I can not believe this :(

[terrified]

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[Casehardened]

Deleted as no longer relevant

[myhome]

Will await CH's suggestions before replying.....

[Coltay]

???!! I find this a little disconcerting

[terrified]

Hi all,

I am currently on bail under investigation
My mind and body have not been able to work, im mortified, shocked, and betrayed by what has happened.

It began with a friend of mine whom i have had sex with before came back to mine after we were both out drinking together and there are witnesses that confirm we was kissing, flirting and dancing in the club. And confirm she agreed on coming back to mine and having sex. at mine she performed oral sex on me and we attempted to have sex but i couldnt maintain an erection. we both then went to sleep. about 1 hour later we both woke up and began having sex which was rough. I then got off her and went into the bathroom. I came back and we both cuddled up and slept till morning. in the morning we cuddled again and i suggested her getting a taxi as i was over the limit to drive her so i payed for her taxi in about half hour and she didnt seem to happy with this but agreed and before she left we had a hug goodbye.

7 hours later im arrested and had my interview, i agreed to all forensics and anything else they need
I was shocked and confused by it all as we had a nice night with each other and there was no problem in the morning or when she was leaving so i just cant understand any of it.

Im terrified as to what will happen now, i cant sleep, cant eat and might lose my job. Everything has become horrific for me.
I admitted in my interview that we had rough sex.
I just dont know what to about it all I feel sick to death about it.

[Casehardened]

Hi Terrified,

(thanks for rewriting your post; you are now likely to receive much more relevant replies)

I am reluctant to suggest you look through the forum archives (as this may terrify you even more!) but there are more than a few similar cases resulting from a one-nighter where the partner feels 'used', for the want of a better term.

This of course is no justification in itself for a false accusation of rape but as the accusation has been made, in the present political climate the police are obliged to investigate it and that is why you find yourself caught up in this process. Please read this sticky as it will give you some understanding of what is likely to happen now:

http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...at-happens-now

With regard to your specific circumstances, you mentioned witnesses in the club; do you know these personally and have their contact details? If not, I would suggest you approach the club and get a copy of their CCTV recording before it gets overwritten (of course you may find the police have already done this, depending on how seriously they are taking the accusation)

[myhome]

Hi and welcome though sorry you had to find us. As CH has said, your story is a sadly common one.
Write down as much as you can remember about that evening.....look on her Fb and other social media posts; screenshot anyting and everything you think is relevant and everything that you think isn't relevant too. Save any emails texts and everything else electronically somewhere where the police won't find it if they take your electronic devices. The police are not your friends they have conviction targets to meet and are generally more interested in meeting these rather than proving innocence so don't tell them anything or give them anything that you think will help prove your innocence. Don't talk to them without a solicitor present.....
keep strong MH

[terrified]

light at the end !!

So good news, yesterday I got told NFA was being taken against me !!
After a month of horror, distraught and emotions spiralling out of control I can finally be at ease ! I never thought I would have to find a forum like this and although I have this whole ordeal has given me a massive insight to the world we live in and I will be investing some time into supporting others in the same situation. Having read some of the other stories on here I can only wish all of you the best of luck and hope everything works out for you !

Good luck everyone and god bless xxxx

[Casehardened]

What great news for you and 'only' a month though it must have felt like a lifetime!!!! Pleased to be able to offer the traditional bananas



However please take care with future encounters with the other sex, make sure you know your partner well before hopping into bed; if anyone else accuses you in the future, this case may well be dug out again as corroboration.

[tiger mum]

Hi - thanks for sharing your NFA news. My son's ordeal started 11 weeks ago and the police are still investigating the false allegation. Every waking moment my brain isn't actively focused on work I'm thinking about what's happened to him and worried about his fate being in the hands of biased police and kids who can't possibly understand the situation. My understanding has had to go from 0 to 1000 just to make sense of this. I'm a well educated professional grown up, trying to navigate this and be a mum to my teenager is a nightmare which seems a challenge too far on some days. Thank god there are positive outcomes as well as innocent men and boys being arrested, charged and even locked up. Are the child traffickers and peadophiles too much hard work for the police - are these cases on here easy fodder for their stats? There's something sinister and seriously wrong going on here .....

[smokiejo]

Great news

[Tom9n3]

Congrats on the outcome pal! I hope and pray mine goes the same way, pretty much same circumstances too!