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Falsely accused of rape, been charged for 1 account of rape and to accounts of sexual assult...
So, im new here and have no idea what im actually looking for. ill just get down to the details.
I was falsely accused of raping to ex-parteners over 12 months ago, the accusations supposedly happened during a consential sexual and normal relationship, there was never a time where either of us did not consent to sexual inter course, in either of the relationships.
Starting with the first relationship and the first false accusation of rape, there was no issues during the relationship and we hardly ever argued, the main reason we argued is about my smoking habbits (no illegal drugs just tobbacco) my ex-partner wanted me to quit and i wasnt ready.
As the relationship went on I was finding hard to cope with not being able to smoke while spending time with her, which was a lot of the time as I lived with her in her parents house for near on nine months. We was consentially sexually active and we decided we had reached the point of taking our relationship to the next level and we was trying for a child.
During this period my ex-partner became distant and acted as though she was not interested in me, as the attempts at forming a family were not successful, We began to argue more about menial things, like not doing the washing up straight away or that i went to see my own family while she was off galavanting with one of her male buddies, where she ignored my calls or texts (i now know she was cheating on me with this other lad). As i was not the type of guy to end a relationship i stuck it out, then there was a big argument about me being snappy because of the cold turkey sittuation which ended the whole relationship, with a loving sentence "F*** off and never come back" which i done just that. i hadn't been in contact with her for 3 to 4 years and i had never planned on being involved in anything that was related to my ex-partner, the oneday i get a knock at my door from the ploice wanting to arrest me for allegations of rape.
I complied with the officers ad i was in shock that this was happening, i didnt know what to do, I answered all there questions to the best of my knowledge with the upmost truth, I would never lie to an authorative figure where it the police or just someone oldder than myself. I was released on bail for a month.
This leads on to the second ex-partner.
The second ex-partner was as i thought a down to earth girl who would never make up such lies to get someone in trouble, but then i guess jealousy can be a deamon sometimes, again we rarely argued, she didn't care that I smoked tobacco and that I spent time with my family, as she believed that family are just as important as friends. The only time we argued were when i recieved a text or my phone made a noise, she was very controlling and as I later learnt a liar, we spent a lot of time together, i got on well with her parents and had a good laugh with them in general.
On chistmas ever was the first time we moved our relationship to a consentiall sexual status, and from then on we had regular intercourse, when ever i stayed at her parents house with them we was allowed to stay in the same room and everything that happened was always consented to by my ex-partner, in most of the instances she was the person that started the intercourse with foreplay. as the relationship went on and we passed our first anniversary she sugested to me we try something nre... this was my second sexual partner so i was willing to learn something new and exciting, when she suggested "bondage" i never thought anything of it and went along with it,
it all went to pot when i lost my job and started talking to a ex-online-partner she started accusing me daily of cheaating on her and that i was more interested in spending time with someone 100 miles away or someone who lived in wales.
My ex-partner went to India for one of these adventure holidays with her sister and father (this is where the jealous rage comes into it), when she was out there i had planned to go to south wales to look after a old friends child while they went to court to fight for the custody of their child. but as i was un able to travel i couldn't go.
my ex-partner came back to england and found out about this and believed i went to south wales and slept with the person (which i didnt and had no intentions of it), however, i was talking to my ex-online-partner from 5 years previous who still have feelings for me and me for her,
my at the time current partner found out about this and lost the plot, i ended the relationship shortly after as she became over-obsessed with this and controlling in ways that no one should experience. back to the false allegations, i had no idea at the point of the end of the second relation ship that i would then late on be accused of such crimes. 3-4 years after the first and 1-2 years after the second relationship i was arrested originaly as mentioned before,
i attended bail a month after the original arrest date where i was re-cautioned on for a new, out of the blue allegation against me from the second partner. i was questioned about this and gave the same asnwer as i did in the previous questioning for the other allegation.
I stated that the relaionship was always consential and when asked about the "Bondage" i stated that it was her idea and that is was consential from both her and myself.
I have had a duty solicitor with me from the beginning of the allegations i though at the beginning they were a god send, now however, i feel that they are not being as helpful as they could be, they have given no advice on what will be happening, as they "do not have the papers"
i have looked for another solicitor that specialises in such cases and have found one, when i went to my duty solicitor they pretty much refused to return the legal aid forms as they had "already sent them of to the court"
my first hearing ons the coming wednesday if i keep my duty solicitor for that will i be able to change solicitors after that hearing if i feel that they are not helping as much as they could be or do i have to stay with them throughout the case? any advice on the hole situation would also be appreciated, i have been going through a lot of stress and have developed health problems because of this and that has also led to me being dismissed from my employement.
