My son was accused of rape and had a video to prove it was not, but he did get charged with having an image of a child under 18.
He was 20 at the time and had met the girl through a friend who had introduced them with the initial intention of having a threesome. However the friend backed out and my son went on to have sex with her.
Almost a month later the police turned up as she had accused him of raping her. Stupidly he agreed to 'go down the station for a little chat' as he was unaware of anything untoward. On being accused of rape he denied it and showed them the video on his phone, plus previous messages arranging the threesome, and thought that would be the end of it. The girl turned out to be under 16.
He is currently in prison having been sentenced to 3 years. The girl had lied about the rape but the police, cps and judge watched the video and decided that she was unaware that she was being recorded. He pleaded guilty to having the recording he used as his defence.
I feel that he is actually serving a lesser sentence than he would be serving for rape so realise things could be a lot worse.
My current concern is that he has been in counselling since young for various traumatic incidents and was making progress when childrens mh services provision ended when he was 17. Since the accusation his mental health deteriorated and his suicide attempts, self-harming and self-medication escalated. At the moment he is doing OK in prison although it took him about a year to settle down into prison life and he is on a wing with other vulnerable prisoners and accesses mind counselling sessions.
I am concerned over discussions with his probation officer who has made comments like '..when he comes in saying he feels suicidal I just want to call his bluff...' and 'there's nothing wrong with him - he just has ptsd, borderline personality disorder and adjustment disorder' (?). She wants him to go to a bail hostel and take a SO course - I am really not sure these are appropriate but who is best to talk to about my concerns?
He was 20 at the time and had met the girl through a friend who had introduced them with the initial intention of having a threesome. However the friend backed out and my son went on to have sex with her.
Almost a month later the police turned up as she had accused him of raping her. Stupidly he agreed to 'go down the station for a little chat' as he was unaware of anything untoward. On being accused of rape he denied it and showed them the video on his phone, plus previous messages arranging the threesome, and thought that would be the end of it. The girl turned out to be under 16.
He is currently in prison having been sentenced to 3 years. The girl had lied about the rape but the police, cps and judge watched the video and decided that she was unaware that she was being recorded. He pleaded guilty to having the recording he used as his defence.
I feel that he is actually serving a lesser sentence than he would be serving for rape so realise things could be a lot worse.
My current concern is that he has been in counselling since young for various traumatic incidents and was making progress when childrens mh services provision ended when he was 17. Since the accusation his mental health deteriorated and his suicide attempts, self-harming and self-medication escalated. At the moment he is doing OK in prison although it took him about a year to settle down into prison life and he is on a wing with other vulnerable prisoners and accesses mind counselling sessions.
I am concerned over discussions with his probation officer who has made comments like '..when he comes in saying he feels suicidal I just want to call his bluff...' and 'there's nothing wrong with him - he just has ptsd, borderline personality disorder and adjustment disorder' (?). She wants him to go to a bail hostel and take a SO course - I am really not sure these are appropriate but who is best to talk to about my concerns?
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