicitor, not just a normal criminal solicitor. You can talk to them beforehand.
8. If she is being sentenced tomorrow then she may be making this claim to garner sympathy.
9. Make sure you brother is OK as this is very stressful, don't let him drink or over indulge in anything as that can lead to bad decisions.

I used to work in mental health and it was so common for patients to get unwell close to sentencing time, some time to avoid prison and sometimes just because of the stress.

Pond31

[Ray3200]

Thank you so much for the advice. We did think that she may be using him as a scapegoat for prison. He is extremely stressed and anxious, not just for the rape claim, but also for the threats she has made.

[Franticwithworry]

Welcome to the site but I'm so sorry you and your friend need it.

That's excellent advice from Pond.

It's appalling that the police are letting her get away with threats and harassment - because that's what it is. Please encourage your friend to keep away from her and not respond to her, but to keep a detailed diary of any contact she makes with him. Not responding to her is essential.

Also, it might be worth having a word with a specialist solicitor anyway and apart from getting a legal eye and opinion on your case, see what they think about the police behaviour and attitudes to her threats. Sometimes it takes a bit of intervention from an experienced solicitor to get the police to do their jobs properly and they can give reassurance as to how best to deal with her.