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My son has been accused of rape!
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Originally posted by Soanxious View PostAs parents we are biased, but I know him too well (our sons are of a similar age) and like your son his behaviour was normal before the police arrested him. It is so very hard to keep things normal and I must admit I do my crying behind closed doors, the calmer I appear the better my son seems to cope, I think he feels so bad for the way this has upset the family. The first few times I went shopping I was just like you and felt like I was going to have a panic attack. Things do improve! It's the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last thing I think of when I try to get to sleep, but you do get to learn to live with it, even though it is always there hoovering in the background. I have only just joined this forum but have been reading it for a while and found it a great source of advice and comfort. I now feel better prepared for whatever may happen next. Stay strong, things will get better.
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Originally posted by Mattie52 View PostI really appreciate your words Soanxious - is your son managing to talk to other people about it besides you? My son has gone from being a very outgoing chatty chap to someone I barely recognise and that is bothering me.(again it just might be the shock!). Just trying to take it one step at a time - surely life won't always be like this!!! Am glad you feel better prepared and once again thank you! Much appreciated.
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Forgot that point- yes get him to put a timeline together- sometimes the shock of it all does leave you a bit debilitated.
No doubt he's processing what's going on too- all you can do is hold his hand and be ready to listen.
Heartfelt sympathyThey tried to bury us- they didn't know we were seeds
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So sad to see another mum and son going through this nightmare. Fortunately for us it's over In that my son was proved NG at court in December last year. I sincerely hope your sons case doesn't get that far & you get an NfA soon.
Be prepared for a long haul though, just in case. Get a good solicitor ready (many recommendations on this site ) and barrister. Do everything you can to collect evidence to support your defence, timeline, tests and messages pre & post date, Facebook info on her & nearer time for court ; character refs for your son from family, friends, associates etc etc. hopefully you won't need it ! But it will give you something to focus on during the helpless stage your in. My son found it useful, gave him a purpose and he felt like he was getting some control on his day to day emotions. He also joined a gym (as did I) and it did help with sleep. Most of all ; just keep reminding him how much his family, friends love him and they know the truth , that hes innocent.
You need to keep strong for him as hell mostly be worried about the effect on you and family rather than him.
Good luck ; use this forum for support - kept me sane through our year long ordeal .
XInnocentson
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