An update
So guys as I said I would, I pleaded guilty.
I know this is something that everybody advises against but I just could not take the risk of prison and being away from my kids. Also my ex is very difficult and would have made my life a living hell if i had gone to jail for this.
I do not seek to try and persuade people to plead guilty when they shouldn’t, however this was my choice and it’s like a huge weight has been lifted.
The judge has been very kind and it is extremely obvious to everybody that the judge thinks this girl is a timewaster and that he feels bound by the law, he clearly knows I have pleaded guilty to evade jail... My barrister has said she will be very surprised if he sends me jail and I will maybe get suspended but most likely community order.
Of course there was every possibility that the jury would find me not guilty... However I didn’t have much hope after endless ground rule hearings and talks of screens, intermediaries, victim tours of the court beforehand, being allowed a break during her evidence giving, a chance to read her statement again to refresh her memory bla bla blaaaaaaaa... Basically watching this girl get every single protection and privilidge the court could give, I started to realise that to an outside this girl looks so vulnerable and hard done by that it would probably be very hard not to believe her despite all the evidence... I am pretty sure many other men have felt the same, the justice system is wrong in its protection of these parasites.... I appreciate that the jury may have seen straight through her but I couldn’t take that risk
The prosecution tried to argue for offences that would make this a different category offence such as ‘abuse of trust’. The judge laughed and said ‘I am going to take a lot of persuading that was in any way an abuse of trust’
There’s certain things I can’t say at the moment in detail as I can’t be sure who’s reading these boards but I will come back after sentencing on the 5th March and explain further (assuming I’m not in jail)
What I can say is that I am the happiest I have been in 16 months, I feel so relieved that it is almost over and that I did not have to stand in that dock with people looking at me like I’m some sort of nonce/perv... Maybe one day I will attempt to appeal (although I probably won’t get far) but for now I had to just get out of this situation for my own mental health, I am a diagnosed sufferer of schizoaffective disorder which isn’t just schizophrenia but manic depression with it and bouts of
Psychosis etc etc... This looming trial was far too much for me and the added stress that my nightmare of an ex might find out about this allegation if I went to prison was just too much.
What matters the most is that everybody who does know believes me 100% and me and my Mrs are happier then ever. Quite frankly I couldn’t care less what the rest of the world think, nor do I care what the officer says or thinks when I sign that register or the probation officer when I attend their meetings. I know I am innocent and I am happy with that... and in terms of my DBS/CRB - I never fancied living in the USA/Australia much anyway, nor do I have any interest in working with kids or the elderly.
And for the record - I can assure you I did not plead guilty because ‘I am guilty’. I have explained my reasoning above
More to follow
So guys as I said I would, I pleaded guilty.
I know this is something that everybody advises against but I just could not take the risk of prison and being away from my kids. Also my ex is very difficult and would have made my life a living hell if i had gone to jail for this.
I do not seek to try and persuade people to plead guilty when they shouldn’t, however this was my choice and it’s like a huge weight has been lifted.
The judge has been very kind and it is extremely obvious to everybody that the judge thinks this girl is a timewaster and that he feels bound by the law, he clearly knows I have pleaded guilty to evade jail... My barrister has said she will be very surprised if he sends me jail and I will maybe get suspended but most likely community order.
Of course there was every possibility that the jury would find me not guilty... However I didn’t have much hope after endless ground rule hearings and talks of screens, intermediaries, victim tours of the court beforehand, being allowed a break during her evidence giving, a chance to read her statement again to refresh her memory bla bla blaaaaaaaa... Basically watching this girl get every single protection and privilidge the court could give, I started to realise that to an outside this girl looks so vulnerable and hard done by that it would probably be very hard not to believe her despite all the evidence... I am pretty sure many other men have felt the same, the justice system is wrong in its protection of these parasites.... I appreciate that the jury may have seen straight through her but I couldn’t take that risk
The prosecution tried to argue for offences that would make this a different category offence such as ‘abuse of trust’. The judge laughed and said ‘I am going to take a lot of persuading that was in any way an abuse of trust’
There’s certain things I can’t say at the moment in detail as I can’t be sure who’s reading these boards but I will come back after sentencing on the 5th March and explain further (assuming I’m not in jail)
What I can say is that I am the happiest I have been in 16 months, I feel so relieved that it is almost over and that I did not have to stand in that dock with people looking at me like I’m some sort of nonce/perv... Maybe one day I will attempt to appeal (although I probably won’t get far) but for now I had to just get out of this situation for my own mental health, I am a diagnosed sufferer of schizoaffective disorder which isn’t just schizophrenia but manic depression with it and bouts of
Psychosis etc etc... This looming trial was far too much for me and the added stress that my nightmare of an ex might find out about this allegation if I went to prison was just too much.
What matters the most is that everybody who does know believes me 100% and me and my Mrs are happier then ever. Quite frankly I couldn’t care less what the rest of the world think, nor do I care what the officer says or thinks when I sign that register or the probation officer when I attend their meetings. I know I am innocent and I am happy with that... and in terms of my DBS/CRB - I never fancied living in the USA/Australia much anyway, nor do I have any interest in working with kids or the elderly.
And for the record - I can assure you I did not plead guilty because ‘I am guilty’. I have explained my reasoning above
More to follow
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