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i previously mentioned about my OH being arrested for historical sexual abuse on a child, the FA is doing it as a favour for a neighbour we had a falling out with.
Anyway, yesterday was strange, had a FANTASTIC social worker meeting where all we received was praise for how well we're coping with the situation. Was on a bit of a unbelievable high from that then i get a phone call from OH in the evening because the friend he visits often has had a social worker around to hers.
She has a 12 year old daughter and this friend is also our supervisor. A couple of weeks ago my my OH was round my friends because my iron had packed up he offered to do some of the ironing for me,so i took the clothes around their and he ironed them in my friends bedroom (lot more space there than the rest of the house) during this time he was unaware that the 12year old was in her bedroom, there's a knock at the door and this police 'friend of our friend' comes in and wanting to speak to the daughter, the daughter goes downstairs then says "oh our friend is here do you want to met him" and then my OH comes down the stairs, admittingly its not looking good, my OH is puzzled why there is a police officer in the house anyway, but the mum (our friend) isn't fussed and then mentioned that my OH is visiting but he is going through a rough time in his family life at the moment.... then she leaves it there and says no more!!!
After the police woman leaves my OH says that our friend needs to explain everything to the police woman and that she also needs to explain that they were in separate rooms from the daughter and then asks what was she doing round her anyway, her reply was "well, i phoned her because i had trouble with ___(daughter) before and she helped me out and she's been wanting to skive of school and stuff, but don't worry i'll explain things to her, don't worry about her, she's fine and a friend of ours".... so when my OH told me about this i was angry, she phoned the plice around and not even told my OH that she had done it, and someone phoning the police on their own daughter??????
Anyway after being reassured that she will 'deal' with it, me and OH go round their for a celebratory cup of tea and i have to then leave to pick up kids from school, and then after i left the police woman returns with a social worker.. The social worker didn't seem happy about my OH being there, and then also seemed to know a bit about us (we live in a row of houses that are new build!) and then my oh explains about the false allegation (the falling out with the neighbour ect..) and turns out our friend hadn't bothered to update them.
The social worker lightened up a little, the police woman was then very apologetic because she didn't know the whole picture but the social worker says she will have to inform our social worker and the local police officer in our village who knows the trouble i have been having with this neighbour.... what's worse is that this woman is one of our supervisers for supervised access and i have had to make the decision for her to no longer be and that my OH is not to visit the house again.
Our friend is so angry with the police officer and admits she is angry with her self, but do i send an email to my social worker to explain, leave it as it is, and whats are the complications for us. We have never signed an agreement with the social workers and there is nothing about being around children supervised/unsupervised in my husband bail conditions, so is there anything that could go wrong for us.....
Sorry long post, but just don't know what to think about it
xx
i previously mentioned about my OH being arrested for historical sexual abuse on a child, the FA is doing it as a favour for a neighbour we had a falling out with.
Anyway, yesterday was strange, had a FANTASTIC social worker meeting where all we received was praise for how well we're coping with the situation. Was on a bit of a unbelievable high from that then i get a phone call from OH in the evening because the friend he visits often has had a social worker around to hers.
She has a 12 year old daughter and this friend is also our supervisor. A couple of weeks ago my my OH was round my friends because my iron had packed up he offered to do some of the ironing for me,so i took the clothes around their and he ironed them in my friends bedroom (lot more space there than the rest of the house) during this time he was unaware that the 12year old was in her bedroom, there's a knock at the door and this police 'friend of our friend' comes in and wanting to speak to the daughter, the daughter goes downstairs then says "oh our friend is here do you want to met him" and then my OH comes down the stairs, admittingly its not looking good, my OH is puzzled why there is a police officer in the house anyway, but the mum (our friend) isn't fussed and then mentioned that my OH is visiting but he is going through a rough time in his family life at the moment.... then she leaves it there and says no more!!!
After the police woman leaves my OH says that our friend needs to explain everything to the police woman and that she also needs to explain that they were in separate rooms from the daughter and then asks what was she doing round her anyway, her reply was "well, i phoned her because i had trouble with ___(daughter) before and she helped me out and she's been wanting to skive of school and stuff, but don't worry i'll explain things to her, don't worry about her, she's fine and a friend of ours".... so when my OH told me about this i was angry, she phoned the plice around and not even told my OH that she had done it, and someone phoning the police on their own daughter??????
Anyway after being reassured that she will 'deal' with it, me and OH go round their for a celebratory cup of tea and i have to then leave to pick up kids from school, and then after i left the police woman returns with a social worker.. The social worker didn't seem happy about my OH being there, and then also seemed to know a bit about us (we live in a row of houses that are new build!) and then my oh explains about the false allegation (the falling out with the neighbour ect..) and turns out our friend hadn't bothered to update them.
The social worker lightened up a little, the police woman was then very apologetic because she didn't know the whole picture but the social worker says she will have to inform our social worker and the local police officer in our village who knows the trouble i have been having with this neighbour.... what's worse is that this woman is one of our supervisers for supervised access and i have had to make the decision for her to no longer be and that my OH is not to visit the house again.
Our friend is so angry with the police officer and admits she is angry with her self, but do i send an email to my social worker to explain, leave it as it is, and whats are the complications for us. We have never signed an agreement with the social workers and there is nothing about being around children supervised/unsupervised in my husband bail conditions, so is there anything that could go wrong for us.....
Sorry long post, but just don't know what to think about it
xx
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