racing thoughts / fear

[confusedunsure]

Yesterday a note was postes through my door asking me to contact an officer at the local station. I rang them as I believed it was in relation to evidence I gave several months ago about an attack I saw.

Turned out to actually be a request for myself to attend the station under the ground of historical sexual assault. The officer refused to arrange a time or give me any details without a solicitor (I was not expecting to hear him say that so rang back an hour later to comfirm this was genuine)

I have found a local solicitor who haw contacts the station and arrange for interview to happen next tue. He has been advise I will be arrested at the station and will be contacted just before the start of the interview. Been advisef to take no belongs and expect my phone to be siezed and there for the whole day.

I have never commited any sexual acts or any reqson to be accused but now have nearly a week wait before I am arrested and interviewed. At this moment in time I feel nothing but fear for what to expect or how ill be treated. I feel like im a criminal despite doing nothing. Confused and that scared im queationing self harm or ending it to not have to face the unknown next week.

Will I be made to feel a criminal when I arrive at the station next week or treated fairly. I am so scared, im24 yo and just started a job that is likely to lead to my lifelong career abd worried ill ve mad to loose it also.

[confusedunsure]

Sorry for typos in post trying to write it on my phone and was having issues with it freezing as I was typing.

[Casehardened]

Hi and welcome to the forum.

You may not get many replies from other members until tomorrow but I guess you are hardly in a frame of mind to get too much rest in the meantime!

So have a read of this but take comfort in that you have been asked in for the interview rather than arrested on the doorstep.

http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...at-happens-now

The arrest at the station will be for the purpose of taking DNA, fingerprints, interviewing, etc so is a more a formality than a certainty that the matter will go any further. It will be perfectly routine for the officers and if you are pleasant and polite to them they will reciprocate.

Many members will advise that you contact a solicitor specialising in false sexual accusations but for the purposes of a initial interview it is not really necessary; it is just important that you have one sitting in with you, and for insisting on this the police officer who spoke to you is to be commended.

[confusedunsure]

Thank you for a reply so late, I honestly was feeling worst case senario being told to get a solicitor with me on the day.

Mind has been relieving all memories I possibly have, been told its historic and is based in manchester city centre but can hand on my heart say I have not a single event I can remember that would even lead to such accusations, was with my ex partner for 3 years and we still get along, before that I was at uni and worked in a bar, so going back as far as wheb I was 18 (when I first started going out in the city) I cannot even think of any person or situation this could be from.

Apologises if I'm rambling just struggling and keeping them bottled up will make me sit awake all night. Tomorrow supposed to be a big event in my life, the queen is visiting my work to offically open the building and all excitment I had about the event has gone. Now actually feel I don't deserve to be part of it all, despite knowing I have got nothing from my past to be accussed because of.

Thank you again for your reply. I have read the link you sent before joining the site.

[o my god]

Thank you for a reply so late, I honestly was feeling worst case senario being told to get a solicitor with me on the day.

Mind has been relieving all memories I possibly have, been told its historic and is based in manchester city centre but can hand on my heart say I have not a single event I can remember that would even lead to such accusations, was with my ex partner for 3 years and we still get along, before that I was at uni and worked in a bar, so going back as far as wheb I was 18 (when I first started going out in the city) I cannot even think of any person or situation this could be from.

Apologises if I'm rambling just struggling and keeping them bottled up will make me sit awake all night. Tomorrow supposed to be a big event in my life, the queen is visiting my work to offically open the building and all excitment I had about the event has gone. Now actually feel I don't deserve to be part of it all, despite knowing I have got nothing from my past to be accussed because of.
n do at thet
Thank you again for your reply. I have read the link you sent before joining the site.

well if you can go to work when the queen is coming go and enjoy the day, im in court 2moz and not letting it get me down the best thing you can do at the min is to do things that keep your mind off it

[Boys don't cry]

Good "morning" and sorry to welcome you at this time confusedunsure.

