Newguy

[Upsetguy]

Hi I don't know we're to start really I'm still in shock
Ok let's start with my childhood my mother divorced my dad and met a new guy he batterd me my mom did the same she hit me so bad I had inch and a half thick welches all down my leg at 13 that bad I couldn't walk for a week at 13 I was told no rent no food so most of the time I stole and ate at family houses
Her sister doesn't talk to her due to this the whole family knows how bad I was treated
The other day she gave my kids abuse over Facebook I rang the first time in 18 months and told her she abused me I wouldn't put up with it I'll goto the police and tell them of the abuse

The day after she came to my house with my sister and basicly said if I grass her up she and my sister would say I messed with her pvt place and made her touch my bits she then said we can all make lies up
I'm shaking I've had heart problems for last few years and am seeing black spots I don't know what to do
My brother said he would pay for lie detector I said yes ok they said no there busy
Plz plz help I need advice do I tell the police or keep quiet I have children while these nasty people say if I keep quiet they will

[Bene]

Hi I don't know we're to start really I'm still in shock
Ok let's start with my childhood my mother divorced my dad and met a new guy he batterd me my mom did the same she hit me so bad I had inch and a half thick welches all down my leg at 13 that bad I couldn't walk for a week at 13 I was told no rent no food so most of the time I stole and ate at family houses
Her sister doesn't talk to her due to this the whole family knows how bad I was treated
The other day she gave my kids abuse over Facebook I rang the first time in 18 months and told her she abused me I wouldn't put up with it I'll goto the police and tell them of the abuse

The day after she came to my house with my sister and basicly said if I grass her up she and my sister would say I messed with her pvt place and made her touch my bits she then said we can all make lies up
I'm shaking I've had heart problems for last few years and am seeing black spots I don't know what to do
My brother said he would pay for lie detector I said yes ok they said no there busy
Plz plz help I need advice do I tell the police or keep quiet I have children while these nasty people say if I keep quiet they will

Hello newguy )

Welcome to the form.

I don't really know what to say as I myself have never been a victim of false accusation but I'm a rape victim. So I can't give you much advice on that aspect but what I can give you is emotional supprt, and some encouragement if and when needed. The other guys on the forum are much more use to you than me.
I first want to apologise for the abuse you suffered as a child.

I know this may sound hard bit please remain calm. The last thing you want or need is to trigger any further heart problems. You have to think about your health and your own sanity, first!! If your seeing black spots go to your GP or the hospital urgently!! Please!!

And secondly regarding the threats this woman made to you, if she has not yet gone to the police.
Was there anyone else present in your house who herd her threaten you? And you say that other family members know about the abuse you suffered?
If the woman makes an offical compliant against you to the police than other family members, brother) or anyone else that was present when she made that threat to you, if willing can give a statement to the police to support your account.
Save all the Facebook message that the woman sent your kids)
If there has not yet been an offical compliant against you by this woman and your sister) e.g they have not yet gone to the police and reported you.
And as you say you want to report her for childhood abuse) i would suggest the same would apply)
Unfortunately lie detectors are not admissible as evidence in criminal proceedings in this country. So it won't be much use to you.
But as there has not yet been an offical compliant against you) I can imagine that your feeling very anxious and scared at the moment which is very understandable) but there's not much you can do in that aspect.

But please try to remain calm collective and think rationale, remember your health comes first.

[Upsetguy]

Thanks for your reply
My son daughter and 2 friends were on the stairs watching out the window so they would give statements
My mom and sister admits on tape she abused me but it was due to stress only
The only reason they are saying this is because I said she abused me
Do I still goto the police or stay quiet?
I've seen the TV lately and it seems a lot of people getting put in prison on people's words
I'm really scared I have three kids
like I said the whole family knows my mom abused me aunts uncles cousins nan
So I just want some advice really I would just like to add she let me have her 2 children for weeks at a time when she went on holidays with different men for months me and the wife looked after them from 9 am till 5
Would if this was true why would she do that
Like I said I just need advice do I goto the police or stay quiet
Sorry I'm sat here in hospital rambling
And thx bene for reply I'm sorry to here about your past my thoughts are with you

[Bene]

Thanks for your reply
My son daughter and 2 friends were on the stairs watching out the window so they would give statements
My mom and sister admits on tape she abused me but it was due to stress only
The only reason they are saying this is because I said she abused me
Do I still goto the police or stay quiet?
I've seen the TV lately and it seems a lot of people getting put in prison on people's words
I'm really scared I have three kids
like I said the whole family knows my mom abused me aunts uncles cousins nan
So I just want some advice really I would just like to add she let me have her 2 children for weeks at a time when she went on holidays with different men for months me and the wife looked after them from 9 am till 5
Would if this was true why would she do that
Like I said I just need advice do I goto the police or stay quiet
Sorry I'm sat here in hospital rambling
And thx bene for reply I'm sorry to here about your past my thoughts are with you

Hello new guy,

I hope your feeling a little better this morning than last night. I understand that this must be a very scary time for you, when where scared our minds tends to run off with all kinds of horrible thoughts. But please try to remain calm. This woman wants to control you! This is another form of psychological abuse on here part. Don't let her win!!!!!

