Tweet
Hi.
I just found this forum recently as I am looking for a place to offload some of my experiences.
Unfortunately I am very tired (I have some drug addiction problems and its currently making me tired), so at this stage I am giving a quick overview of what I have experienced, without going to into great detail. The case I experienced is *extremely* complicated.
About a decade ago I started getting involved with families from background of extreme disadvantage, neglect and abuse. This was all of my own private initiate, in my own time. I have been extensively involved in the lives of several or more young people and children, trying to have a positive impact on their lives and keep them safe.
All the accusations made against me were made by Child Protection in the area of the world I live in (Australia). These accusations are in no particular order.
* I was accused that I inappropriately looked at the genitalia (the vagina) of a then 4 year old girl during an access visit while the children were under state care.
* I was accused of molesting two girls one of aged 3, the other 5 (roughly) from the same family, the accusations came from a psychological report.
* I was accused of video taping two 14 year old girls having sex.
* I was accused of providing hardcore pornography to a 12 year old boy.
* I was accused of various things such as trying to groom the children (around age 12) for sex by giving them "gifts". Various psychological reports strongly asserted that it was basically obvious that I molested the children, things such as witnesses saw me pulling up my pants as a child, eyes down cast left a room etc.
The end result was I was legally barred from being a part of the children's lives, directly confronted and called a pedophile by various foster carers.
No criminal charges were ever laid, but various social workers were on the record as saying I deserved to be in prison.
Police were sent after me many times to try and find the children in my presence and many remarks about me being a pedophile were made. Indeed the rumors spread to public and random people in the street would yell abuse at me calling me a pedophile etc.
There was absolutely no basis of truth whatsoever to any of the various allegations.
Child Protection ordered that I not see or have ANY contact with the 7 main children/teenagers I was involved with (they have this power in my state) otherwise I could be sent to prison for up to 3 years per offense. In the interests of the children I blatantly violated this directive many hundreds of times.
The whole situation had a profoundly negative and destructive effect on me psychologically, and I believe I suffered from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder type symptoms for many years as a result of the false accusations. The situation became profoundly out of control and I would have things like when I was caring for some of the teenagers (at the time 3 teenage girls), people would phone in and report I was having sex with them in my one bedroom unit.
The whole situation came about from blatant paranoia, an extremely judgmental mindset, and some complete nuttiness and irrationality on the part of various foster carers. There was no credible scientific quality or stand to the three main psychological reports I read which strongly asserted various incidents of abuse and that the children were scared of me.
Despite all this I have managed to maintain a strong relationship with the children, most of whom are now adults- not that the situation has not caused profound damage. They tried to brainwash the children to convince them the allegations said against me were true and that I was a bad person.
To do the right thing to help these kids, I risked significant prison time , and prison is a dangerous place for a person accused of child molestation. I know for a fact on my police record it says "suspect pedophile" which probably puts me at risk of abuse from the police. I have been at risk of violent attacks.
But despite all this most the kids are now adults and it is no longer illegal for me to have contact with them, as Child Protection only has the power to try and stop me communicating/seeing them up to the age of 18 when they become adults.
I have a very strong bond with them all and they all love me very much.
One of the young people, now 23, she has her own children that I am involved with, I have an especially strong bond with her 5 year old daughter, I am like a parental figure. But I fear of course that somehow the police or child protection may get involved at any time and try and charge me falsely or stop me being a part of the children lives.
I had such a strong bond with the children that when they were for a while removed from my life, it was like mourning the loss of my own children, it was horrifically traumatic.
Most of the children were female out of the main ones I was involved with but two were males.
Thankfully the youth have the utterly highest regard for me. But I am probably unable to work with children/teenagers because of how strict the system is here, you don't need convictions, the allegations would probably show and bar me from being involved in working with disadvantaged children.
I have various psychiatric problems and I am on a Disability pension and there are few types of work that would work for me, but working with children with extreme emotional/behaviour problems or even being a carer would be ideal (though I could never work in conjunction with Child Protection).
I have a history of alcohol and drug use/addiction (never in front of the children) as I have an addictive personality.
I am a very easy person to judge/misjudge because I have a somewhat feminine voice as a male, I am significantly obese, and women have never been sexually interested in me (I have never had a relationship with a woman and I am heterosexual). Unfortunately I have a lot of serious scars from previous self harm, and have a fairly lengthy criminal record from when I used to be a severe chronic alcoholic (before I was involved in the young peoples lives).
But I am proud to say I have achieved a great lot supporting these kids who truly come from the worst backgrounds. Child Protection has failed to separate us, despite the great risk I faced of prison, I had to endure the police turning up at my house many dozens and dozens of times trying to find the children there (they were never successful, I effectively out maneuvered them).
Now most of them are grown up, some of them have started their own families, I am relatively happy, and I have a huge family of "adopted" young people that i have helped and a pretty rich life. I also have friends of all ages, but most my friends are female, either young or mothers interestingly on average. Unfortunately I don't have any male friends.
So this is just a brief overview of my story, people would be shocked how you can do absolutely nothing wrong and quite easily be accused of child abuse and you risk prison and at the least they try and stop you permanently being part of the kids lives, to the detriment of the children themselves.
I am happy to go into more detail at a later stage, I just wanted to get this off my chest.
I love kids and young people, I have a gift when it comes to helping children with extreme emotional and behavioral problems, to be frank I am far more skilled with such people than the people I met employed by Child Protection.
In the end, I have won, but Christ it had a bad toll on me for a while, but as I said my life is now happy, and most the young people are doing very well. There are 7 main ones I am involved with and a few others I am sort of occasionally involved with, and I am known by dozens more.
