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So I was awoken on Thursday morning at 5 AM to 3 police officers at my door who informed me that I was being arrested under suspicion of digital penetration (In laymans speak, unconsentually putting my fingers in somebody.) I am distraught by this, here's what's happened.
Dragged out by 2 friends of mine, for privacy reasons we'll call them Bob and Jane. So Bob's job involves being a promoter and as such he had us drinking free at a couple of bars for the night, we had the same drinks and rounds the entire night so we were all equally drunk (Very.) Jane and I have had sexual relations in the past and are generally very good friends and are usually quite flirty with each other. Before we had went out we had "Pre drinks" at Jane's flat, during which Jane (Who is bisexual) announced that if she doesn't "Pull" tonight then she wants to have sex with Bob, over the night Bob happens to make it off with another girl and promptly leaves with her, leaving me and Jane, Jane asks that we leave and go back to hers (No sexual connotations at this point) however on the way home she states she's pissed because she just wants sex but Bob has gone off, when we get back to our accommodation (Student accommodation, separate flats) she invites me into hers where we get into bed with each other and play with each other for a bit (Hands only, no penetration, simply rubbing, from the both of us.) As I go to move my hand below her clitoris she moves it away saying no, puts it around her (Basically spooning at this point) and we fall asleep. In the morning we awake, the both of us still with our pants down, I ask her if she's alright which she responds to with yes, we talk about how hungover we are and what a fun night we had, following which she says she wishes to sleep and nurse her hangover and such I should leave, I do so, talk to her on facebook later asking if shes alright and wants to do work later which she says yeah of course to.
The next day goes along as normal.
In the early hours of the morning of the following day I'm arrested, after an 8 hour "Rest"/"Solitary confinement" in the police station I have an interview (With solicitor) in which I see her statement, she states that she is a lesbian, not bisexual, and would never consent to doing stuff with me, even though we originally met from sexual encounters with another person, in which SHE recorded video and pictures, I have access to those pictures and some of the video still, the police asked me to keep hold of them but didn't want me to send them over yet for whatever reason I do not know. In her statement she says that she forgot every moment from leaving the bar to waking up in the morning, apparently with my fingers inside her, to which she states that she then fell asleep again until later that morning in which she then states she asked for help from a neighbour who didn't answer and decided to kick me out. This in stark contrast to what happened and her statements riddles with holes, especially with the convenient 8 odd hours she "Forgot."
However, I have now been given pre charge conditional bail for 3 months, the conditions of which state I can not return to my student flat, they have taken a lot of my clothes, my Phone, contacted my university which could lead to me being removed from studies (Meaning no student finance to pay the rent on the apartment that I can't even enter.) and I am not allowed to talk or contact her in any way. How on earth can they take so much from me on such an unfounded allegation without even a mitre of proof? I'm pulling my hair out and I have to go back onto medication (Anti psychotics, aptly for my psychosis diagnosis.) to cope with the stress from this and other combined problems from the past few weeks.
I phoned the recommended solicitor Chris Saltrese who stated that there's pretty much no chance in hell of me doing anything until the police make further investigations and that if I wanted help I would be expected to pay in the region of 30-35 THOUSAND pounds as they do not do legal aid, which is very obviously out of my reach as a student. They did however advise that I come to this forum and ask for advice, so I suppose that's what I'm here to do, can anybody help or advise in any way, this is all foreign to me as I've not had troubles with police in the past and it feels like such an injustice that I am effectively being extremely punished (No home, have to live back at my dads, no phone, lots of my clothes confiscated, prospect of losing university placement.) without any charge or any evidence.
Dragged out by 2 friends of mine, for privacy reasons we'll call them Bob and Jane. So Bob's job involves being a promoter and as such he had us drinking free at a couple of bars for the night, we had the same drinks and rounds the entire night so we were all equally drunk (Very.) Jane and I have had sexual relations in the past and are generally very good friends and are usually quite flirty with each other. Before we had went out we had "Pre drinks" at Jane's flat, during which Jane (Who is bisexual) announced that if she doesn't "Pull" tonight then she wants to have sex with Bob, over the night Bob happens to make it off with another girl and promptly leaves with her, leaving me and Jane, Jane asks that we leave and go back to hers (No sexual connotations at this point) however on the way home she states she's pissed because she just wants sex but Bob has gone off, when we get back to our accommodation (Student accommodation, separate flats) she invites me into hers where we get into bed with each other and play with each other for a bit (Hands only, no penetration, simply rubbing, from the both of us.) As I go to move my hand below her clitoris she moves it away saying no, puts it around her (Basically spooning at this point) and we fall asleep. In the morning we awake, the both of us still with our pants down, I ask her if she's alright which she responds to with yes, we talk about how hungover we are and what a fun night we had, following which she says she wishes to sleep and nurse her hangover and such I should leave, I do so, talk to her on facebook later asking if shes alright and wants to do work later which she says yeah of course to.
The next day goes along as normal.
In the early hours of the morning of the following day I'm arrested, after an 8 hour "Rest"/"Solitary confinement" in the police station I have an interview (With solicitor) in which I see her statement, she states that she is a lesbian, not bisexual, and would never consent to doing stuff with me, even though we originally met from sexual encounters with another person, in which SHE recorded video and pictures, I have access to those pictures and some of the video still, the police asked me to keep hold of them but didn't want me to send them over yet for whatever reason I do not know. In her statement she says that she forgot every moment from leaving the bar to waking up in the morning, apparently with my fingers inside her, to which she states that she then fell asleep again until later that morning in which she then states she asked for help from a neighbour who didn't answer and decided to kick me out. This in stark contrast to what happened and her statements riddles with holes, especially with the convenient 8 odd hours she "Forgot."
However, I have now been given pre charge conditional bail for 3 months, the conditions of which state I can not return to my student flat, they have taken a lot of my clothes, my Phone, contacted my university which could lead to me being removed from studies (Meaning no student finance to pay the rent on the apartment that I can't even enter.) and I am not allowed to talk or contact her in any way. How on earth can they take so much from me on such an unfounded allegation without even a mitre of proof? I'm pulling my hair out and I have to go back onto medication (Anti psychotics, aptly for my psychosis diagnosis.) to cope with the stress from this and other combined problems from the past few weeks.
I phoned the recommended solicitor Chris Saltrese who stated that there's pretty much no chance in hell of me doing anything until the police make further investigations and that if I wanted help I would be expected to pay in the region of 30-35 THOUSAND pounds as they do not do legal aid, which is very obviously out of my reach as a student. They did however advise that I come to this forum and ask for advice, so I suppose that's what I'm here to do, can anybody help or advise in any way, this is all foreign to me as I've not had troubles with police in the past and it feels like such an injustice that I am effectively being extremely punished (No home, have to live back at my dads, no phone, lots of my clothes confiscated, prospect of losing university placement.) without any charge or any evidence.
. If i was you i'd speak to your university, they may be more understanding then you think???? I cant really offer any more advice (well i'm not even sure if that is advice lol) but just keep strong, its good you found this forum and read the threads as it is wise to have more information on the way the police work (or dont work lol)
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