Credibility and the CPS

[KB19]

This is truly an awful situation to be in please think before you do something that others that love you will have to live with. You have some lovely people standing by you and you have all of us on here and many who feel like you do , we may not be there in person but are feeling your pain all the same . Keep posting and let it all out , if you can ring the closest person you can speak to , tell them how your feeling , and do please include the Samaritans if they are not around .
Something that may help is grab paper and pen and write down every single thing that is making you feel bad keep writing until you can write no more then either rip it up as small as possible Using this to get rid of the thoughts you are having anger , frustration , desperation or some say burn it if able .
Most of all remember you have created a new life with someone and they will need you - I know how you feel about your younger years I myself had this and issue too and I know deep down you would not want that for your own child to be alone with just the mum and not tell there friends when they grow up that's my Daddy ! So come on you ARE able to beat this and in time with lots of support things will ease off and the FA will be dealt with Karma gas a great way of sorting out evil .
Keep posting we will all be there for you and maybe see if anyone else on here could do with a post from you to assist them - use the horrible thoughts to make you stronger and think ultra positive instead . Gawd been garbling on probably makes no sense st all so apologies in advance if not - just keep posting .

[Broken-hearted]

My OHs GP has been very supportive of him so not everyone is out to judge. No one can take you away from this process but talking to someone is an outlet and there are lots of self help things to try.

It is devastating thinking about what could happen the possibility of custodial sentence and the impact on your life from it but as the moment it's a possibility not a given. If you choose to end your life it is not just your life that you will be ending. It may not seem it but there is so much to live for.

Have you spoken to your partner about how you are feeling at the moment?

Sadly from this forum it seems that there are a lot of people who make false accusations and likely have many different motivations to do so. Sometimes they are successful but there are also a lot of stories of no further action and not guilty on here too so you have to hold on to that hope.

[Franticwithworry]

FalseaccusedScared, please listen to what others are saying. I'm sorry you are feeling so desperate but I can promise you one thing - at this stage there is NO guarantee that you will be charged with anything. It would be a greater tragedy, if that's possible, if you did something that you cannot undo at this point.

Your unborn child and your partner need you. Your partner loves and needs you and there are people on this site, including me, who care about you and don't want anything bad to happen to you. I understand how and why helplines are not always helpful, but please, you need help now and urgently. You deserve it.

Please take yourself to an A&E department at a local hospital. Please tell them that you are having suicidal feelings and gave a plan and need to talk to a mental health specialist. Even if they ask why you are feeling this way, you do not have to tell them. It's the feelings that matter, and you can be helped to get them under control. You don't have to deal with these feelings alone and there is no shame in asking for help.

Please, please do this. You have done nothing wrong and it's understandable that you feel overwhelmed. You don't have to stay overwhelmed. You are young and your life is still ahead of you, even if it doesn't feel that way right this minute. This is a mountain but it's one you can climb. We will hold your hand while you do it as we are climbing the same mountain.

Please also come back on here. We, as a group, care about each other. Your partner needs for you to get help and I for one am concerned for you and would like to know that you are ok. I'm sure there are others as concerned for you as I am.

Going and getting help is the bit you need to do for yourself. The rest there is help and support with.

[Broken-hearted]

Agree with the above totally!

[KB19]

Aww please pop back in maybe you have gone and fought the help that you need when you are ready maybe you could let us know we are worried for you as framticwithworry and broken hearted have also said .
We may not know each other personally but each and everyone of us are there for you .

[GB16]

Totally agree with what the other say. I am going through the exact emotions you are. I have also been falsely accused of the most horrific acts and against a child (who is now in her 30’s). It doesn’t get much worse. I am also worried about my wife as she became very ill just before all this happened and had to stop work. I am now the only wage earner and it terrifies me to think of her on her own. I have been to the darkest depths and like you seriously looked at suicide methods. I thought if I end it now then my wife would get everything and no one can take it away from her.

Have you spoken to your wife about this? I did and I am sure she wouldn’t want that to happen. You must find the strength to fight this. Force yourself down to the doctors. Everything you say to them is confidential, they won’t judge and they do help. I was put on sleeping tablets, antidepressants and recommended counselling. The AD’s made me feel worse. Apparently they take about 4 weeks to work so I stopped taking them. The sleeping tablets did help with much needed sleep. I haven’t tried counselling yet. I did try the Samaritans but I found them useless but that’s just me.

I found that speaking to close friends and relatives helped the most. Also getting out with the wife, walks in the local park ect, just get out and take in the fresh air. Like others here have mentioned, you could also write down a time line of everything you can remember. This also helps to focus the mind. A good friend told me that when traumatized, the brain like a wound also needs time heal.
Don’t give up. Chin up. Your family need you.