Hi im jumping ahead abit but with 6 weeks left till my partners trail today were in a rare positive and proactive mood, so i was looking for advice from anyone thats been through the trail part and was found not guilty or anyone who knows how ss work.
5 months after been into the police station for questionning my partner recieved the call from ss to say he couldnt have his kids that weekend and was now not allowed to see them unsupervised till they had done a risk assessment. he accepted this and knew they had a job to do, however stupidly agreed to his exs suggestion that they didnt arrange visits to keep the kids from knowing what was going on and to prevent them from having to have social services etc visiting them. this was because he had been in the childs place as a child and didnt want them to be asked questions about their time with him etc so they agreed to say he was working away and thought it was a matter of weeks till he could see them. 4 months later and 2 cancelled appointments for the risk assessments they said they couldnt do it till the poice investigation was closed. 14 months on and were here with 6 weeks to go.
My partner now wants to know if after the trail he can go see his kids or if he will still have to wait for the risk assessment to be carried out and if ss still do their bits if foundd not guilty or will they just close case.
Also can he ring ss now and ask them to book RA in for after xmas if they do still need to do 1 or does he have to wait till after the trail then have another 3 month wait for that.
He desperatly misses them and has just got the news his ex is trying to get her new partner to adopt them as shes ill, obviously he isnt signing adoption papers for them but if she is as ill as we have been told he needs to be able to be there for his kids and build those bridges with them asap incase anything does happen to her as he doesnt want it where shes too ill to care for them and because of this he cant see them.
he hasnt spoke to ss for a year after they said they needed to wait for police case to close so doesnt know what the process is all he knows is that when or if he walks out of that trail in 6 weeks he wants to go straight there to give them a cuddle and doesnt know if hes allowed.
5 months after been into the police station for questionning my partner recieved the call from ss to say he couldnt have his kids that weekend and was now not allowed to see them unsupervised till they had done a risk assessment. he accepted this and knew they had a job to do, however stupidly agreed to his exs suggestion that they didnt arrange visits to keep the kids from knowing what was going on and to prevent them from having to have social services etc visiting them. this was because he had been in the childs place as a child and didnt want them to be asked questions about their time with him etc so they agreed to say he was working away and thought it was a matter of weeks till he could see them. 4 months later and 2 cancelled appointments for the risk assessments they said they couldnt do it till the poice investigation was closed. 14 months on and were here with 6 weeks to go.
My partner now wants to know if after the trail he can go see his kids or if he will still have to wait for the risk assessment to be carried out and if ss still do their bits if foundd not guilty or will they just close case.
Also can he ring ss now and ask them to book RA in for after xmas if they do still need to do 1 or does he have to wait till after the trail then have another 3 month wait for that.
He desperatly misses them and has just got the news his ex is trying to get her new partner to adopt them as shes ill, obviously he isnt signing adoption papers for them but if she is as ill as we have been told he needs to be able to be there for his kids and build those bridges with them asap incase anything does happen to her as he doesnt want it where shes too ill to care for them and because of this he cant see them.
he hasnt spoke to ss for a year after they said they needed to wait for police case to close so doesnt know what the process is all he knows is that when or if he walks out of that trail in 6 weeks he wants to go straight there to give them a cuddle and doesnt know if hes allowed.
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