my 14 Year Old Son Has Been Accused Of Rape

[Princesswhufc]

My son who was cycling after school to his friends house was bullied by 9 boys to go to his ex girlfriends house because she said he raped her!

My son and his ex girlfriend split up in June because they grew apart and she was very needy due to her looking after her brothers as her mother went out most nights to "friends" houses!

Now this is a girl I a) felt sorry for, because no 14 year old girl should be a stand in mother to her siblings and b) she seemed quite nice (how wrong was I) I took her and my son out for meals, she stayed over a few nights beacuase her mother and her had fallen out, and on one occasion her mother had hit her!

Like I said previously he broke up with her in June, in July they both attended an end of year leaving party at a friends house ( no issues) ... In September she text me saying ring her as she was worried my son was getting bullied or gonna get beaten up) <>>>>>> fast forward to October! Where the story (and I use story as it is a mere story) begins!!!

I'm at wrk and get a text off of my son stating he has been forced around her house, and to ring him... I rang and the police answer the phone saying he has been arrested and to go to the police station (thus was 5pm) I rush there whilst he is being booked in, I'm allowed to watch them take finger prints and dna .. He is then taken to police cells (he's 14) and locked up, I'm told to wait until he's interviewed !!! (10.30pm) he's allowed to speak to the duty solicitor with myself as an appropriate adult! The solicitor to be fair was fantastic! He admitted that they had consensual sex on 3 occasions (well tried as no semen was realised) but that was months and months ago! (It's hard for a mum to hear) apparently according to her she had to have an abortion??!?!? Because she got pregnant!

So the accusation is my 14 year old son (bloody nieve) has been Accused of raping her and then the next day he "dumped her"

I know my child ... No I'm not deluded ... But I know 1 million % he is fundMentally not a rapist!!!

He missed a week off school straight after it happened but has been back ever since, all of his "real" friends support him... And even tho "her allegend" rapist it at the same school she's still attending??!?!??

She's even told her friends the police are waiting until my son is 18 to arrest him #%#%% WTF!

I could really use some advice.... He's answering to bail next week

[Casehardened]

Hello and welcome to the forum,

I'm sorry to say that there are more than a few mums who are/have been in your situation on the forum who will undoubtedly be able to offer you support and coping stratagems.

On a practical note I would say that it is not CPS policy to prosecute* youngsters (i.e. minors) for instances of consensual sexual intercourse so it would be useful for you to save/jot down anything to support the fact that they were girlfriend/boyfriend: mutual friends; texts; FB.

Just to clarify what you have written, do the accusations originate from June when they were 'together' rather than a more recent occasion after they split up?

* this of course doesn't mean that they won't investigate the allegations which is what is happening at the moment.

[innocentson]

Stay calm

Hi - as a mother who's son was falsely accused .... I know how you are feeling. Although situation was different. The emotional impact and how scared you must feel is enormous.
But focus on him now : he needs you to be strong and support more than ever.

From what you say ; it sounds ridiculous that it could go anywhere ..... But just in case
Start building your defence facts now
Eg. Build a timeline of events and get your son to fill in as much detail as possible ; his friends could help him
Collate All texts you / he/ his friends had from this girl (and her friends)
Ditto Facebook messages & photos (screen shots)
Get any local knowledge pulled together on her /her movements and family you can to try and work out why she is doing this. Eg. Revenge, sympathy & attention, peer or new boyfriend pressure etc

But key is remain calm and retain the moral high ground ; don't get dragged into any slanging match with her / her family

Good luck
X

[Rights Fighter]

(It's hard for a mum to hear) apparently according to her she had to have an abortion??!?!? Because she got pregnant!

The medical records of this abortion would be interesting, if they exist. If she did have an abortion it's likely they would have kept DNA of the foetus.


Casehardened said:

On a practical note I would say that it is not CPS policy to prosecute* youngsters (i.e. minors) for instances of consensual sexual intercourse

If she has told the police that this was rape as opposed to consensual underage sexual intercourse (USI) then they will take this further than if this was merely two underage teens having sex.

If you can see her Facebook profile(s) and those of some of her friends, they could well assist. Look for other allegations of rape and abuse against others. It could be that this is something she has a habit of doing, to attract attention.

[Narrow Door]

Support

It is horrible to hear your news and I just wanted to say that your son is very lucky to have you there as support. I know when I went through being falsely accused my Parents were what kept me going so please hold on to the fact that you have each other because in such adversity your relationship is what will get you to the other side. I can't give you the advice that perhaps other users can but having lived through a malicious false accusation I wanted to just say that your son will get through this with your support.

Please stay strong.

[Shah]

Sending you hugs at least you found this place so can get good support.

As its been said just try and stay strong hun and do what RF says xx

[tiftaf]

Sending you hugs at least you found this place so can get good support.

As its been said just try and stay strong hun and do what RF says xx

RF knows her stuff. This is my worse nightmare xxxxxxxxx ((hugs))

[Casehardened]

RF knows her stuff. This is my worse nightmare xxxxxxxxx ((hugs))

Great to see you around again