Accused of rape

[Lat]

I have been accused of rape also.

[Lat]

Hello

I have mild autism. The police have my iPhone, none of the messages between me and her in it will convict me. I went to police station as a volunteer with my nurse and solictitor. I have not been arrested or charged. I am not out on bail. It's being going on almost two months. The solicitor needs to speak to the police for an update. She came from a previous abusive relationship. She has self harmed. She has tried suicide five times. She has two autistic twins. She lets them play eighteen rated video games, even though they are classed as minors by the council at sixteen. We will assassinate her character if it goes to court. I have two begs of her sons's video games, I found the eighteen rated ones. One son is very autistic. Her son's fingerprints should be on the discs. She let's them stay in their room playing games all the time. I believe I'm innocent and it angers me as a mild autistic guy that they play these games. I reckon the non autistic eighteen year old son got the games for them. The Playstation two is an old system, so I guess they have had these games a few years now.

[YearsOfHell]

I have mild autism. The police have my iPhone, none of the messages between me and her in it will convict me. I went to police station as a volunteer with my nurse and solictitor. I have not been arrested or charged. I am not out on bail. It's being going on almost two months. The solicitor needs to speak to the police for an update. She came from a previous abusive relationship. She has self harmed. She has tried suicide five times. She has two autistic twins. She lets them play eighteen rated video games, even though they are classed as minors by the council at sixteen. We will assassinate her character if it goes to court. I have two begs of her sons's video games, I found the eighteen rated ones. One son is very autistic. Her son's fingerprints should be on the discs. She let's them stay in their room playing games all the time. I believe I'm innocent and it angers me as a mild autistic guy that they play these games. I reckon the non autistic eighteen year old son got the games for them. The Playstation two is an old system, so I guess they have had these games a few years now.

Welcome to the forum. Sorry that you have found yourself here.

Unfortunately this is a common issue with games ratings. My children are constant under pressure to get games above their age rating.
Everyone at school seems to be playing on games rated 18 and my children get teased because they're "not allowed" to have them!
Particularly my son who is primary age gets told he's a baby not playing 12 rated games!

But it's not something the police will care about and the girl in question is not the one on trial here.
The police will take her character into account but only to assess if she would be a "credible" witness during any future trial.
You're a long way off from that situation so try not to panic.
In the meantime concentrate on your side of the story and anything that can be used to disprove the allegation. Give this information to your solicitor or keep it to yourself until you know more about the allegation.
Unless your charged you won't need it. The police may well use anything you give them against you so be careful what you give the police. They want to make a good case.
Stay strong.

[jittery]

hi

I have mild autism. The police have my iPhone, none of the messages between me and her in it will convict me. I went to police station as a volunteer with my nurse and solictitor. I have not been arrested or charged. I am not out on bail. It's being going on almost two months. The solicitor needs to speak to the police for an update. She came from a previous abusive relationship. She has self harmed. She has tried suicide five times. She has two autistic twins. She lets them play eighteen rated video games, even though they are classed as minors by the council at sixteen. We will assassinate her character if it goes to court. I have two begs of her sons's video games, I found the eighteen rated ones. One son is very autistic. Her son's fingerprints should be on the discs. She let's them stay in their room playing games all the time. I believe I'm innocent and it angers me as a mild autistic guy that they play these games. I reckon the non autistic eighteen year old son got the games for them. The Playstation two is an old system, so I guess they have had these games a few years now.

Sorry to meet you here, phones can be a great way of clearing your name! Thank the gods for forensics!

It took about 8 weeks for my phone to be checked, so you may well hear something soon- let's hoped it's good news!

Stay strong!

