Announcement

Collapse
No announcement yet.

Need good advise!

Collapse
X
 
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

  • Need good advise!

    Have been acused from My Ex-partner,(sexual abuse and rape) we are by law in Civil partnership,at the time he was 17! Have been wrested and interviewed ,not charges for now! I use my right to keep silenced! He claimed i rape him few times,for period of 3moths! And all so acused me that i try to run over him with my car! Lost my job,my house everything,since this happened!

  • #2
    More info:

    I found out that he is cheering me with another,boy and I start asking him why and then he just disappear,I try all ways to comedy with him but he did not want to say nothing,he turn on 18 and then just gonne to his new boyfriend,after all I have Benn wrested and then he acused me in all this...someone who was your loved one,made my life full of problems,I was giving everything to him...we were so happy...and then all this I am so down...do not know what to do...

    Comment


    • #3
      Hi there

      I think we have had a brief conversation via email. Hopefully more people will come in to support you.

      Would there be evidence of the allegation that you tried to run him over in your car? ie would there be CCTV evidence / footage and would he have gone to the hospital after that alleged event?

      Hold on in there!
      People Appealing Convictions of Sexual Offences ~http://www.pacso.co.uk

      PAFAA details ~ https://pacso.co.uk/pafaa-people-aga...ions-of-abuse/

      Comment


      • #4
        Originally posted by Rights Fighter View Post
        Hi there

        I think we have had a brief conversation via email. Hopefully more people will come in to support you.

        Would there be evidence of the allegation that you tried to run him over in your car? ie would there be CCTV evidence / footage and would he have gone to the hospital after that alleged event?

        Hold on in there!
        No there,is not CCTVas far I know,and he did not go to hospital,the time he submit that I tryed unto run him over I was at home,and they hold my phone but they do not have access to it,they just took it but did not ask me for my pass code so they can't see if I been there at that time,its a street which I passed 2-3 times but never been there at that time!never ! I am so upsend that he did all this!

        Comment


        • #5
          Ok hon.

          If they want to look at the phone later on down the line, they will ask for the passcode. Please do give it to them as otherwise they will think that you have something to hide.

          Have you got support from family and any friends? Support can help so much in this situation.

          Hold on in there.
          People Appealing Convictions of Sexual Offences ~http://www.pacso.co.uk

          PAFAA details ~ https://pacso.co.uk/pafaa-people-aga...ions-of-abuse/

          Comment


          • #6
            Originally posted by Rights Fighter View Post
            Ok hon.

            If they want to look at the phone later on down the line, they will ask for the passcode. Please do give it to them as otherwise they will think that you have something to hide.

            Have you got support from family and any friends? Support can help so much in this situation.

            Hold on in there.
            So you adviseing me to give them the pass code,so then they will have access to info and chats,I am not wored about the chats,I am worry about do not twist some of our chats in different way,but the most important they will see that I never been at that time when he saying I try to hit him by car!I did not tell nothing at the intervew ,just becouse I know that they will use it against me,do you think that if they see that he is lie about this they will see its fauls all of it!

            Comment


            • #7
              Only give the pass code if they ask for it.

              If you are charged the defence will have a chance to give your version of what the messages mean, should they try to twist them.

              The police usually aren't interested to see the truth so don't expect them to look for anything that might help you.
              People Appealing Convictions of Sexual Offences ~http://www.pacso.co.uk

              PAFAA details ~ https://pacso.co.uk/pafaa-people-aga...ions-of-abuse/

              Comment


              • #8
                Originally posted by Rights Fighter View Post
                Only give the pass code if they ask for it.

                If you are charged the defence will have a chance to give your version of what the messages mean, should they try to twist them.

                The police usually aren't interested to see the truth so don't expect them to look for anything that might help you.
                So at the interview They ask me only where I have been,and if they check my phone the GPS location will show them what I am saying,but never ask for pass code,he ask for pass code when we were outside unofficially but I did not gave it!i gave them exactly time and Whit who I was at that time,gave names and mobile numbers to ask them and be my alaby! Its been 3 weeks,they did not contact them,and still no info about the case! I wanna get solisitor but they are so expensive! few people told me that if I act now I could do somthing,At the time of our relationship he was 17y then we placed Civil Partnarship.... Do U think that we have been in civil partnarship can help! all so when all problems start,he stol my iPhone,and run away,i got report him to the police,they came they search his room and found it! And few days later he has done the accused!

                Comment


                • #9
                  Please do not pay for a solicitor at this point. Most of the guys in this group who were NFAd didn't pay for one.

                  All you can do is to hold on in there. I know you want this sorted out right now, but they will take their time.
                  People Appealing Convictions of Sexual Offences ~http://www.pacso.co.uk

                  PAFAA details ~ https://pacso.co.uk/pafaa-people-aga...ions-of-abuse/

                  Comment


                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Rights Fighter View Post
                    Please do not pay for a solicitor at this point. Most of the guys in this group who were NFAd didn't pay for one.

                    All you can do is to hold on in there. I know you want this sorted out right now, but they will take their time.
                    I don't know ,they did not took my passport,did not tell me to stay in the addres they came and arrest me,only conditions is do not contact my Ex-partner,and do not go in his area that he leave,I did not give them nothing that they can twist and used stains me,and mist important I DID not do nothing,he just did it to put me away,and really hurts my loved one,to do all this! I do have friends and family,next to me! That's keep me going! And still I love him and can forgive him ,but I know that won't be possible,will be a mirrikal if we can be together

                    Comment


                    • #11
                      You are still hoping you can be together after all he has done? How would you know in the future that he would not do this again?

                      I cannot advise you further at this point so maybe if you offer support to other people in the group, they may come back to support you. This is a self-help group and the more you give, the more support you will get back
                      People Appealing Convictions of Sexual Offences ~http://www.pacso.co.uk

                      PAFAA details ~ https://pacso.co.uk/pafaa-people-aga...ions-of-abuse/

                      Comment


                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Rights Fighter View Post
                        You are still hoping you can be together after all he has done? How would you know in the future that he would not do this again?

                        I cannot advise you further at this point so maybe if you offer support to other people in the group, they may come back to support you. This is a self-help group and the more you give, the more support you will get back
                        I still love him ,that's make me think that we can get together,I know that sound stupor,but all so I know that he got scared,and has been advised to do this to keep me awaumy and maybe do not know what he has don to me! Life is so difficult when become dealing with fals accused,by loved one! thankyou for your reply!

                        Comment

                        Working...
                        X