I just found this forum recently as I am looking for a place to offload some of my experiences.
Unfortunately I am very tired (I have some drug addiction problems and its currently making me tired), so at this stage I am giving a quick overview of what I have experienced, without going to into great detail. The case I experienced is *extremely* complicated.
About a decade ago I started getting involved with families from background of extreme disadvantage, neglect and abuse. This was all of my own private initiate, in my own time. I have been extensively involved in the lives of several or more young people and children, trying to have a positive impact on their lives and keep them safe.
All the accusations made against me were made by Child Protection in the area of the world I live in (Australia). These accusations are in no particular order.
* I was accused that I inappropriately looked at the genitalia (the vagina) of a then 4 year old girl during an access visit while the children were under state care.
* I was accused of molesting two girls one of aged 3, the other 5 (roughly) from the same family, the accusations came from a psychological report.
* I was accused of video taping two 14 year old girls having sex.
* I was accused of providing hardcore pornography to a 12 year old boy.
* I was accused of various things such as trying to groom the children (around age 12) for sex by giving them "gifts". Various psychological reports strongly asserted that it was basically obvious that I molested the children, things such as witnesses saw me pulling up my pants as a child, eyes down cast left a room etc.
The end result was I was legally barred from being a part of the children's lives, directly confronted and called a pedophile by various foster carers.
No criminal charges were ever laid, but various social workers were on the record as saying I deserved to be in prison.
Police were sent after me many times to try and find the children in my presence and many remarks about me being a pedophile were made. Indeed the rumors spread to public and random people in the street would yell abuse at me calling me a pedophile etc.
There was absolutely no basis of truth whatsoever to any of the various allegations.
Child Protection ordered that I not see or have ANY contact with the 7 main children/teenagers I was involved with (they have this power in my state) otherwise I could be sent to prison for up to 3 years per offense. In the interests of the children I blatantly violated this directive many hundreds of times.
The whole situation had a profoundly negative and destructive effect on me psychologically, and I believe I suffered from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder type symptoms for many years as a result of the false accusations. The situation became profoundly out of control and I would have things like when I was caring for some of the teenagers (at the time 3 teenage girls), people would phone in and report I was having sex with them in my one bedroom unit.
The whole situation came about from blatant paranoia, an extremely judgmental mindset, and some complete nuttiness and irrationality on the part of various foster carers. There was no credible scientific quality or stand to the three main psychological reports I read which strongly asserted various incidents of abuse and that the children were scared of me.
Despite all this I have managed to maintain a strong relationship with the children, most of whom are now adults- not that the situation has not caused profound damage. They tried to brainwash the children to convince them the allegations said against me were true and that I was a bad person.
To do the right thing to help these kids, I risked significant prison time , and prison is a dangerous place for a person accused of child molestation. I know for a fact on my police record it says "suspect pedophile" which probably puts me at risk of abuse from the police. I have been at risk of violent attacks.
But despite all this most the kids are now adults and it is no longer illegal for me to have contact with them, as Child Protection only has the power to try and stop me communicating/seeing them up to the age of 18 when they become adults.
I have a very strong bond with them all and they all love me very much.
One of the young people, now 23, she has her own children that I am involved with, I have an especially strong bond with her 5 year old daughter, I am like a parental figure. But I fear of course that somehow the police or child protection may get involved at any time and try and charge me falsely or stop me being a part of the children lives.
I had such a strong bond with the children that when they were for a while removed from my life, it was like mourning the loss of my own children, it was horrifically traumatic.
Most of the children were female out of the main ones I was involved with but two were males.
Thankfully the youth have the utterly highest regard for me. But I am probably unable to work with children/teenagers because of how strict the system is here, you don't need convictions, the allegations would probably show and bar me from being involved in working with disadvantaged children.
I have various psychiatric problems and I am on a Disability pension and there are few types of work that would work for me, but working with children with extreme emotional/behaviour problems or even being a carer would be ideal (though I could never work in conjunction with Child Protection).
I have a history of alcohol and drug use/addiction (never in front of the children) as I have an addictive personality.
I am a very easy person to judge/misjudge because I have a somewhat feminine voice as a male, I am significantly obese, and women have never been sexually interested in me (I have never had a relationship with a woman and I am heterosexual). Unfortunately I have a lot of serious scars from previous self harm, and have a fairly lengthy criminal record from when I used to be a severe chronic alcoholic (before I was involved in the young peoples lives).
But I am proud to say I have achieved a great lot supporting these kids who truly come from the worst backgrounds. Child Protection has failed to separate us, despite the great risk I faced of prison, I had to endure the police turning up at my house many dozens and dozens of times trying to find the children there (they were never successful, I effectively out maneuvered them).
Now most of them are grown up, some of them have started their own families, I am relatively happy, and I have a huge family of "adopted" young people that i have helped and a pretty rich life. I also have friends of all ages, but most my friends are female, either young or mothers interestingly on average. Unfortunately I don't have any male friends.
So this is just a brief overview of my story, people would be shocked how you can do absolutely nothing wrong and quite easily be accused of child abuse and you risk prison and at the least they try and stop you permanently being part of the kids lives, to the detriment of the children themselves.
I am happy to go into more detail at a later stage, I just wanted to get this off my chest.
I love kids and young people, I have a gift when it comes to helping children with extreme emotional and behavioral problems, to be frank I am far more skilled with such people than the people I met employed by Child Protection.
In the end, I have won, but Christ it had a bad toll on me for a while, but as I said my life is now happy, and most the young people are doing very well. There are 7 main ones I am involved with and a few others I am sort of occasionally involved with, and I am known by dozens more.