Hi
Until a few weeks ago I lived in Orkney, Scotland for about a year. I am originally from the Northwest of England and thankfully back there now. While I was there I had a tough time in my relationship and had a brief affair, I ended this as soon as I could because she was starting to stalk my every move. At work a friend of hers started working with us and needed somewhere to crash at weekends because of her shift patterns. by this point I was single and I offered her my sofa. This annoyed the women I had the affair with as they were both friends. But never the less for all but one night, the women now staying with me was a friend only. We had a one night stand which she made a point of teasing about for a week leading up to it, sending me facebook messages and naked pics of herself etc. Anyway, I got back with my original partner after we sorted out our differences, I told her about both of these women so as not to lie to her about it. She has known me for a very long time and has made similar mistakes in her life so we agreed to put it behind us. Because of this though it was not possible for me to keep accommodating this women who I had the one night stand with even if we were just friends, it would only make things strange between everyone so I asked her to find somewhere else to stay, she said this was fine and moved out without any problems and even spoke to me in work as if everything was ok as usual to start with. After about a week I was summoned in work and asked to leave under suspension for sexual harassment without being told who or what had been said. So I was left in the dark as to what was going on. Nearly two weeks later I was arrested at my home for raping both women! I couldn't believe it, I was in to much sock to say anything. I was held for over 24 hours, interviewed, DNA etc etc. I was told that I would be taken to the court house and charged, remanded in custody and then advised by my solicitor as what would happen next but I was looking at 19 years inside!. But at the last minute, the court told them to let me go without appearing. As far as I am aware it was due to lack of evidence but I still do not know what the actual complaint is, Rape is one thing but if you don't know the hows and wheres etc how do you defend yourself? I cant even say where I was at the time if they cant even tell me that much about the case! anyway long story slightly shorter, I was released without charge and without bail conditions. I told the police I was returning to England and voluntary gave them my sim card, my facebook log in details and new phone number, non of which they asked me for but to clear my name I did this anyway. Since then my old phone has been released to me but the police has said that they are reviewing statements and not closed the case. Well the thing is, I deleted my faceobook before this all kicked off, I was getting fed up with sexual harassment at work and bullying for being English (Orkney is a strange place at times) and knowing that facebook never deletes everything I went through my pics, my messages and just got rid, left it blank and closed it. Now if those messages are retrievable then both women are in a whole load of trouble as this would back to me up no end. But I have no idea if this can be done or not. Now I find myself in limbo no knowing if there's ever going to be a knock on the door or not! Police wont close it as either I am guilty or the two women are charged for wasting police time! so in the meantime I am stuck at home twiggling my fingers wondering if I have a future or not. I have to say that despite my indiscretion my partner has stood by me and she didn't have to, the one night stand was while we were split up but the affair wasn't, so I couldn't have come through this without her by my side and I owe to her to get this cleared up as I don't want to put her through anything more ever again, she deserves better. She has done similar in the past herself but non the less its not nice to cheat on anybody and now we are stronger than ever before, its actually brought us closer together with everything out in the open. If anyone knows the Scottish legal system and how this is likely to work or weather or not deleted facebook messages can be retrieved or not, advice would be more than welcome
Thanks
D
Until a few weeks ago I lived in Orkney, Scotland for about a year. I am originally from the Northwest of England and thankfully back there now. While I was there I had a tough time in my relationship and had a brief affair, I ended this as soon as I could because she was starting to stalk my every move. At work a friend of hers started working with us and needed somewhere to crash at weekends because of her shift patterns. by this point I was single and I offered her my sofa. This annoyed the women I had the affair with as they were both friends. But never the less for all but one night, the women now staying with me was a friend only. We had a one night stand which she made a point of teasing about for a week leading up to it, sending me facebook messages and naked pics of herself etc. Anyway, I got back with my original partner after we sorted out our differences, I told her about both of these women so as not to lie to her about it. She has known me for a very long time and has made similar mistakes in her life so we agreed to put it behind us. Because of this though it was not possible for me to keep accommodating this women who I had the one night stand with even if we were just friends, it would only make things strange between everyone so I asked her to find somewhere else to stay, she said this was fine and moved out without any problems and even spoke to me in work as if everything was ok as usual to start with. After about a week I was summoned in work and asked to leave under suspension for sexual harassment without being told who or what had been said. So I was left in the dark as to what was going on. Nearly two weeks later I was arrested at my home for raping both women! I couldn't believe it, I was in to much sock to say anything. I was held for over 24 hours, interviewed, DNA etc etc. I was told that I would be taken to the court house and charged, remanded in custody and then advised by my solicitor as what would happen next but I was looking at 19 years inside!. But at the last minute, the court told them to let me go without appearing. As far as I am aware it was due to lack of evidence but I still do not know what the actual complaint is, Rape is one thing but if you don't know the hows and wheres etc how do you defend yourself? I cant even say where I was at the time if they cant even tell me that much about the case! anyway long story slightly shorter, I was released without charge and without bail conditions. I told the police I was returning to England and voluntary gave them my sim card, my facebook log in details and new phone number, non of which they asked me for but to clear my name I did this anyway. Since then my old phone has been released to me but the police has said that they are reviewing statements and not closed the case. Well the thing is, I deleted my faceobook before this all kicked off, I was getting fed up with sexual harassment at work and bullying for being English (Orkney is a strange place at times) and knowing that facebook never deletes everything I went through my pics, my messages and just got rid, left it blank and closed it. Now if those messages are retrievable then both women are in a whole load of trouble as this would back to me up no end. But I have no idea if this can be done or not. Now I find myself in limbo no knowing if there's ever going to be a knock on the door or not! Police wont close it as either I am guilty or the two women are charged for wasting police time! so in the meantime I am stuck at home twiggling my fingers wondering if I have a future or not. I have to say that despite my indiscretion my partner has stood by me and she didn't have to, the one night stand was while we were split up but the affair wasn't, so I couldn't have come through this without her by my side and I owe to her to get this cleared up as I don't want to put her through anything more ever again, she deserves better. She has done similar in the past herself but non the less its not nice to cheat on anybody and now we are stronger than ever before, its actually brought us closer together with everything out in the open. If anyone knows the Scottish legal system and how this is likely to work or weather or not deleted facebook messages can be retrieved or not, advice would be more than welcome
Thanks
D
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