There has not yet been an official compliment against you!! So please stop with prison talks.
I would always encourage a victim of a crime to go to the police, however this is you and your choice only. It's for you to decide to go to the police and report the childhood abuse and also her threats. It's not for me to say yes or otherwise.

As you had other people present when she was threatening you and other family members who knows about the abuse, if you do decide to go to the police this will go in your favour) due to your abuse did you ever seek medical assist did to injuries? From my own personal experience, what the police tends to do with historical cases, is look at medical records, social services files and someone's school records. And also speak with family. I reckon they want to get the bigger picture)

If you do go to the police, certainly mentioned the threats she made to you) that can be seen as a firm of blackmail. Perhaps blackmail is not the correct word to use)
Anything you have) against her) if you decide to go to the police tell them.


Let's say once she had been interviewed and notified that an allegation has been made against her and than later on and tries to turn the table on you) and make a compliant against you) I honestly think she will be stupid to do that)as it will only make the situation worst for herself. but if she does, the police have a duty of care to investigate any compliant brought to them. However I will doubt that investigation will go any further. as the police will be able to see this is just a way of her adjusting the attention onto you and against her. This will only help prove your case that she's a nasty woman)



Please Hun, you must get prison out of your head at the moment.
Try to remain calm, go to your GP and inform them about the black stops. Please try and not put too much stress on your heart) you have your 2 young beautiful children to live for

I hope I was any help to you)

Hope it all works out best to you x

[Rights Fighter]

I can't see your mothers complaint being taken seriously. You were a child, she was an adult and yet she claimed you indecently assaulted you? I can just imagine the cross examination on that, brining in that when the allegation by your sister is put to any jury!

For Gods sake do not go to the police.

[jittery]

hi

Hi I don't know we're to start really I'm still in shock
Ok let's start with my childhood my mother divorced my dad and met a new guy he batterd me my mom did the same she hit me so bad I had inch and a half thick welches all down my leg at 13 that bad I couldn't walk for a week at 13 I was told no rent no food so most of the time I stole and ate at family houses
Her sister doesn't talk to her due to this the whole family knows how bad I was treated
The other day she gave my kids abuse over Facebook I rang the first time in 18 months and told her she abused me I wouldn't put up with it I'll goto the police and tell them of the abuse

The day after she came to my house with my sister and basicly said if I grass her up she and my sister would say I messed with her pvt place and made her touch my bits she then said we can all make lies up
I'm shaking I've had heart problems for last few years and am seeing black spots I don't know what to do
My brother said he would pay for lie detector I said yes ok they said no there busy
Plz plz help I need advice do I tell the police or keep quiet I have children while these nasty people say if I keep quiet they will

I can't help thinking , like RF that you as a 13 year old boy FORCED your mother to touch you? And messed with her private parts? Sure people can make lies up, the trouble is they tend to get caught out; and my feeling is that this would be pretty transparent to a well educated 10 year old never mind people trained to pick holes in stories!
Like Bene, I can't advise you what to do, but I would think long and hard about it, especially if you have health problems

[Upsetguy]

Sorry

Sorry when I first wrote the post I was very upset it isnt my mom saying I touched her it's my sister she and my mom are very close I thought I was close with her but when I said my mom abused me she turned very nasty when she said that I touched her she was smiling truly evil but she is her mothers daughter
Thank god my brother and wife are saying it's my mom forcing her controls over me yet again
I was in hospital for 6 hours till my blood pressure settled down they have upped my heart pills

Basicly I believe she won't goto the police if I say nothing about what mom did to me
I spoke to my brother today he says now he is older he is ashamed he did nothing to help but admitted he was happy it was me not him at the time which I understand he always tries to help me and after all we was kids
There isn't much proof of her hitting me apart from family I wasn't aloud to go to hospitals obviously she didn't want it coming out
Well it's late I hope I cleared this up

[YearsOfHell]

Be careful!

Sorry when I first wrote the post I was very upset it isnt my mom saying I touched her it's my sister she and my mom are very close I thought I was close with her but when I said my mom abused me she turned very nasty when she said that I touched her she was smiling truly evil but she is her mothers daughter
Thank god my brother and wife are saying it's my mom forcing her controls over me yet again
I was in hospital for 6 hours till my blood pressure settled down they have upped my heart pills

Basicly I believe she won't goto the police if I say nothing about what mom did to me
I spoke to my brother today he says now he is older he is ashamed he did nothing to help but admitted he was happy it was me not him at the time which I understand he always tries to help me and after all we was kids
There isn't much proof of her hitting me apart from family I wasn't aloud to go to hospitals obviously she didn't want it coming out
Well it's late I hope I cleared this up

You must be really careful of your health.
Look after yourself now. Nothing has happened yet so try not to panic.
And it may never happen so look after number one for the time being.
Don't go to the police, it could be an empty threat.
In the meantime, try and keep a file of any evidence to support your side of the story.
You may never need it but it doesn't hurt to be prepared. And it will give u something to focus on when your getting stressed!
Best of luck
YoH