falsely accused help needed

[jay27]

hi.

the story so far. august 2017 i split from my ex. she went straight to court to get a prohibited steps order. she said i was going to run away with my daughter who was 2 at the time. i attended court and then the judge made a order. the week after this she breached it that made me go back and enforce the order because i personally had to hand it to her she got a non mol order.


i got this but never had the chance to contest it.after this she claimed dv. ticking every box bar sexual. i believe this is a gateway to legal aid threw family court. so last October i revived a phone call from police asking to go for a police interview voltarey so i said yes. i went . this interview was for child cruelty my ex had said i had been mis treating ie putting them in cold showers.


luckily there was hard evidence from a housing association that the shower had had numerous problems and was fixed x amount of times. this got nfa just before Christmas so felt the weight lift off my shoulders. but come jan she was not happy so she re opend the case an then another 3 month and again nfa.


so last October 2017 my ex was in a barbours shop shouting i had raped her i she was telling everyone in the shop. i was mortified as iv never done such a thing.


when i found this out and then contacted the police straight away about it.


the next day the police contacted her asking if anything she wanted to report had been reported she said yes and claimed the victim of dv (info from police storm report ) but did not disclose rape


we went to a family court hearing in December 2017 where we had received a police discloses she had seen i had reported rape what she was saying.


on the 23rd of December she tried to say i had breached my non mol but on the back of this because police had said i haven't she then reported me for rape.


my life has been turned upside down. i had to attend a police interview the police did a full investigation and have only just nfa me.


police spoke to exs and asked things and they all backed me up even the one who hates me. i have got the full transcript of her interview and on one point she says ' if you could do something that would be fantastic but if not then thats fine ' im pritty sure this is not a prime example of someone who is claiming 52 counts of rape.


so now im a bit stuck the police know she was lying and i have good evidence that she is infact lying about it.


im not sure what to do as my life is a complete mess. i was told to make a report to police but i dont know any advice much apricatde

[Peter1975]

Hello Jay27 and a sad but warm welcome to DM.


I'm really to sorry to read everything you have been put through over the last year.


You are correct about the allegations of DV or sexual abuse being the only way to get legal aid in family court disputes. It's been this way ever since the legal aid, sentencing and punishment of offenders act in 2012 and it is a disgrace. Yours is a story among many similar I'm afraid.


Your question really I suppose is quite complex as you must consider that this is the mother of your child but I would say with the history of her complaints there may be a chance of the police opening an investigation but it is extremely rare so don't hold your breath I'm afraid.


You say that you have good evidence that she is lying and if this is the case then you could simply ask the police to investigate her


First though, you must think about your children. You don't say whether you have any contact with them or whether you has a solicitor for family court?


I would also think about whether making a complaint to police would makes things worse in anyway regarding family courts.


IF ( and frankly it is a BIG IF) you were to be successful in getting the police to charge her there is a chance she would receive a custodial sentence so I would say you need to make sure the children could live with you or perhaps relatives.


I would suggest that you seek out some further support from somewhere like fathers4justice or families need fathers. Accused.me.uk has a busy facebook group with some fabulous supportive members who may be able to help.


My personal advice is to concentrate your energy on being a good father and maintain or regain contact with your children as a priority.