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Starting to struggle again.
Hi folks,
Never really been a big one for forums but here it goes, this is my story,
In June 2014 my friends and I from college went out celebrating the fact we had just sat out finals, I was typically a bit of a lady's man, and quite often had one night stands.
never the less this night was no different, I started speaking to a girl (x) stood out side with here, made out in front of her and one of my fiends, we then walked back through the city centre to my flat, about a mile and a half walk.
We had sex in a range of diffrent positions, after she told me she felt like a slut because I was the second guy she had been with that week, I quickly put some cloths on and talked to her about it in a calm and friendly manner, we slept and she left in the morning. A good night had by all in my opinion.
5 days later at approximately 2,AM, 2 detectives, 2 police officers and the owner of the student accommodation were loudly knocking on the door.
I opened the door and I was taken away, I was placed in a cell, I was obviously very confused about the detainment they had placed me under, it didn't make sense to me.
I spoke to the detectives on the way to the station they asked where I was from what I was studying ect.
Seemed like nice guys.
About an hour after I arrived at the station a doctor arrived and he took around 50 DNA samples from around my body including finger nails, penis , mouth, arms ect.
The next morning prior to an interview I was told by the dectectives who were to interview me, to say no comment to all questions regarding X. And I would be released that day, they didn't believe Her already and said I had too much to lose from this. And true to there word I was. And I havent heard nothing since.
However this isn't what I'm struggling with, when returning to college I was advised by the police to change accommodation, incase she had some crazy relatives, and of course my room mates all saw the police and knew what had happened, so I was now the talk of the school, but I could deal with it I only had 2 months left.
However this affected my social live only a few of the guys wanted to speak to me, hardly anyone would look at me thinking I was some kind of beast. I never went out socialising, the only time I left my new flat was for school or to cycle to my grandmothers, for weekends.
I met a girl the next month, at school she didn't know me and I thought, great a new start with someone, but no it was ruined by people I would have called friends prior to the incident, they to.d her what I was a cussed of she then tested me to see if I would commit the same act I was accused of on her, she was swiftly told to fuc* off, and to be.ive what she wanted.
I left college and returned home, which is a very small rural town of around 8,000 people, however there are people from my town who now know the story from people I went to college with and its all happening again, people looking and not talking to me,
Just this past weekend there was a music festival, I was talking to a girl not even from the town and then this other girl who I barely know comes up to us and says, "dont talk to him he's a rapist" HOW DARE SOMEONE SAY THAT!
How are you ment to deal with this, For the last 8 months of my life I think about it everyday, the disgusting statement I was made to read out loud in my interview which was so far from the truth it's unreal.
I'm just happy I was never charged and have no desire to press charges on her, mainly because the police did me a big favour.
Has anyone else suffered from this kind of thing, I put on a brave face in front of my family, my brother jokes about it, but it's really difficult again, it's effecting my selfastime for the firs time in months, today I started crying for no reason. I just need to know how I can help my self.
Thanks guys!
Never really been a big one for forums but here it goes, this is my story,
In June 2014 my friends and I from college went out celebrating the fact we had just sat out finals, I was typically a bit of a lady's man, and quite often had one night stands.
never the less this night was no different, I started speaking to a girl (x) stood out side with here, made out in front of her and one of my fiends, we then walked back through the city centre to my flat, about a mile and a half walk.
We had sex in a range of diffrent positions, after she told me she felt like a slut because I was the second guy she had been with that week, I quickly put some cloths on and talked to her about it in a calm and friendly manner, we slept and she left in the morning. A good night had by all in my opinion.
5 days later at approximately 2,AM, 2 detectives, 2 police officers and the owner of the student accommodation were loudly knocking on the door.
I opened the door and I was taken away, I was placed in a cell, I was obviously very confused about the detainment they had placed me under, it didn't make sense to me.
I spoke to the detectives on the way to the station they asked where I was from what I was studying ect.
Seemed like nice guys.
About an hour after I arrived at the station a doctor arrived and he took around 50 DNA samples from around my body including finger nails, penis , mouth, arms ect.
The next morning prior to an interview I was told by the dectectives who were to interview me, to say no comment to all questions regarding X. And I would be released that day, they didn't believe Her already and said I had too much to lose from this. And true to there word I was. And I havent heard nothing since.
However this isn't what I'm struggling with, when returning to college I was advised by the police to change accommodation, incase she had some crazy relatives, and of course my room mates all saw the police and knew what had happened, so I was now the talk of the school, but I could deal with it I only had 2 months left.
However this affected my social live only a few of the guys wanted to speak to me, hardly anyone would look at me thinking I was some kind of beast. I never went out socialising, the only time I left my new flat was for school or to cycle to my grandmothers, for weekends.
I met a girl the next month, at school she didn't know me and I thought, great a new start with someone, but no it was ruined by people I would have called friends prior to the incident, they to.d her what I was a cussed of she then tested me to see if I would commit the same act I was accused of on her, she was swiftly told to fuc* off, and to be.ive what she wanted.
I left college and returned home, which is a very small rural town of around 8,000 people, however there are people from my town who now know the story from people I went to college with and its all happening again, people looking and not talking to me,
Just this past weekend there was a music festival, I was talking to a girl not even from the town and then this other girl who I barely know comes up to us and says, "dont talk to him he's a rapist" HOW DARE SOMEONE SAY THAT!
How are you ment to deal with this, For the last 8 months of my life I think about it everyday, the disgusting statement I was made to read out loud in my interview which was so far from the truth it's unreal.
I'm just happy I was never charged and have no desire to press charges on her, mainly because the police did me a big favour.
Has anyone else suffered from this kind of thing, I put on a brave face in front of my family, my brother jokes about it, but it's really difficult again, it's effecting my selfastime for the firs time in months, today I started crying for no reason. I just need to know how I can help my self.
Thanks guys!
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