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Currently feel like we're on the roller-coaster of hell.
My OH sister has accused him of historical sexual child abuse, this isn't the first time she's accused him of this when she was younger she made the same accusation and was temporarily removed by social services from their family home (social services had already been involved with her for a number of years before this, she has a history of making things up and some mental health issues). My OH at the time was interview informally by the police and social services as well as his parents giving statements. Back then he wasn't fully aware of what she'd claimed he had done just that it was some sort of sexual abuse. The case was dropped soon after, he was also never told why now we know it's because she told the police and social services that she'd lied.
Now she's decided to bring it all up again she casts a massive shadow of doubt due to her history and in the course of being with my OH she's used it as blackmail multiple times when she wasn't happy about something or an argument hadn't gone her way. Which is what's prompted her to go the police this time, every other time she pressures her mum to call him round and try 'sort' things out between them. This time I'd had quite enough of living in fear and being threatened so he told them he wasn't meeting them to discuss anything (the original argument was over fb post about her trying to stir rumours) his mum then was being very instant that she was bringing his sister over to talk to OUR house and even after I got on the phone and told her over and over again that she wasn't to set one foot near by house with her she wouldn't let up. That day we went to the police about the threatening messages and worry of his sister coming to our house as she has a violent temper.
Things seemed to go ok for a few weeks we had a letter sent stating that she wasn't to contact us any more and that an injunction order would be put against her if she ignored it. Then last week we had a knock on the door from the police telling us she'd made an accusation and that they'd been trying to contact him.
He wasn't placed under arrest or held after the interview and the police we're unaware of the argument they had that day or the messages we were sent, they hadn't got hold of the original police file or her social services paper work yet and said they'd be re interviewing others who had already given statements due to his interview. It seems his mum's painted a very rosy picture of the relationship and family life with his sister. Her accusations are extremely vague she only gave a age at which it supposedly started and said it went on for a few years. So now it's just a waiting game the police said that one of three things will happen they wont take it any further or submit to CPS. I don't know if it's a standard to say that but one thing I found unusual was that his sister had a character witness statement for her from her friend when she went to police this time.
Sorry if this seems all over the place I've found it really hard to concentrate recently I've been struggling quite bad with depression for a few months now after having a MC and this has just knocked me sideways. I just feel like everything in the life is crumpling apart just when I was starting to make progress. I'm very fortunate that my side of the family and good friends have rallied around us.
I hope the police see she's just uses this as a trump card and it's the first time she actually gone and done it. She even says in a message sent to me that unless we met her she was going to the police, insinuating that she'd drop it :S Or maybe they'll be something in the original reports from SS he was never questioned further she was never removed again and no protect plans were put in place he was allowed to be around her and left in the house with her when he's parent went away. Surely if SS thought she was in any sort of danger they'd set some thing up, that was less than 5 years ago when SS jump the gun at any sign.
My OH sister has accused him of historical sexual child abuse, this isn't the first time she's accused him of this when she was younger she made the same accusation and was temporarily removed by social services from their family home (social services had already been involved with her for a number of years before this, she has a history of making things up and some mental health issues). My OH at the time was interview informally by the police and social services as well as his parents giving statements. Back then he wasn't fully aware of what she'd claimed he had done just that it was some sort of sexual abuse. The case was dropped soon after, he was also never told why now we know it's because she told the police and social services that she'd lied.
Now she's decided to bring it all up again she casts a massive shadow of doubt due to her history and in the course of being with my OH she's used it as blackmail multiple times when she wasn't happy about something or an argument hadn't gone her way. Which is what's prompted her to go the police this time, every other time she pressures her mum to call him round and try 'sort' things out between them. This time I'd had quite enough of living in fear and being threatened so he told them he wasn't meeting them to discuss anything (the original argument was over fb post about her trying to stir rumours) his mum then was being very instant that she was bringing his sister over to talk to OUR house and even after I got on the phone and told her over and over again that she wasn't to set one foot near by house with her she wouldn't let up. That day we went to the police about the threatening messages and worry of his sister coming to our house as she has a violent temper.
Things seemed to go ok for a few weeks we had a letter sent stating that she wasn't to contact us any more and that an injunction order would be put against her if she ignored it. Then last week we had a knock on the door from the police telling us she'd made an accusation and that they'd been trying to contact him.
He wasn't placed under arrest or held after the interview and the police we're unaware of the argument they had that day or the messages we were sent, they hadn't got hold of the original police file or her social services paper work yet and said they'd be re interviewing others who had already given statements due to his interview. It seems his mum's painted a very rosy picture of the relationship and family life with his sister. Her accusations are extremely vague she only gave a age at which it supposedly started and said it went on for a few years. So now it's just a waiting game the police said that one of three things will happen they wont take it any further or submit to CPS. I don't know if it's a standard to say that but one thing I found unusual was that his sister had a character witness statement for her from her friend when she went to police this time.
Sorry if this seems all over the place I've found it really hard to concentrate recently I've been struggling quite bad with depression for a few months now after having a MC and this has just knocked me sideways. I just feel like everything in the life is crumpling apart just when I was starting to make progress. I'm very fortunate that my side of the family and good friends have rallied around us.
I hope the police see she's just uses this as a trump card and it's the first time she actually gone and done it. She even says in a message sent to me that unless we met her she was going to the police, insinuating that she'd drop it :S Or maybe they'll be something in the original reports from SS he was never questioned further she was never removed again and no protect plans were put in place he was allowed to be around her and left in the house with her when he's parent went away. Surely if SS thought she was in any sort of danger they'd set some thing up, that was less than 5 years ago when SS jump the gun at any sign.
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