Why would she lie, Broken-hearted? They might as well ask why would she not?
I honestly think some people see being abused as some sort of badge of honour, which makes them very susceptible to claiming to be abused when they I have not been. 'Poor me, I've been abused', carries all sorts of kudos - sympathy, attention, deflection, you name it.
I'm sorry to hear about your in-laws behaviour. They should be asking why would your husband lie too. Girls don't have a monopoly on the truth.
Your daughter's behaviour is very interesting/telling. Please keep a diary of it and draw it to your husband's solicitor's attention if it comes to it. The smallest thing can make a difference and s/he will need to know about it. It all counts and the solicitor will decide what they can or can't use. There are no clear signals to denote whether someone has been abused or not, but there are some things that, when part of the bigger picture, are clues. Every little detail is a potential clue and you have to give the solicitor information to work with.
You know your daughter best and how you might expect her to behave in any given circumstance. Use that knowledge and make sure a solicitor has it too. As you say, the professionals have no real idea.
I honestly think some people see being abused as some sort of badge of honour, which makes them very susceptible to claiming to be abused when they I have not been. 'Poor me, I've been abused', carries all sorts of kudos - sympathy, attention, deflection, you name it.
I'm sorry to hear about your in-laws behaviour. They should be asking why would your husband lie too. Girls don't have a monopoly on the truth.
Your daughter's behaviour is very interesting/telling. Please keep a diary of it and draw it to your husband's solicitor's attention if it comes to it. The smallest thing can make a difference and s/he will need to know about it. It all counts and the solicitor will decide what they can or can't use. There are no clear signals to denote whether someone has been abused or not, but there are some things that, when part of the bigger picture, are clues. Every little detail is a potential clue and you have to give the solicitor information to work with.
You know your daughter best and how you might expect her to behave in any given circumstance. Use that knowledge and make sure a solicitor has it too. As you say, the professionals have no real idea.
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