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I feel that things are getting out of control and serious, so I thought I should log what's happening in my life.
History
I met my ex wife, X about 22 years ago. She had two children A and B. I had a son of whom I had custody, C and we had a daughter between us, D. I got on very well with X's children and they did with me and my son. A seemed to really like me, loved to talk with me, hold hands when walking sit between us when watching tv etc. We had a good relationship as she grew and she was looked upon as a person of trust later and would be left to look after the two boys & D, re babysitting, shopping, park etc. When she was 14 A worked in a local video shop. She was a mature 14 year old. The shop owners son who was in his 20's lived in the family home above the shop and would often come down to spend time with her. On a particular day when out with the family, A changed and was rude and aggressive. Both X and I believe that something went on with the shop owner's son. I found out later that he has had problems with young girls. I told her off and she slapped me across the face. Our relationship started to fade from then on.
When A was 16 she went to stay with her father for a holiday and refused to come back home. She refused to speak to her Mother and so for a few months after I used to talk to A by phone and I got them talking again. Then everything was fine for a few years till A met her boyfriend and moved in with him. A then fell pregnant and during the pregnancy she started to show blood. Her mother told her to go to the doctors but she wouldn't listen, so X gave me the phone and asked me to speak to her. I said the same and said that if she didn't there's a risk of miscarriage.... That was the end of my relationship with A as she blew up and has refused to speak to me again for mentioning that word.
About a year later A told her mother that when she was a child she was in bed with me as her mother was working nights and I touched her bum and that she felt it wasn't right. Her mother has spoken to her on many occasions about this and she still holds the same story. X has also spoken to me about this and I have told her that this has not happened. She has never been in my bed with me.
The present day
I have just recently set my father up on Facebook and he received a very nasty message about me from A, accusing me of Raping her and years of abuse and wishing my father dead and as well as the rest of my family. She also said that she is going to let everyone know what I have done to her and she is going to ruin me and destroy me. she also said that she wanted me and all my family dead. I reported her on f/b and blocked her on my father's site as well as my own. A then asked my sister to be a friend and my sister blocked her and she then asked my brother to be a friend on Skype. he also declined the request.
My Problem
I have never abused or raped my step-daughter. I have never as much as lifted a hand to her. My first reaction is to show the f/b message to the police but they are likely to cuff me first and ask questions later. I am not so much, worried as to what she is saying as I feel that the truth will eventually prevail, but more worried about the damage that will be caused in the meantime. I am now split up with X and still friends. X and all the other children believe me and trust me. It's the damage to my life and the people in my life that is worrying me. I feel that A's rage is escalating and she is upping the anti. A has an adult history of being a liar and can be slightly mentally unstable. A has fallen out with her mother again over money so they are not talking. She has refused to let X see or have any contact with her two grand daughters. This is all over money borrowed by A and not repaid. A has alienated pretty much all her family. My daughter D still contacts her but it is very strained.
I feel that this will not go away by ignoring it and wonder what to do.......... Help!!!!!!!!!
History
I met my ex wife, X about 22 years ago. She had two children A and B. I had a son of whom I had custody, C and we had a daughter between us, D. I got on very well with X's children and they did with me and my son. A seemed to really like me, loved to talk with me, hold hands when walking sit between us when watching tv etc. We had a good relationship as she grew and she was looked upon as a person of trust later and would be left to look after the two boys & D, re babysitting, shopping, park etc. When she was 14 A worked in a local video shop. She was a mature 14 year old. The shop owners son who was in his 20's lived in the family home above the shop and would often come down to spend time with her. On a particular day when out with the family, A changed and was rude and aggressive. Both X and I believe that something went on with the shop owner's son. I found out later that he has had problems with young girls. I told her off and she slapped me across the face. Our relationship started to fade from then on.
When A was 16 she went to stay with her father for a holiday and refused to come back home. She refused to speak to her Mother and so for a few months after I used to talk to A by phone and I got them talking again. Then everything was fine for a few years till A met her boyfriend and moved in with him. A then fell pregnant and during the pregnancy she started to show blood. Her mother told her to go to the doctors but she wouldn't listen, so X gave me the phone and asked me to speak to her. I said the same and said that if she didn't there's a risk of miscarriage.... That was the end of my relationship with A as she blew up and has refused to speak to me again for mentioning that word.
About a year later A told her mother that when she was a child she was in bed with me as her mother was working nights and I touched her bum and that she felt it wasn't right. Her mother has spoken to her on many occasions about this and she still holds the same story. X has also spoken to me about this and I have told her that this has not happened. She has never been in my bed with me.
The present day
I have just recently set my father up on Facebook and he received a very nasty message about me from A, accusing me of Raping her and years of abuse and wishing my father dead and as well as the rest of my family. She also said that she is going to let everyone know what I have done to her and she is going to ruin me and destroy me. she also said that she wanted me and all my family dead. I reported her on f/b and blocked her on my father's site as well as my own. A then asked my sister to be a friend and my sister blocked her and she then asked my brother to be a friend on Skype. he also declined the request.
My Problem
I have never abused or raped my step-daughter. I have never as much as lifted a hand to her. My first reaction is to show the f/b message to the police but they are likely to cuff me first and ask questions later. I am not so much, worried as to what she is saying as I feel that the truth will eventually prevail, but more worried about the damage that will be caused in the meantime. I am now split up with X and still friends. X and all the other children believe me and trust me. It's the damage to my life and the people in my life that is worrying me. I feel that A's rage is escalating and she is upping the anti. A has an adult history of being a liar and can be slightly mentally unstable. A has fallen out with her mother again over money so they are not talking. She has refused to let X see or have any contact with her two grand daughters. This is all over money borrowed by A and not repaid. A has alienated pretty much all her family. My daughter D still contacts her but it is very strained.
I feel that this will not go away by ignoring it and wonder what to do.......... Help!!!!!!!!!
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