The waiting game

[Arsenal12]

Is it actually the cps who bail you or the police?

The police

[Aidy]

Thanks for the response aidy ..
What was there accuse for rebail?
Is it actually the cps who bail you or the police?

Ye I have been going the pub more than usuall to be honest aidy so I don't blame you for that ..

Really hope to god I do not get charged I too really don't feel like going to court!

I am no expert in all these matters i'm sorry to say!
Most of my knowledge is off people off here and there experiences!!!

One can only imagine (and I'm not for one minute sticking up for the cps) that they are snowed under with similar cases...so I would imagine it is purely down to this?

Who actually knows how they make the decision to charge you or not?
If you look on their website, it says they will not charge if there is not enough evidence (no matter how bad the accusations are etc)
Maybe its just because i am in the situation I am in, but i do not trust the cps...and most certainly do not trust the police!!!

I am just thankful for finding this place, i have had loads of help and
support of here!!!

[Inadarkplace]

Deep down I can't see myself getting charged for rape!
As my FA's statement is a joke!
Any one with any commen sense would she that she is lying.

She even waited a week to report it

.. My heads a mess I really shouldn't read to much into things!

I can't help but think about worst case scenarios (crown court, jail!)

One day at a time!

[Inadarkplace]

Thank you

Thank you all for the kind and positive words!

May god bless you all and I hope you all get the correct action/verdicts





innocent until proven guilty!

[Lilyput]

Some days I can't see my OH being charged some days the story makes no sense and he has three favourable witnesses, other days I have extreme moments of blinding fear and moments where I'm so angry at FA that I can't feel or think anything else. Sorry if that seemed random my point is don't be scared if you go on a bit of an emotional roller coaster, your not going crazy! Also unless you break the law or get addicted to something, there isn't really a bad way to handle this horrible thing <3

Try and have some long term goals and some nice distractions, we spent yesterday in the town we'd like to move to it was amazing, we cooked and laughed and hung out with family, I forgot about it for four full hours.
Best wishes hopefully we'll have dancing Bananas for you soon xx

[Arsenal12]

Some days I can't see my OH being charged some days the story makes no sense and he has three favourable witnesses, other days I have extreme moments of blinding fear and moments where I'm so angry at FA that I can't feel or think anything else. Sorry if that seemed random my point is don't be scared if you go on a bit of an emotional roller coaster, your not going crazy! Also unless you break the law or get addicted to something, there isn't really a bad way to handle this horrible thing <3

Try and have some long term goals and some nice distractions, we spent yesterday in the town we'd like to move to it was amazing, we cooked and laughed and hung out with family, I forgot about it for four full hours.
Best wishes hopefully we'll have dancing Bananas for you soon xx

I totally agree........

I describe my own personal ongoing turmoil as ....like a huge train coming towards me..........and all I can do is take what is coming way.........it is out of my hands......what will be will be........

And like you say distractions/goals.........well for me there is only one goal.......and that is to eventually gain contact with my Children and be a great father........(even though I have been denied all contact for over a year!)

I often find your words very motivating Lilyput........ And you are a very valued member on here

[Lilyput]

I totally agree........

I describe my own personal ongoing turmoil as ....like a huge train coming towards me..........and all I can do is take what is coming way.........it is out of my hands......what will be will be........

And like you say distractions/goals.........well for me there is only one goal.......and that is to eventually gain contact with my Children and be a great father........(even though I have been denied all contact for over a year!)

I often find your words very motivating Lilyput........ And you are a very valued member on here

Thanks huni you too, you've helped a great deal of people on here! Good luck with your children, I'm sure they will be so proud of how hard you fort for them one day! xx

[Inadarkplace]

God bless you lilyput and Arsenal thank you for your kind and warming words.


... Today has been an angry day for me ... I don't have many angry days if I'm honest I always like cracking jokes and taking the piss out of the lads in work but not today I have been miserable and moody!

Tonight I shall go to the pub by mine and treat myself to a nice meal and a few pints of Stella whilst I watch the football just to try a soak in abit of atmosphere and take my mind off it for a few hours.