After nearly 1 year charge of rape...

[Lukas2]

Hello guys,
Really need any help or advise what I should do, Im so stressed as never been in this situation before.

Everything started last Christmas, we had Christmas party at our house and there were 7 people in the house. The coleages came over and we started our Christmas party I show the house while we were waiting for other guests to the new coleage. The house was 4 bedrooms.

Then she asked where she will sleep and I said that she can choose there was another room spare to sleep or she can sleep in my bedroom (she is Lesbian and friends female girlfriend). Anyway the party started and she went upstairs to talk on the phone it was nearly 1 hour she was still there talking on the phone so I went and asked if shes coming downstairs. After like 20 min she came downstairs and had her Christmas meal and also on top like 6-7 shots of Vodka. Fter that we were all dancing changing gifts and stuff.

Later she came to me pinch my shoulder and asked which is my bedroom I told her were it was as she was saying that she wants to go to sleep. We stayed downstairs like for another hour or so and then went to sleep.

Another morning didnt noticed anything strange on her also other didnt noticed and then after like 3 days she came over to me ( as we work at the same place but she finished earlier ) and start to question me if I remember anything from Christmas party at our house and similar questions. Then she was like : You know you tried to have sex with me and I denied, told her that its not true and that that night nothing happened also because she is a lesbian I dont even look at her as female I would do something with. Then she said that I had sex with her and start to question like so I tried or had sex with you like make up your mind and stop bull****ing me.

Anyways after that her Girlfriend start to abuse me on messages saying that she will kill me and that they broke up because of me, that the girl liked me or so and that the Girlfriend wants to have sex with me now to be even... I told her that nothing like that happened I didnt had sex with anyone and thats it. after 2-3 weeks they went to police and then after 1,5 months police arested me on suspicion of rape... And now nerly after one year I been charged... Im stressing out, never had problems with police, never did something bad.

Could anyone give me advise how I should prove Im innocent ? Please guys Help me.

[Dave]

Hello and sorry you have found yourself in this terrible situation.
First you must write down everything that happened that night, everything you remember, if you have trusted friends that were there ask them to write down what they remember. This information is for you and your legal team not the police!!
Others will be along soon with some very good advice, be patient its a busy time of the year.
Sit tight, do not under any circumstance contact the other party or her ex. I assume you have already got some sort of legal representation?

Stay strong.

Dave

[Lukas2]

Yes already have solicitor and I have to go to Crown Court in 4 weeks. Im scared because I think that nobody believe me thats why they gave me charges... Im 22 yo was thinking of creating family with my girlfriend after 5yrs of dating but because of pressure she left me so im on my own now in this fight...

[Cabins_2011]

Sorry to read your story, which is sadly like so many who have to visit this site looking for advice and guidance. As already mentioned above, its important to get as much down on paper as possible, and along with anything that is going to help you (i.e. any text messages, social media contact etc). All this could prove very important when your sol/barrister start building your defence.

Sadly, as I found in my own case (NG - February 2013), these cases can literally go all the way to trial on the basis of nothing but a statement. I thought for ages that it would be just be "thrown out" and wouldnt go to trial, but after reading many stories on here, it shows that its very common.

The important thing is to now start getting everything ready. If you haven't already, you should imminently receive the prosecution disclosure via your solicitor. This is when you really can start to fight this.

A year on bail must have been extremely difficult, I was for three months before being charged and that was bad enough.

Keep strong and if you need advice, this site is a really valuable resource.

[myhome]

Hi Lukas - welcome to the forum but so sorry you have had to find us - but you are in the right place for help, advice and support

First - have a look at this sticky - http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...at-happens-now

. make sure your solicitor is a specialist in FA's - have a look at this sticky - http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...ist-solicitors

. collect and store any and all text messages, emails and social media messages that have passed between you all. Store them electronically somewhere where plod won't get them - they may take your laptop/PC/mobile etc

. take screen shots of any FB or other social media posts which you think will help - even those you think don't matter (a trial was recently thrown out on the 2nd day due to FB evidence painstakingly collected by RF)

. do NOT give anything to the police which you think will help prove your innocence. They have no interest whatsoever in finding out who's telling the truth - only in reaching their conviction targets. Be prepared to be astounded at the underhand and economic with the truth ways they have.

.do not give up the fight - it is winnable and you will see on here how many recently especially have been NFA'd or NG'd

. try to fill your time with lots of activities you enjoy - the time will pass more quickly and will keep your mind busy

. try not to let this spoil your Christmas - she's stolen a year off you - don't let her steal any more - she ain't worth it

. it is very sad indeed that your current gf has left you because of the pressure. However, I would say that if she isn't strong enough to stay with you and support you through this, then she probably wouldn't have been a lifelong partner for you anyway. Like throws up so much sh$te, you need to have someone by your side that will stay with you no matter what.....

Hope this helps......others will be along shortly to offer some more......keep strong....

[whatsgoingon?]

Hi Lukas - you've received brilliant advice so far. I would just like to add that you should make sure you compare your statement with the recording and go through it thoroughly to ensure that there aren't any 'mistakes' or 'typos' as it is normally the written statement that is used in court. If you do come across discrepancies you should make a note of them where they occur and hand them to your solicitor. You'd be amazed how one or two words out can make something sound totally different. Make sure you also thoroughly familiarise yourself with the girl's statement and any others. Will this be the plea hearing?

Take care and try and enjoy Christmas despite the strain it's putting on you.

[Rights Fighter]

Motive for lying is very important as the first question jurors ask themselves is "why would she lie?"

Had she fallen out with the girlfriend before the party anyway? Or the girlfriend fallen out with her - and she's looking for sympathy to get her back? If you are in touch with any of the other guests at the party, they may well have noticed something like that, although it's getting quite late in the day so you need to get asking, if you have not already done so.

[howdy]

Advice

The best advice I can give you is find the best solicitor you can find. These cases are very fragile and they need to be handled by a specialist. Last christmas I was in your shoes so I know exactly how you feel. You need to remain strong and know that the truth WILL come out. Sounds like a he/she say type of case which is ridiculous. Try and pick up a hobby in the mean time. You will be in my prayers man. God bless