My son has been falsely accused of rape and I don't know what to do

[Cat]

Hi BG2014

Thank you for taking the time to suggest a solicitor for my son.

I've read your posts & find it hard to believe that CPS are prosecuting your husband. In a strange way it has given me some comfort as although my son's case is very different I was sure it would be NFA & he would not be charged. I don't understand how they make their decisions.

You must be a very strong person to cope with all this & continue being such a good mum to your family. It's tough being on your own. I hope your final weeks of pregnancy are OK and your daughter is delivered safely. I really hope everything works out well for you and your family. I will be thinking of you.

Cat

[Cat]

Dave

Thank you for the solicitor number. Please can you tell me how you researched it? I've tried Googling the solicitor my son has at the moment but don't get much
info really. I've also done the same with the barristers the solicitor is thinking of using & only get there chambers CV. It seems to me that it is far easier to find a solicitor that specialises in motor offences than for those who are falsely accused. One particular website keeps appearing re FA but I'm sure I read on here back in August that this individual was not to be trusted.

My son's current solicitor hasn't done anything wrong, in fact he has said all along that he believes my son is innocent, he said that after many years in the job you get a feel for who is lying and who is telling the truth and knows my son told the truth straight away. I was shocked cos CPS have charged my son when sol said it would be NFA but having read Babygirl's story can see they do do that even when there is no evidence. I thought it was their job to sift out the cases that won't stand up in court.

Really I want to find out a bit more about the solicitor we already have. My son has your attitude - that he has done nothing wrong so has nothing to hide and will just tell the truth & let the police & court do their job and as he is an adult the choice of solicitor is up to him. Unfortunately I'm much more cynical.

Sorry I feel like I'm ranting on.

[Cat]

TM

Thanks to you too. I've just spent sometime reading your posts and think your son is so lucky to have you fighting for him. You are aptly named! Even though my son is an adult I share many of the same feelings and wish something could be done about the FAs. It is not fair that they can get away with devastating lives of the boys & men that they accuse.

Cat

[tiger mum]

Hi cat - I don't think mums ever feel different about their sons however big and old they get. I was knocked for six by your post - I think I'm going to have to adjust my expectations re getting any conclusions to our nightmare any time soon. The consensus re advice seems to be sit tight and wait for the outcome of the investigation - but you must be totally exhausted with it all. Also if we need to defend this we are going to be relying heavily on the witnesses on the night - the police have had two attempts at getting evidence to aid their prosecution already - by the time we get to talk to them so much time will have lapsed. Also I'm told the FA was posting loads of incriminating stuff on social media sites which would help my son's case - I'm hoping the kids know how to access this a year on as this might be what we have to do. Seems so biased and unfair. The more you read on here about the gap between what the police guidelines say and what actually happens makes you more convinced the system is so stacked against our lads.

[phoenix2014]

Just want to add my support here also,so want to tell anyone with sons to keep them locked in the house

People think you have to worry about daughters (which I have also) but that in this day and age seems not to be the case,I wish people would have reason to find this forum before being in our situation as we are biased obviously!!
No matter what happens with my situation,I will never let this drop and will try to make people aware of the injustice that happens to men,just on the say so of some scorned women.

[edinguy]

My mother went through hell with me when my ordeal was ongoing and she really kept me going.

So to all the mums on here on behalf of their sons, you will probably never know how much your efforts and love mean to us.

Honestly you do make the difference is situations like this.

[Cat]

Trial date postponed

Have just been informed that my son's trial has been postponed and will now take place in Feb 2015. Seems to be going on forever.

[o my god]

When was it meant to start??

[whatsgoingon?]

My mother went through hell with me when my ordeal was ongoing and she really kept me going.

So to all the mums on here on behalf of their sons, you will probably never know how much your efforts and love mean to us.

Honestly you do make the difference is situations like this.

Thanks alot for this, Edinguy - it's great to know how much you appreciated the support your mum gave you, I know my son did.

From a mum's perspective it's sometimes hard to see that, because, well it's an awkward thing for a guy to share with his mum. Sometimes we mum's worry so much about what's going to happen that it can add to our son's own stress and sometimes it's easy to assume they aren't taking an interest in what's going on or realise how much energy and effort we're putting in. It's hard to be getting on with your life, trying not to let it overwhelm you and outwardly show that you are taking it seriously, however outrageous the allegations.

It's not always easy, both son and mother have to adapt and be prepared to make concessions for a common cause. Not only are the chances of success increased, but the relationship is improved in the long-term.

[whatsgoingon?]

Have just been informed that my son's trial has been postponed and will now take place in Feb 2015. Seems to be going on forever.

Sorry to hear this CAT -that is a long time. Ours was 14 and a half months start to finish.

Did you keep the duty sol in the end?

[Cat]

When was it meant to start??

It was scheduled for October this year.

[Cat]

Sorry to hear this CAT -that is a long time. Ours was 14 and a half months start to finish.

Did you keep the duty sol in the end?

Yes we kept the duty solicitor and have a barrister with experience in these cases. The only evidence is his word against hers so will depend on how jury sees it all. It's been ongoing for a year now. He is suspended from uni because of it.

[Cat]

Thanks alot for this, Edinguy - it's great to know how much you appreciated the support your mum gave you, I know my son did.

From a mum's perspective it's sometimes hard to see that, because, well it's an awkward thing for a guy to share with his mum. Sometimes we mum's worry so much about what's going to happen that it can add to our son's own stress and sometimes it's easy to assume they aren't taking an interest in what's going on or realise how much energy and effort we're putting in. It's hard to be getting on with your life, trying not to let it overwhelm you and outwardly show that you are taking it seriously, however outrageous the allegations.

It's not always easy, both son and mother have to adapt and be prepared to make concessions for a common cause. Not only are the chances of success increased, but the relationship is improved in the long-term.

Yes, thanks Edinguy.

[o my god]

What a load of bulls××t, have they given u a reason why they are putting it back so long?

[Rights Fighter]

Hi Im in Cardiff and I would recommend using Mcsorley Lewis Solicitors and they accept Legal Aid. They are amazing they are specialised criminal solicitors in sexual offences and have done a brilliant job so far with our case. They have over 30 years experience and they are fantastic. www.mcsorleylewis.co.uk/

Which solicitor in particular, and barrister (and his chambers?)

Thanks for the recommendation. I'll add it to my list