Could really do with some help if possible please!

[terrifiedguy]

Hi,

Apologies that my first post is a bit "begging" but I could really do with asking some advice.

I really am apprehensive talking about anything publicly at the moment as this is very fresh but if somebody is available to have a private chat in some way, I'll try not to take up too much time.

I notice I'm not able to PM at the moment but if somebody can think of something else I'd be eternally grateful.

[Rights Fighter]

Everyone who joins is in the same situation. Providing you do not name anybody or put any identifying information on here, then there is nothing to stop you putting a BRIEF outline of what has happened. That way people can then come in and offer support.

[terrifiedguy]

Hi Rights Fighter,

Thank you for your reply, I get what you mean, just read the post about an unpleasant member and really think anything like that will send me over the edge right now.

I appreciate what you're saying about basic details but I'm not even clear on what might give too much away.

I'm sorry if I'm not being helpful, just mortified

[Rights Fighter]

You mean Bene? If she comes in and gives you grief she will end up with it ten-fold. Just tell us briefly what has happened so far. No need to go into the explicit details of the actual act (if there was one).

[terrifiedguy]

I'm accused of sleeping with somebody and that it was non consensual, it was, I went out of my way to make sure it was for this very reason.

she's saying that she was too drunk to give consent.

It happened just over two and a half years ago.

[Rights Fighter]

See! that wasn't difficult! If you look on other threads you will see so many stories just like yours!

You have been interviewed, yes? Good solicitor?

[terrifiedguy]

I have been looking but I still can't get my head around it.
I haven't been interviewed yet, I was tipped off by a mutual friend a few weeks ago that she has gone to the police with her now husband.
I read horror stories about the effectiveness of different solicitors and can't seem to find many in my area that I can check any testimonials.
I have a feeling that her group of friends and family have been perfecting the story for a long time and I just don't know how I can prove my innocence against the word of her and her friends

[2tea2]

I'm new to this as of last week - so know EXACTLY how you are feeling. This forum has helped me be positive and have perspective - these 2 main things will help you to feel calmer. I am just a beginner (mother of the falsely accused). Many people here understand completely how you are feeling, and what to do. Take care.

[terrifiedguy]

Thank you 2tea2,

I'm devastated at the moment, and I also wish you all the best in your situation as well

[Rights Fighter]

You have a potential motive for the lies. Maybe her now husband doesn't like the idea of her having sex before him......

[terrifiedguy]

I don't think that is a motive, the initial accusation (to her friends) happened within a few months of the incident in question.

Thank you for your reply Rights Fighter, sorry, sounded very rude dismissing it straight out, it was unintentional [Edited in]

I really need to find good solicitor in my area (legal aid) because I may have some evidence that could clear me but its a long shot.

I would like to give myself the best chance at a NFA so would ideally like to preempt any police interview with a meeting with a solicitor to discuss this (even if I have to pay in full for this part of it)

Currently using a friend's computer because if my phone or laptop get seized for checking they might see I've been here.

Is there a safe way of using this forum without leaving traces? Do Tor browsers on mobiles leave any trace for forensic investigation?

[Rights Fighter]

This is a publicly viewable forum and the police know it exists. They won't know who you are of course and the allegation is similar to those made against hundreds of men.

Which are would you be interviewed in?

[terrifiedguy]

Ok, so they know it exists but if they confiscate my phone and download it, can they see what I've been posting?

The area will be South West England

[joe_3178]

Not sure if it's a bad thing if they take your phone and find evidence of you interacting on a forum for the falsely accused, it would be expected. If you wanted to conceal that you were tipped off I wouldn't bother, better being totally honest with the police.

Some people hire a private solicitor when arrested or on bail but worth pointing out that a lot of people only do this if they end up being charged. This is your choice but obviously those have have money to afford this may feel happier to do so.

It may be positive that a couple of weeks have gone by without any visit from police and if it does happen it's good you are prewarned, a lot of people are brought in like a rabbit in the headlights and in shock -not the best frame of mind to be defending yourself

Had you spent the evening together prior to this alleged incident, was there witnesses to this.

[Scaredlad]

They will be able to see it yes but don't worry too much. Have they defiantly reported it to the police? Either way make a time line of everything that's happened and backups of any correspondence you've had before and after with her. As for evidence you may have may be worth leaving it with a friend or family member you can trust literally with your life. I'm new to all of this myself but 99.99% of people on here are amazing.

There is the odd "trolling" member but most people find this site when in need. There are FAed, family, friends and even a few legal professionals on here by the looks of it so utilise the advice and see how many happy outcomes there are. I know there are a few horror stories on here but a friend pointed out a lot of people want the support but try and forget after the positive out come. Also read through posts if nervous of anonymity because there is bound to be a similar situation on here.

Best of luck with everything and it is with regret I welcome you into the ever growing group that are dealing with false accusations.