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Hi Everyone,
Hope you're all holding up OK!
Basically my story is very similar to a lot of yours. I had a drunken one night stand with a girl over a year ago, I was out for my birthday with a load of mates obviously getting very drunk with them when I met this girl. We were kissing for a while at this bar then afterward she introduced me to her friend, basically long story short we ended up going back to her friends house and all staying in her bed with me and the girl having sex (Yes, with the other girl in the bed too, I know this is an utterly stupid situation to be in but was very plastered by this stage).
Anyway, everything seemed fine in the morning, we were all really hungover so we all stayed in bed until 4pm chatting and having a laugh when they dropped me off home all in good spirits.
2 months later I get a call from the police asking me to come to the station for a 'chat'. I sought out legal representation and had the interview, it all seemed fairly relaxed and the main investigating officer seemed quite nice to honest. I gave my version of events and left the station with my parents and solicitor who said not to worry and that it shouldn't go any further. Also the investigating office say it should all be wrapped up in a couple of months.
Speaking to the investigation officer about 3/4 months later, she said the case had gone to sergeant who deemed the case needed to go the CPS. She essentially said that they didn't feel that there was enough evidence, however, they wanted it to go to the CPS as a precaution as to 'dot the i's and cross the t's' as she put it. She said the decision would be made by the CPS in the next month or so (that would be around 5 months after I was initially interviewed).
A month or so later she called to say this decision would be re-arranged for 3 months later, she genuinely sounded annoyed about this and apologised that the whole thing taking so long. Anyway, I wait another 3 months when she phones up again and says they now want to interview some witnesses again and need to wait for the toxicology results to come back, saying this would take a couple of months.
4 months later here I am a year since I was interviewed and probably around 14 months since the accusation!! I think it's pretty unfair and kind of inhumane to keep someone in psychological limbo for over a year! However, I do understand that they want the case to be investigated as thoroughly as possible, which I do agree with.
It's strange as she has hinted in many conversations that it's unlikely that it'll go to court and kind of seems to be on my side just says it's out of her hands now and with the CPS.
Has anyone else been kept in the dark for over a year? What was the outcome?
Also would people recommend I be actively doing stuff at his stage or just sitting back and waiting of the decision?
I'm trying not to worry about it, as ultimately It is out of my hands so it's futile to worry, but this is a easier said than done!!
Any advice would be greatly appreciated (sorry for the long post).
Thanks for reading and to anyone going through a similar experience you have my support, stay strong this is real test of character but you will get through it.
Hope you're all holding up OK!
Basically my story is very similar to a lot of yours. I had a drunken one night stand with a girl over a year ago, I was out for my birthday with a load of mates obviously getting very drunk with them when I met this girl. We were kissing for a while at this bar then afterward she introduced me to her friend, basically long story short we ended up going back to her friends house and all staying in her bed with me and the girl having sex (Yes, with the other girl in the bed too, I know this is an utterly stupid situation to be in but was very plastered by this stage).
Anyway, everything seemed fine in the morning, we were all really hungover so we all stayed in bed until 4pm chatting and having a laugh when they dropped me off home all in good spirits.
2 months later I get a call from the police asking me to come to the station for a 'chat'. I sought out legal representation and had the interview, it all seemed fairly relaxed and the main investigating officer seemed quite nice to honest. I gave my version of events and left the station with my parents and solicitor who said not to worry and that it shouldn't go any further. Also the investigating office say it should all be wrapped up in a couple of months.
Speaking to the investigation officer about 3/4 months later, she said the case had gone to sergeant who deemed the case needed to go the CPS. She essentially said that they didn't feel that there was enough evidence, however, they wanted it to go to the CPS as a precaution as to 'dot the i's and cross the t's' as she put it. She said the decision would be made by the CPS in the next month or so (that would be around 5 months after I was initially interviewed).
A month or so later she called to say this decision would be re-arranged for 3 months later, she genuinely sounded annoyed about this and apologised that the whole thing taking so long. Anyway, I wait another 3 months when she phones up again and says they now want to interview some witnesses again and need to wait for the toxicology results to come back, saying this would take a couple of months.
4 months later here I am a year since I was interviewed and probably around 14 months since the accusation!! I think it's pretty unfair and kind of inhumane to keep someone in psychological limbo for over a year! However, I do understand that they want the case to be investigated as thoroughly as possible, which I do agree with.
It's strange as she has hinted in many conversations that it's unlikely that it'll go to court and kind of seems to be on my side just says it's out of her hands now and with the CPS.
Has anyone else been kept in the dark for over a year? What was the outcome?
Also would people recommend I be actively doing stuff at his stage or just sitting back and waiting of the decision?
I'm trying not to worry about it, as ultimately It is out of my hands so it's futile to worry, but this is a easier said than done!!
Any advice would be greatly appreciated (sorry for the long post).
Thanks for reading and to anyone going through a similar experience you have my support, stay strong this is real test of character but you will get through it.
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