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I found this website and forum after carrying out a google search on falsely accused of rape. I have recently been accused of this Offence, of which I am innocent.
The incident occurred last week at a conference, I was approached by a 'colleague' of sorts and she asked for my number and began messaging me, within the first few messages she had asked for my room number (I did not give this). The messages continued and a group of us went to a local bar, I invited the colleague along and she came (I think she arrived before my group as we was there before I arrived). We were talking for quite a bit and she was getting to know me quite well, she left before the bar closed and asked what I was doing, I replied that I was staying until it closed. We said bye and she went back to the hotel but we continued to message one another. She had said she wished she'd have stayed and I said she was silly to have gone then. This led to her inviting me back to her hotel room, which I did and we had consensual sex (admitted by my accuser) instigated by her.
The next day we had another conference, we did not talk to each and she was talking to other guys, so I assumed she had 'moved on' quickly and thought nothing of it. Then on Tuesday I received a call from the police asking to speak to me about an incident - I was very confused. I was advised to get a solicitor which shook me up a lot - i figured it would be about the girl I had met the week before. I had an interview under caution - I had prepared notes and my sol had advised to use them as an aid memoir when needed (the police had agreed to this). I gave my version of events and then was given brief info from the police about what my accuser had said (a lot of stuff made up) - I was so upset and confused. Why had she done this?!
I passed on the messages we had exchanged to each other (she said there was only a few but even my sol was surprised by how many I had on my phone). We also asked the police to get CCTV from the bar that night (my sol has contacted them himself to request the footage) as a few things didn't add up from her statement. Atm it is left as reported under investigation.
I am terrified - I have a young son and a partner (obviously silly of me to have cheated on her, I know). I have told my workplace and thought I was going to be sacked, they have been helpful and didn't sack me.
Could anyone give advice - if I'm arrested later on, will my workplace be able to sack me (even if released on bail immediately)? I only began working there beginning of September.
My sol said he got the impression that this isn't going anywhere but I don't know what to think or feel. I've been granted counselling by my workplace but I feel depressed already and so upset as to why someone would do this to me. My life could be ruined for doing nothing wrong, I'm so scared.
Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated, I can provide further info if needed but wasn't sure how much I could put (and apologies if I have put too much).
Thanks in advance everyone.
I found this website and forum after carrying out a google search on falsely accused of rape. I have recently been accused of this Offence, of which I am innocent.
The incident occurred last week at a conference, I was approached by a 'colleague' of sorts and she asked for my number and began messaging me, within the first few messages she had asked for my room number (I did not give this). The messages continued and a group of us went to a local bar, I invited the colleague along and she came (I think she arrived before my group as we was there before I arrived). We were talking for quite a bit and she was getting to know me quite well, she left before the bar closed and asked what I was doing, I replied that I was staying until it closed. We said bye and she went back to the hotel but we continued to message one another. She had said she wished she'd have stayed and I said she was silly to have gone then. This led to her inviting me back to her hotel room, which I did and we had consensual sex (admitted by my accuser) instigated by her.
The next day we had another conference, we did not talk to each and she was talking to other guys, so I assumed she had 'moved on' quickly and thought nothing of it. Then on Tuesday I received a call from the police asking to speak to me about an incident - I was very confused. I was advised to get a solicitor which shook me up a lot - i figured it would be about the girl I had met the week before. I had an interview under caution - I had prepared notes and my sol had advised to use them as an aid memoir when needed (the police had agreed to this). I gave my version of events and then was given brief info from the police about what my accuser had said (a lot of stuff made up) - I was so upset and confused. Why had she done this?!
I passed on the messages we had exchanged to each other (she said there was only a few but even my sol was surprised by how many I had on my phone). We also asked the police to get CCTV from the bar that night (my sol has contacted them himself to request the footage) as a few things didn't add up from her statement. Atm it is left as reported under investigation.
I am terrified - I have a young son and a partner (obviously silly of me to have cheated on her, I know). I have told my workplace and thought I was going to be sacked, they have been helpful and didn't sack me.
Could anyone give advice - if I'm arrested later on, will my workplace be able to sack me (even if released on bail immediately)? I only began working there beginning of September.
My sol said he got the impression that this isn't going anywhere but I don't know what to think or feel. I've been granted counselling by my workplace but I feel depressed already and so upset as to why someone would do this to me. My life could be ruined for doing nothing wrong, I'm so scared.
Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated, I can provide further info if needed but wasn't sure how much I could put (and apologies if I have put too much).
Thanks in advance everyone.
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