Feeling ill

[Rights Fighter]

We are going back to police station in 2 days, and the police will tell us whether they are going to charge my bf

...... submitting a written statement to cps? We were considering to submit one, but we are not sure how detailed should a written statement be? Our solicitor think it should be detailed

Your man has not yet been charged so the CPS are not involved in any way whatsoever.

Who is this solicitor? Are you sure he has said you should write to the CPS?

[PleaseHelpMeGod]

Your man has not yet been charged so the CPS are not involved in any way whatsoever.

Who is this solicitor? Are you sure he has said you should write to the CPS?

We will know whether we will be charged or not tomorrow. Really struggling to focus today at work. The cps should have reviewed the case and returned to police their recommendation by now we think. The written statement was a misunderstanding. I thought the solicitor wanted us to do a detailed written statement, but that turned out not the way he wanted. Not sure what will happen tomorrow, and police has been radio silent over last weeks despite our constant contacts. I thought they normally inform the solicitor what we should expect to happen a few days b4 the return?

[Rights Fighter]

It's so easy to get things confused

You need to realise that some people can wait several months, some have waited around two years before getting a decision from CPS so please do not expect something now.

Having said that, I do hope you are put out of your misery one way or another, soon.

[PleaseHelpMeGod]

It's so easy to get things confused

You need to realise that some people can wait several months, some have waited around two years before getting a decision from CPS so please do not expect something now.

Having said that, I do hope you are put out of your misery one way or another, soon.

Thank you. We haven't heard anything from the police yet apart from validating the bail date 2 weeks ago. Do police normally give a heads up one day b4 the bail date? Thank u

[Peter1975]

Thank you. We haven't heard anything from the police yet apart from validating the bail date 2 weeks ago. Do police normally give a heads up one day b4 the bail date? Thank u

Depends on the police, some of them are none too thoughtful when it comes to giving notice of rebailing and sometimes I don't think they know themselves until the day approaches and they pick up the file.

It's quite usual for an extended bail date to drop through the post with no warning or they may phone or email, either directly or through your solicitor if you have one. What I did was just to phone the OIC the day before to check when I hadn't heard anything.

[PleaseHelpMeGod]

He just went in to the police station to answer his bail. I hope he walks out as a free man and we can get on with our lives. I pray to god that police will drop the case, he did nothing wrong. Why should he go through hell for something he didn't do?

[lazy lass]

Hopefully he returns with a smile on his face and this nightmare is over.
Thinking about you both

[PleaseHelpMeGod]

Charged. Apparently they didn't want to charge him initially but changed mind later. The nightmare continues it seems.

[Peter1975]

Charged. Apparently they didn't want to charge him initially but changed mind later. The nightmare continues it seems.

I'm really sorry to hear this but please remember that all is not lost. A charge does not mean a conviction.

I am very concerned about how your solicitor has handled this. If they "didn't want to charge but changed their minds" then it would suggest the accusers evidence (story) is weak but by giving them nothing but a no comment interview he has effectively offered no evidence in his defence to refute the allegations.

I suggest you seek new legal advice as soon as your heads stop spinning.

Recommended sols can be found on this thread :

http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...ist-solicitors

[Franticwithworry]

Oh, no!! :-( I'm so sorry. Now the fight starts in earnest though.

Having a good, experienced solicitor will make all the difference and there's masses of advice and information on here that will help you through this. We are all here too, and will give as much emotional support as we can. Getting charged can be as much of a shock as the initial accusation, so take time to let it sink in and get back on an even keel before you try to do too much.

As I understand it, the magistrates hearing is basically a formality and will be a couple of weeks away, so you have time to get your head around today's events.

for you both.

[PleaseHelpMeGod]

I'm really sorry to hear this but please remember that all is not lost. A charge does not mean a conviction.

I am very concerned about how your solicitor has handled this. If they "didn't want to charge but changed their minds" then it would suggest the accusers evidence (story) is weak but by giving them nothing but a no comment interview he has effectively offered no evidence in his defence to refute the allegations.

I suggest you seek new legal advice as soon as your heads stop spinning.

Recommended sols can be found on this thread :

http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...ist-solicitors

I think you are probably right. We have changed our solicitor, but it's too late to correct the damages made by duty solicitor

[Peter1975]

I think you are probably right. We have changed our solicitor, but it's too late to correct the damages made by duty solicitor

It's not too late, a no comment interview is not fatal to your defence, especially as it was on the advice of a solicitor. You can simply say "I was badly advised".

[PleaseHelpMeGod]

It's not too late, a no comment interview is not fatal to your defence, especially as it was on the advice of a solicitor. You can simply say "I was badly advised".

Yes, but we are charged, meaning no job no pay no wedding. Nothing. We are screwed by the system. There is no Justics. I can't breath.

[Franticwithworry]

The system is awful but it can be navigated. As peter1975 says, a 'no comment' interview is not the end of the world. This whole sorry situation is not the end of the world.

Please don't think me harsh or belittling, but this is all very likely a bump in the road of your life. It's terrifying I know, but a charge does not mean a conviction. You have time to sort out finances. No job means that legal aid is more likely. No wedding this year does not mean no wedding ever or no family ever. It means you have to put your plans on hold. You are young and stronger than you think. You really are. If all you can concentrate on right now is breathing, do that and breathe as deeply as you can. The panic WILL subside.

If anxiety and panic are getting the better of you, don't be afraid to get help from your doctor. You need all the mental strength you can muster right now, but you CAN and WILL get through it.

for you and your boyfriend.

[PleaseHelpMeGod]

The system is awful but it can be navigated. As peter1975 says, a 'no comment' interview is not the end of the world. This whole sorry situation is not the end of the world.

Please don't think me harsh or belittling, but this is all very likely a bump in the road of your life. It's terrifying I know, but a charge does not mean a conviction. You have time to sort out finances. No job means that legal aid is more likely. No wedding this year does not mean no wedding ever or no family ever. It means you have to put your plans on hold. You are young and stronger than you think. You really are. If all you can concentrate on right now is breathing, do that and breathe as deeply as you can. The panic WILL subside.

If anxiety and panic are getting the better of you, don't be afraid to get help from your doctor. You need all the mental strength you can muster right now, but you CAN and WILL get through it.

for you and your boyfriend.

Thank you. I woke up this morning, continue to feel very depressed. I don't know how my bf feels. He is losing everything we built over the last 10 years. I feel really sorry for him. Who would know for one night we could lose so much and had to start again . It's really hard for both of us. I have to find a way to save him.