Falsely accused and completely shocked

[281664]

Hi guys,

As my investigation is still under going im not going to go into incredible detail.

A few weeks ago I had just started university. Towards the end of fresher's week I was awoken by security and police officers entering my room and hand cuffing me. I was later told I had been arrested due to digital rape allegations and sexual assault.

I have lost my place at university, I have been treated like a criminal when nothing has been proven. I'm literally under house arrest as i am too ashamed to tell friends who still think I'm at uni.

What makes it worse is i have video and Facebook evidence of the 'victims' partying with half naked guys less than 24 hours after the incidents occurred as well as talk of drug use and possession. While I had sat in a cell for 14 hours.

I'm 19 and university was my second chance at a new life after nearly being killed in a car accident and watching my best friend die in the process. After thinking my hard work and resolve had paid off all my opportunities have been taken away again.

The justice system is wrong. While I'm meant to be treated innocent until proven guilty. I'm the one sat at home a lone and in hell while she's at uni partying away with no remorse or a care in the world.

I'm sorry for the rant but I'm glad I've found somewhere where I'm not the only person in this horrible position.

Cheers

[myhome]

Hi and welcome though so sorry that you have had to find us. You haven't said if you've been interviewed/bailed/charged. it is a terrible position you are in but sadly a common one and it'll be a steep learning curve for you but you will get plenty of support on here. Here's some things to start with.

1. If you are yet to be interviewed ensure you have a solicitor with you. Take his/her advice as to whether to answer question or give a "no comment" response. If you are advised to answer questions, only answer what you are asked and don't volunteer any information they haven't asked for - especially if you think it will help you.

2. The police are not your friends. They are not interested in proving your innocence or finding out the truth. They have conviction targets to meet and that is their sole interest.

3. The police start from the premise that people who make rape/sexual assault allegations are telling the truth and call them "victims" from the outset.

4. Don't talk to the police under any circumstances without a solicitor with you - even if they ask you in, "just for a chat."

As you have FB (or other social media) evidence of her behaviour after the event it is really important that you take screenshots of all of this and store it somewhere electronically and safe so that plod won't get it should they seize your electrical equipment. Include in this any emails texts etc you may have.

Have a look at this link for further information http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...at-happens-now

Keep strong and believe in your innocence - keep posting here and we'll help all we can

[bootandsuit]

Hi so sorry to see you here as well ...although this site is saving my mental state. Similar story as to mine I'm due back to answer bail after a one night stand which I am positive was a set up..... anyway I looked on her face book one week after this "worst night of her life" she's out partying with five guys calling herself towie???? Hardly a broken women I have stored the screen shots in a very very very safe place because trust me the police really will do anything to convict you. Never ever thought I'd see the police in such a light. Anyway sound advice on here so far ..... gets easier I've lost my relationship my friends my family my job and car to top it all access To my son gets easier taken me a month to comes to term with so many losses

Its a mad system

Here if you need a chat buddy

[tiger mum]

Hi

So very sorry to hear of your terrible predicament. I'm a mum who's teenage son was falsely accused this time last year - all cases are different and your circumstances will be unique - but the horror of it all will be the same for you as so many others who are falsely accused. You must be absolutely devastated and very angry.

I can understand you feeling 'ashamed' - but what of? My son thought everyone would think bad of him, but in fact no one believed the accusation. I was very vocal in my support of him and protested his innocence to all who would listen. His school initially excluded him but I persuaded them they had an equal duty of care to him also and the school over rode the decision of the LEA and let him continue his education there. Is it possible to talk to your university welfare dept? Tell them your version of events and explain you are a victim of a false allegation and given the opportunity you will prove it in a court of law. The police and security are probably just following their instructions to believe the victim without question - its very wrong but that's the system, it doesn't mean they are judging you - they don't even know you or what actually happened.

My son's accuser was also partying hard before and straight after the alleged assault. She withdrew her allegation some months later, however our solicitor explained that if it went to court her behaviour after the 'event' would be difficult for her to explain - especially as it was clear she had sobered up between bouts of intoxication and was laughing about her wild antics. You sound like you have facebook evidence which tells a similar story - keep it safe and don't give it to the police in the hope they will see sense - keep it for your solicitor if needs be.

I hope your family are aware and supportive. They will be very worried and shocked - give them time to come round if they know what's happening. You'll all need each other over the coming months. Your friends won't believe the FA - let them be your support network. The one's who don't support you aren't worth keeping anyway.

Sounds like you've fought adversity once - looks like you'll need to tap into that inner strength once more. Keep you chin up - sending a virtual hug x

[Rights Fighter]

281664

Are you in the USA by any chance? I ask as you mention 'freshers'.

[Chigirl]

281664

Are you in the USA by any chance? I ask as you mention 'freshers'.

They have freshers here too

[whatsgoingon?]

Hi 281664 - I'm so sorry you find yourself here but welcome. My son also was falsely accused after a night out.

You need to take this seriously but not let it overwhelm you. As has already been said, screen-shot everything you can, talk to people who can speak for you who were there that night and any other evidence you can.

You need to urgently, secure that uni place of yours... speak to the welfare people as TM has suggested and the student's union. It may be possible for you to negotiate being suspended and following your course on-line until it's sorted. It may save you a year, keep you in the habit of studying and keep you occupied.
Your uni days and studying days are only over if you allow them to be.

It might be best to wait till you've tried to renegotiate things with your uni, but you'll need to find out about your financial situation. Get in touch with student loans and your grant provider if applicable . There was a time when if you left your course in the first term you were exonerated fro repaying certain things.

Hang onto anything you can that is good in your life... this thing may take a while to sort out, you don't want to be stuck in your room until it is. Carry on any sporting or artistic activities, go out with your mates etc

Do your parents know? Initially, they will probably be shocked, fraught with worry and maybe angry but would they be behind you? If so, tell them . Ditto for your closest friends. This may be a rocky ride and you'll need people to shoulder you. Just think how bad they'd feel if they knew you were carrying something like this on your own.

If charged, you'll need to get a specialised solicitor- one who is experienced in dealing with sexual crimes and false allegations and has a proven track record (there is a thread under general information).
Because my son told me what was happening to him straight away, I managed to get him to change from a solicitor who was completely unsuitable to a really efficient legal team (which is something he probably wouldn't of done on his own).

Keep active - out of your room.... this is a fight .

[Rights Fighter]

They have freshers here too

Ye gods and little fishes I'm getting old. Not up to date with new Americanised phrases!