Many thanks for all advice
TheInnocentOne
I was falsely accused of raping to ex-parteners over 12 months ago, the accusations supposedly happened during a consential sexual and normal relationship, there was never a time where either of us did not consent to sexual inter course, in either of the relationships.
Starting with the first relationship and the first false accusation of rape, there was no issues during the relationship and we hardly ever argued, the main reason we argued is about my smoking habbits (no illegal drugs just tobbacco) my ex-partner wanted me to quit and i wasnt ready.
As the relationship went on I was finding hard to cope with not being able to smoke while spending time with her, which was a lot of the time as I lived with her in her parents house for near on nine months. We was consentially sexually active and we decided we had reached the point of taking our relationship to the next level and we was trying for a child.
During this period my ex-partner became distant and acted as though she was not interested in me, as the attempts at forming a family were not successful, We began to argue more about menial things, like not doing the washing up straight away or that i went to see my own family while she was off galavanting with one of her male buddies, where she ignored my calls or texts (i now know she was cheating on me with this other lad). As i was not the type of guy to end a relationship i stuck it out, then there was a big argument about me being snappy because of the cold turkey sittuation which ended the whole relationship, with a loving sentence "F*** off and never come back" which i done just that. i hadn't been in contact with her for 3 to 4 years and i had never planned on being involved in anything that was related to my ex-partner, the oneday i get a knock at my door from the ploice wanting to arrest me for allegations of rape.
I complied with the officers ad i was in shock that this was happening, i didnt know what to do, I answered all there questions to the best of my knowledge with the upmost truth, I would never lie to an authorative figure where it the police or just someone oldder than myself. I was released on bail for a month.
This leads on to the second ex-partner.
The second ex-partner was as i thought a down to earth girl who would never make up such lies to get someone in trouble, but then i guess jealousy can be a deamon sometimes, again we rarely argued, she didn't care that I smoked tobacco and that I spent time with my family, as she believed that family are just as important as friends. The only time we argued were when i recieved a text or my phone made a noise, she was very controlling and as I later learnt a liar, we spent a lot of time together, i got on well with her parents and had a good laugh with them in general.
On chistmas ever was the first time we moved our relationship to a consentiall sexual status, and from then on we had regular intercourse, when ever i stayed at her parents house with them we was allowed to stay in the same room and everything that happened was always consented to by my ex-partner, in most of the instances she was the person that started the intercourse with foreplay. as the relationship went on and we passed our first anniversary she sugested to me we try something nre... this was my second sexual partner so i was willing to learn something new and exciting, when she suggested "bondage" i never thought anything of it and went along with it,
it all went to pot when i lost my job and started talking to a ex-online-partner she started accusing me daily of cheaating on her and that i was more interested in spending time with someone 100 miles away or someone who lived in wales.
My ex-partner went to India for one of these adventure holidays with her sister and father (this is where the jealous rage comes into it), when she was out there i had planned to go to south wales to look after a old friends child while they went to court to fight for the custody of their child. but as i was un able to travel i couldn't go.
my ex-partner came back to england and found out about this and believed i went to south wales and slept with the person (which i didnt and had no intentions of it), however, i was talking to my ex-online-partner from 5 years previous who still have feelings for me and me for her,
my at the time current partner found out about this and lost the plot, i ended the relationship shortly after as she became over-obsessed with this and controlling in ways that no one should experience. back to the false allegations, i had no idea at the point of the end of the second relation ship that i would then late on be accused of such crimes. 3-4 years after the first and 1-2 years after the second relationship i was arrested originaly as mentioned before,
i attended bail a month after the original arrest date where i was re-cautioned on for a new, out of the blue allegation against me from the second partner. i was questioned about this and gave the same asnwer as i did in the previous questioning for the other allegation.
I stated that the relaionship was always consential and when asked about the "Bondage" i stated that it was her idea and that is was consential from both her and myself.
I have had a duty solicitor with me from the beginning of the allegations i though at the beginning they were a god send, now however, i feel that they are not being as helpful as they could be, they have given no advice on what will be happening, as they "do not have the papers"
i have looked for another solicitor that specialises in such cases and have found one, when i went to my duty solicitor they pretty much refused to return the legal aid forms as they had "already sent them of to the court"
my first hearing ons the coming wednesday if i keep my duty solicitor for that will i be able to change solicitors after that hearing if i feel that they are not helping as much as they could be or do i have to stay with them throughout the case? any advice on the hole situation would also be appreciated, i have been going through a lot of stress and have developed health problems because of this and that has also led to me being dismissed from my employement.
Many thanks for all advice
TheInnocentOne
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