[hell on earth]

In my brothers case. ...the phone was the strongest weapon. ...should be in your case as well.
I do thank God even today for those exchanged mesaages. .for sure would took longer if it wasn't for the messages

[Lat]

Hello again

The detective in Newcastle that's investigating her allegations against me does not return my phone calls and he knows that I have mild autism. I had a feeling that he did not like me in the police interview. I don't think that he was happy that I answered all of the many questions that he threw at me and also the fact that I did not loose my temper. Two weeks ago I phoned my solicitor and we agreed that she would contact him and find out the latest and then phone me back. I have heard nothing from her. I will email her or phone her about this.

She has a PIN notice out against me. At the end of March/beginning of April she unblocked me on Facebook and said that she missed me. Then she turned up un-announced at my apartment the day before my birthday. She buzzed my intercom and I asked who it was. She then told me that I have mail. I went downstairs to find a birthday card with the words, "I loved you then and I love you now, love Julie" written inside. With the card there was a farewell love letter, the letter did not even mention anything about rape. It just asked her why I treated her badly. I came back upstairs to see her walking down the street. I thought she was going to the pub, but she said that she went for a walk along the river. When she was walking I phoned the police. The female detective who is working on the case along with a male one asked me if I wanted a PIN notice against her. I said no. She told me to keep away from her or I would be arrested. She said that she would phone me back after phoning Julie, the detective did not. When Angie came back from her walk after almost one hour she buzzed me and I ignored it. She sat in her car for over fifteen minutes in front of my flat before driving away. I later phoned her and we agreed that she would come on my birthday the next day on the twelfth of April. When she came on my birthday I thought she was getting back together with me, we kissed and I groped her a little. When she was crying on the sofa, I comforted her, she later said that it was because of the after effects of the rape. She stayed almost three hours, then left. That was the last time that I saw her. She says she does not want to see me because she cannot put it behind her. She's changed her iPhone number and the emails I sometimes sent her go unanswered. I sent her a drunk one last week telling her to f....off. I guess I should apologise to her for that. She said that my birthday present was her cancelling the rape allegations that she's making against me. She has changed her mind about cancelling because on another previous Facebook Messenger text I told her to drunkenly f....off because she did not come to my home for a Friday 6pm appointment that she said she was coming to. She said that she had to stay with her twenty year old daughter because she was suffering from depression and that she is supporting her with her university project.

[Lat]

Her name

I have used tow female names:Julie and Angie, neither of which are her real name. From now on I will call her Julie...

[frightened spouse]

Hi Lat

I can to some degree understand the difficulties you are having with the situation as I was once a support worker for adults with autism as well as having an autistic daughter of my own.


You mentioned in your first post that you attended the police interview with your nurse as well as the solicitor. Do you have regular contact with this nurse or was it just for the interview ? it maybe a good idea to try and get extra support to help you through this.

You must not contact the woman that has accused you, it will not help the situation and may well make matters worse. It is very frustrating waiting for updates, many members on the forum experience long waits and the police often do not return phone calls , this is unfortunately all part of the process.


Take Care

Frightened Spouse

[Lat]

@Frightened Spouse

Yes she is my nurse, she's from Namibia, Africa and she claims to have A Masters in working with Autistic people. She claims that she's not allowed to legally visit my apartment until the case is over. She want's me to visit her monthly at the hospital, a few days ago we talked on the phone. She said that I can contact her anytime.

How can contacting her by email to try to get her back make matters worse? The police have my iPhone. There are lot's of messages between us on there and not one message has me admitting that I raped her and none of my emails admit rape. I have no previous sexual offences and my criminal record consists of minor things. I have not been in trouble with the police since November 2009. The police have no evidence against me I believe and I also believe in my innocence. I really believed that what happened that night was consensual and what angers me is that she had sex with me twice after the alleged night and she was okay with that. I thought we were in love.

[frightened spouse]

Hi Lat how often did the nurse visit you before the false allegation happened? If there were frequent visits you should have been allocated a male support worker until matters were concluded.

