Hi my partner has being charged, i need help!!

[Innocentguy1983]

Hi There

I'm really sorry to hear your sad news, after the long bail date.... I am my self experiencing a historic situation when I was 11-16. So I know exactly how you feel...

Hi

Have you checked to see if your husband's solicitor is experienced in defending cases of alleged historic csa

FS

I couldn't agree more with "frightend spouse", I have yet to be charged but I have spent a considerable long time trying to find the right solicitor.. I mean this can change everything.. going on holiday, getting a mortgage... Make sure you have the best defence you can!

In the end I have decided to go with Mr Gerry Mcdonald at ebr.

Good luck to you both..

IG

[myhome]

Hi - Have you checked to see if your husband's solicitor is experienced in defending cases of alleged historic csa, I can't stress enough how important it is to have a legal team that has a solid background in this area. If you post the region ( not too specific )that you are living in a forum member may be able to recommend a solicitor they have first hand experience of. FS

Hi - have a look at this sticky - you may find someone recommended and some to avoid.....

http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...ist-solicitors

[HKM20]

I have been to see the solicitor and she is specialized in that field, she is getting a barrister sorted in that field, our legal aid form has been submitted now and we have been told that we only get 6 months of legal aid. I have asked for the unused bundle which she is getting. the solicitor is also checking if the "victim" has already put a claim in for criminal damages, if she has it proves what we have been saying that she is money grabbing, whether my partner is found guilty or not she will still get paid out which i find disgusting! We might have to sell our home to pay the legal fees after 6 months as we have no saving at all, so we might lose our family home while she is getting rewarded for telling lies, I don't see how that is fair! the investigating officer said to our solicitor off the cuff that she is shocked my partner has been charged! There is no hard cold evidence to say my partner has done it, its only her word so i cant see why he has been charged! :C

[sadman]

Draw up a battle plan

As this was a long time ago times and dates will be difficult to recollect
Start with memorable dates which you do know holidays deaths births things you can remember.Then question friends and family about certain periods sometimes they can fill in gaps Build up an event map of that period then try to get supporting documentation or witnesses to support it.The police and CPS will do everything in their power to see your partner convicted.10 months on bail means they have been looking for further evidence which is probably thin on the ground.in most of these cases it is who the jury believe credabilty is everything .look at her allegations as a wall of lies and each brick in the wall has to be taken down so the wall falls down.When you have her statement go through it in fine detail again and again somewhere in it will be weakness.Above all get a good barrister who has experience in these cases the prosecutor will be a top person and they are good so be aware a weak legal team would not help your cause.Don t sit there discuss it and find those weaknesses in the lies

Goodluck

My partner has been charged today of historical child rape that surposed of happened 15 16 years ago (never happened as this person admitted to me she was lieing 10 years ago), My partner is totally overwhelmed and we need help and advice from anyone. we are from the UK so any help and support will be greatly recieved. I know you are the only people who can truely understand what we are going through. I just cant believe this is happening, he was on bail for 10 months before being charged.
Thank you for taking the time to read this
HKM20

[HKM20]

Well last Thursday whilst i had guests over and social services decided to show up, They said they could come at another time but i said no i asked them in, my guests asked if i wanted them to leave and again i said no they could stay. Social service seems shocked that i allowed them in with guests being there and that my guests were there to stay. They asked questions which we have answered and then questioned my eldest son in his bedroom. They seemed ok but i dont trust them at all. they have put us on a 45 day assessment, so they can drop in anytime and they are going to the school when it is open for term. We feel humiliated that the school is going to be informed because school mums work there and they gossip so we have hit an all time low at the moment. We have got family who are going to give evidence against her (the ones she has spoke to) and for some reason the dates she has given fall around her birthday (every year) when she was "abused" which is beyond ridiculous! We haven't been sleeping well at all and we feel more exhausted than when we went to bed! I just wish this nightmare would end, so we can get on with life normally.

[sparks]

I feel for you so much, imagine coming from a village of less then 12,000 people 1, store, 1 doctors, 1 school
And SS telling you oh people are professional, well I don't care it it was run by a silent order of mute monks people talk, but SS do not see that as a problem, they see you as being obstructive, work with these people but do not trust them, visit Fassit for info and assistance in dealing with the SS, best wishes.


Sparks

[frightened spouse]

Hi

Sorry to hear you are feeling low, the fact schools are informed is yet another humiliating factor in all this. My children's schools were informed within 24 hrs of us finding out about our FA. Although I was still in shock and barely functioning I approached all the head teachers in person to explain our perspective on the FA. It gave me back a feeling of control and also you can discuss any worries you have about how your son and any other children are coping with the situation. The only people that are informed are the head teacher and the class teacher, so I wouldn't worry too much about the gossips.

It is good that social services saw that you have support, they are just as bad as the police when it comes to assuming that all complainants are telling the truth.

Best wishes

Frightened Spouse

[HKM20]

Well my partner has to go to court this tuesday for bail from the court but I am nervouse the "victim" will be there, does that normally happen the victim being there whilst my partner is granted bail?

[Boys don't cry]

HKM.

I am confident you won't see the accuser in court.

There will obviously be your partner's barrister who will give him the next bail date which could be the plea hearing.

Try to get some rest and focus on the final disclosure.

[HKM20]

Hell!

Has anyone ever had their house attacked? Mine has twice since it was in the paper, actually the day it was put in the paper! Anyone else had that?

[can it get worse]

So sorry for you - as if it couldn't get any worse.

Everything seems to go against the accused. These alligators will get their 'come uppence' one day.

We have to pay for our own defence and pay for the accusers legal bill as well via our taxes.

How can any of this be right???

[HKM20]

Well i have had to move to a safe location for our familys safety and Our solicitor is useless, i have come across this website but i have seen on here its not all its cracked up to be. www.falselyaccused.co.uk has anyone had dealings with them and are they as good as they claim to be?

[Innocentguy1983]

Well i have had to move to a safe location for our familys safety and Our solicitor is useless, i have come across this website but i have seen on here its not all its cracked up to be. www.falselyaccused.co.uk has anyone had dealings with them and are they as good as they claim to be?

I'm so sorry to hear you have had your house attacked...NO one deserves that!

It worries me that the same could happen to me!

I hope you are safe where you are now.

I Did try calling that sight and email them, but I never heard back from them..

[nothappy]

We are in the same boat!

Hello, this is my first post. Just been reading about and so much is sounds the same thats happened here.
My partner has been accused and convicted of CSA from before 10 years ago he was only 9 to 17 at the time by a couple of family members who were younger. He is being sentenced next week. The trail was a joke (thats another story) the evidence was all over the place and our solicitors was not pulling their weight. (we are on legal aid) Its been a living hell. He lost his job, his kids, his partner then etc..

We don't know what to do at this stage! We looked at falsely accused .co.uk and they haven't got back to us I have even phoned them this afternoon. So I'm just writing this so back-up what has been put on this thread already.

Best of luck, its hard too but keep positive.

[whatsgoingon?]

Well i have had to move to a safe location for our familys safety and Our solicitor is useless, i have come across this website but i have seen on here its not all its cracked up to be. www.falselyaccused.co.uk has anyone had dealings with them and are they as good as they claim to be?

If your solicitor is hopeless then I would strongly advise you to change. We had to and were very happy that we did. I believe that there is such an organisation as you mention which is to be avoided like the plague as they act as an agency and take lots of money-for-old-rope off you.

Take a look at the thread 'specialised solicitors' in the general information section - tried and tested solicitors have been recommended there. If you don't find one in your area then put in a 'request'.

Really sorry to hear of the newspaper reports and break-ins

Good luck