Casehardened already gave you excellent advice.
Try not to worry too much as you cannot remember any sexual offence committed.

A few members have been arrested and interviewed at the police station without any solicitor and most of them (us) realised it was a mistake.

You will get more support shortly and my first advice is not to talk too much the police.

[Casehardened]

Well if you honestly can't remember what might have caused this accusation it can't be much; possibly a minor incident blown up by the accuser for their own reasons at this time. If you touched someone over their clothing with a sexual intent, say a drunken fumble at a party, this would be classed as sexual assault (provided they remembered later that they didn't consent)

As OMG says, enjoy HM's visit, you can't even begin to construct a defence until you find out at the interview who your accuser is (you won't be told until then as you might be tempted to contact them; after the interview you will be bailed with a condition of no contact)

Remember in the present PC climate the police will investigate every allegation no matter how far-fetched; that you have been invited for the interview in a weeks time indicates that they consider it far-fetched, for instance if you had anything incriminating on your phone this would give you time to 'lose' it (but please don't do this as it will immediately arose suspicion)

[babygal2014]

Hi from reading your posts could it be possible that it is the ex girlfriend that you said you was with for three years while in Manchester. Just in case make sure you do not contact her or anyone you suspect it could be until after the interview as if it is they will only phone the police and use it against you by orchestrating that your intimidating them.

[myhome]

Hi and welcome though sorry you have had to find us. You will get lots of support and advice here.
When you go to be interviewed your sol might advise you to give a No Comment interview or s/he might advise that you answer the questions put to you. Take their advice they know what they are doing. However, if you are advised to answer the questions - only answer what you are asked - don't embellish your answer or volunteer info that's not asked for even if you think it will help you - it won't at this stage. If it contradicts what she has said, they will take it to her and "invite" her to change her statement to fit what you say - she is allowed to do this as often as she wants. Anything you think will help you should be saved to help build your defence IF you need it in future...Keep strong..

[Stunned9]

Try not to worry till you find something tangible. I realise you are right now baffled at what is going on, I couldnt sleep for 3 days when my father was about to pay the Police a visit to get arrested.

Hoping it goes okay and turns out to be nothing

[confusedunsure]

Its my interview tomorrow had nothing but a terrible week worrying, didn't geel happy with legal aid route really worried me that they won't care.

Paid for a solicitor from london from a firm to travel up, expensive but I feel a bit more reassured this way.

I really struggling to keep head up, worried of what ill be accussed of tomorrow.

Thank you all for your replies above, glad I'm not alone

[can it get worse]

Best wishes for tomorrow - I hope your solicitor will be able to offer you some good advice & assistance.

[myhome]

how did it go to-day??

[confusedunsure]

won't go into detail about the events/charges until everything is over with, but appears I fitted in with the person they are looking for and I have given them full support in the investigation.

The solicitor that arrived to sit through the station visit was very support and helped me through the day (even met me before going to the station to speak about what to expect etc) and stayed there right through until bail at the end.

The interview was broken into bits, as it was stopped a few times to speak with my solicitor just to ensure that anything I said was put forward in the right way, and I wasn't going to leave myself in any kind of situation. (which the police were ok about and at no point was I made to feel I was time wasting)

The police officers/detectives were actually really friendly throughout the day (I know some people believe this is to just get you to speak/confess) but I genuinely felt they were still very open to let me speak and have my say. Overall the experience could of been a lot lot worse, without the solicitor there to help keep me being rational and to give me understanding of each part of the day.

Got bail until mid december whilst further parts of events are looked into, but overall I actually don't feel as anxious or stressed (and managed to get first decent sleep in over 2 weeks)

I will keep coming back, but at the moment going to not go into too much details, as not sure what I can and cant say at this point etc.

[confusedunsure]

My bail ends on friday. Still heard nothing from police. They are supposed to of done ID parade (tge virtual one with a photo) to show it wasnt me.

Should I have any worries theyve not been in touch.

Hopefully this who ordeal is nearly over.