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I shall give some background to my story: I work at sea on a Sail Training vessel with young people and whilst I was back on leave I got into a relationship with a girl I used to know when I was younger, She had a child from a previous relationship who was 5 months old at the start of our relationship.
I did everything I possibly could for this woman and she was what I would describe as emotionally ( and on 2 occasions physically) abusive towards me, I had a phone out on contract for her and was also giving her money because she'd told me she was pregnant.
I found out she was lying about the pregnancy as well as a whole raft of other things and called the relationship off, my friend went to pick up my stuff (including the contract phone) as I was away at sea for a few weeks. 3 weeks after calling it off my friend rang me to say that the police had been round to pick up the Phone and wanted to speak to me, I rang them and they said that they wanted me to attend the police station on a voluntary bases (so they could arrest me) to answer an allegation of a sexual nature.
I attended the police station and before my interview was handed a non-molestation order witch contained a statement from her, in the statement she accused me of many things stating that I raped her numerous times (she gave only 3 specific dates and said she couldn't remember the rest), That I made up she was pregnant, That I kept saying her current son was mine and many other things, basically whatever you would imagine an abuser as she wrote down.
Her statement to the police was pretty much the same although there were differences and she said I'd raped her on a date I wasn't with her, I knew this as I had gone through all the text messages between us and used them to work out exactly when we were together. I told the police that I had evidence on my phone which would disprove her claims and gave my phone to them (the evidence being all the text messages since the start of our relationship, with her talking about being pregnant and asking me for money e.t.c).
I was arrested and bailed for 6 weeks, work suspended me on full pay as I work with young people and said that they will support me through this and that it didn't matter how long it took they'd have me back.
At the end of the first six weeks the bail was extended for a further six and when I asked the police why they stated that "we have the information of your phone, which obviously backs up what you're saying, but do not have the information of the phone you had on contract for her as the sim has been removed and blocked and we have had to send it to a specialist unit"
The bail ended on yesterday and I was informed on Thursday that "due to the evidence you presented us we believe you are innocent and we are taking no further action" when I asked when I would get my property back I was informed that I could get my phone back next week but that I can't get the other contract phone back as she'd said it's hers!!! I can prove it's mine and they picked it up from my friends house, can they do that?!
At least the nightmare is over and I can get back to work, and even though my ordeal was relatively short (14 weeks) I can say it was a living hell and throughout the whole thing felt as if I was guilty until proven Innocent, whilst she gets away with it. I feel for anyone who has or is going through what I've just been through.
Thank you for Reading
Dave
I shall give some background to my story: I work at sea on a Sail Training vessel with young people and whilst I was back on leave I got into a relationship with a girl I used to know when I was younger, She had a child from a previous relationship who was 5 months old at the start of our relationship.
I did everything I possibly could for this woman and she was what I would describe as emotionally ( and on 2 occasions physically) abusive towards me, I had a phone out on contract for her and was also giving her money because she'd told me she was pregnant.
I found out she was lying about the pregnancy as well as a whole raft of other things and called the relationship off, my friend went to pick up my stuff (including the contract phone) as I was away at sea for a few weeks. 3 weeks after calling it off my friend rang me to say that the police had been round to pick up the Phone and wanted to speak to me, I rang them and they said that they wanted me to attend the police station on a voluntary bases (so they could arrest me) to answer an allegation of a sexual nature.
I attended the police station and before my interview was handed a non-molestation order witch contained a statement from her, in the statement she accused me of many things stating that I raped her numerous times (she gave only 3 specific dates and said she couldn't remember the rest), That I made up she was pregnant, That I kept saying her current son was mine and many other things, basically whatever you would imagine an abuser as she wrote down.
Her statement to the police was pretty much the same although there were differences and she said I'd raped her on a date I wasn't with her, I knew this as I had gone through all the text messages between us and used them to work out exactly when we were together. I told the police that I had evidence on my phone which would disprove her claims and gave my phone to them (the evidence being all the text messages since the start of our relationship, with her talking about being pregnant and asking me for money e.t.c).
I was arrested and bailed for 6 weeks, work suspended me on full pay as I work with young people and said that they will support me through this and that it didn't matter how long it took they'd have me back.
At the end of the first six weeks the bail was extended for a further six and when I asked the police why they stated that "we have the information of your phone, which obviously backs up what you're saying, but do not have the information of the phone you had on contract for her as the sim has been removed and blocked and we have had to send it to a specialist unit"
The bail ended on yesterday and I was informed on Thursday that "due to the evidence you presented us we believe you are innocent and we are taking no further action" when I asked when I would get my property back I was informed that I could get my phone back next week but that I can't get the other contract phone back as she'd said it's hers!!! I can prove it's mine and they picked it up from my friends house, can they do that?!
At least the nightmare is over and I can get back to work, and even though my ordeal was relatively short (14 weeks) I can say it was a living hell and throughout the whole thing felt as if I was guilty until proven Innocent, whilst she gets away with it. I feel for anyone who has or is going through what I've just been through.
Thank you for Reading
Dave
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