Any kind of communication with the woman that is accusing you could make matters worse, even if she makes contact with you, you should ignore her. She might make another allegation or complain to police that you are harassing her. That's the problem with false allegations you never know what the accuser will do next , so don't give her the opportunity to make things worse. Don't phone/text/social media contact her and definitely do not meet up with her.

Do you have family members that can support you with this ?

[Lat]

@Frightened Spouse/Anyone else

She has blocked me again on Facebook about one month ago, she has changed her iPhone number, I do no have her home phone number. I know her village and home address, but I'm not a stalker so I will not be visiting her announced or unannounced. Remember I said that she came to my place unannounced the day before my birthday. I'm a once a week binge drinker and when I drink I just cannot help myself; I go to Yahoo Mail and send her a few drunken emails. If the emails were abusive I do feel the need to email her sober to apologise. She did say that she left me because of drink and the rape allegation. I never hit her by the way, she just claims that I criticized her family whilst drunk and sometimes her as well. Around the thirteenth of May I got a phone call from that police women telling me not to contact her because I used the F word to her on Facebook whist drunk. She generally ignores my emails and does not reply. The last time she phoned me was on the eighth of May when I was drunk.

She said that she did not want to see me and that she wants her two autistic son's Playstation two games back. They are sixteen. They sit in their room playing video games all of the time. I think maybe they are temporarily banned from education for behaviour issues. The mild autistic one goes to normal college and the other one goes to a special college. According to the council they are minors until they turn eighteen, one of the twins has severe autism. She has been allowing them to play on eighteen rated video games, there are three such games in one of the two bags. When I phone social services about this and told this social worker that when I was doing a iPhone video call with her in around March, she was looking for a razor blade in her room to self harm with when her eighteen year old non-autistic son was in a police cell for arguing with his cousin. She has tried suicide five times, was raped on a boat in dock by a Chinese sailor as a baby, abused in every way by her previous partner. When I anonymously phoned social services about this, the lady was concerned and wanted to know who she was. I did not say because I'm afraid of possible violent repercussions if I report her. She calls herself a Christian also. I do worry about her.

The nurse visited me about three times before the allegations; my psychiatrist and my nurse believe in my innocence.

[Lat]

Hello

Anyone is welcome to reply to this issue.

[Lat]

@Frightened Spouse/Anyone else

My brother and my mother are supporting me. We are not a close family. My brother lives over fifteen miles away in Northumberland and I have not seen him since Christmas Day and since he moved further away from my mother(he used to live in the next village), he does not see her much either. My mother does not emphasise much with binge drinkers, even though she used to be a smoker for years. My nurse did not offer me a male nurse, she just said that I must visit her at the hospital and when it's over, she said I can come and visit you again. She claimed that, that's the law or/and how NHS works in this situation.

[Casehardened]

I'm a once a week binge drinker and when I drink I just cannot help myself; I go to Yahoo Mail and send her a few drunken emails. If the emails were abusive I do feel the need to email her sober to apologise.

Anyone is welcome to reply to this issue.

As Frightened Spouse has already told you, breaking bail conditions is in itself an offence; it seems to me that many of your issues could be solved by abstaining from alcohol for a while if not for good!

Sorry if this reply offends......

[Lat]

@Casehardened/anyone else

Alcoholism is a disease and an addiction. I went to an NHS addictions centre for the first time two weeks ago. The last time I had a binge drinking session was last Thursday when I drank eleven pints of beer that was around 4.7% in alcohol strength.

I went to the police interview voluntarily and I was not arrested, charged or bailed. Two other members have said that the messages between you and her inside the phone is a good way to prove your innocence. None of the messages inside the phone have me admitting to rape, all of the messages between me and her have me denying it because I believe that it was consensual and that I'm innocent.

I'm not offended, but giving up booze or fags is easier said than done. I don't smoke or do any kind of drugs and I've just had my bloods taken and the doctor said that my liver is perfect, he feels it's because I'm not an everyday drinker. I thought he was going to be all serious with me, but he made a joke about doctors and their drinking.