Hi my partner has being charged, i need help!!

[Innocentguy1983]

Hi HKM20

I am really pleased to hear your new solicitor is working for you. On my Preliminary the judge also gave the CPS prosecutor a telling off for their lack of communication and preparation. It does in still me with some confidence that the judges are impartial and ensure a fair process is happening.

I am really sorry about your home.. its terrible.. with everything your going through.. I really sympathise..

Out of curiosity had your partner been with his employer for more then 2 years? I have recently spoken with ACAS and an employment solicitor who highlighted employers would generally suspend with or without (Contract specific per person) fully pay during criminal proceedings. If he has been unfairly terminated you can initiate tribunal proceedings.

Im not sure what a pre-trial is, but I hope it all goes well for you!

Sending positive vibes!

IG

[whatsgoingon?]

Hi HKM20 - well done for your positive attitude despite what you and your partner are going through. Doesn't having decent representation make the world of difference and make you realise that the fight is on and possible? For some it's just a job, for others a vocation - go for the latter every time.

Good luck in your fight and a very happy new year to you both

[myhome]

Hi - this is sounding really positive really pleased your new sol is so efficient - really highlights the importance of having a more than competent legal team that you can trust and can work WITH you...pity the judge didn't throw it out then - but gives you some confidence when you have to next go to court......

PS - please could you post the name of your legal team/solicitors in the Special Solicitors thread so that others in your area can contact them.....thanks

[thisisinsane]

Hi HKM20!

I am in a similiar situation at the moment. Can you tell me how you found your solicitor and what your main criteria was when you made that choice? I'm finding it incredibly hard to make a choice...

[Innocentguy1983]

Hi HKM20!

I am in a similiar situation at the moment. Can you tell me how you found your solicitor and what your main criteria was when you made that choice? I'm finding it incredibly hard to make a choice...

Hi there thiisinsane

I spent a long time trying to figure this one out... In the end I found a barrister chambers that specialises in this matter.. I called them and asked which solicitor they recommended...

At the end of the day... In my opinion, the barrister is key.... I searched on legal 500 on recommendations etc... There recent cases... Etc..

Hope that helps

[thisisinsane]

Hello everyone thank you for the quick replies. I didnt have much time lately as things are getting worse day by day and i dont think he will make it out of this mess alive.

But we did have some very good experience with gerry mcdonald so if he makes it that far at least hes got a good solicitor.
Its really a tough job to keep somebody you love from committing suicide

[is there justice?]

Hello everyone thank you for the quick replies. I didnt have much time lately as things are getting worse day by day and i dont think he will make it out of this mess alive.

But we did have some very good experience with gerry mcdonald so if he makes it that far at least hes got a good solicitor.
Its really a tough job to keep somebody you love from committing suicide

I really feel for you. We went through a period of never leaving him alone and panicking if he was in the shed or garage and I've even felt that way myself but it's not worth letting them win in that way.
I wish you strength beyond measure o get through this xx

[myhome]

Its really a tough job to keep somebody you love from committing suicide

Absolutely right it is. This is what my sister said to me when I told her I'd found a friend to take my dogs and written a suicide note the previous evening.

"So what's supposed to happen then? I get a knock on the door from the police who tell me that my lovely sister has killed herself and would I go and identify the body? Is that how it works?"

That's tough love but it certainly made me stop and think; I'd never thought of any of that before. I just didn't want to live with the hell that I was (am) going through. Now, at my very lowest times I just look into the eyes of my beautiful faithful dogs and know that I couldn't do it to them....

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary dreadful situation....

keep strong hon and try to persuade your other half to seek help, and don't forget that you need support too........ MH

[HKM20]

Trial Week

Ok guys tomrow is the start of the trial and I feel like i am in a living hell, I will be sitting in the gallery to support by partner can anyone give me any advice to give my partner as i am utterly clueless, i have said to him to be himself as he always comes across as a really likable person but i dont know if i am right or not to give that advice. So nervous I could vomit. At least the rape charged was changed to indecent assault a few months ago so hopefully that is a good thing. xxxx

[IRB777]

Ive never been to trial for rape im still on pre charge bail innocently accused. All i can say is tell him to keep calm the defence have to put there case first ,so if he gives evidence it wont be for a day or so. This will give him chance to get used to the court room and what too expect and will cut down on nerves. He needs to come across as reasonable, an everyday man wrongly accused a victim. The worst thing that can happen is for him to lose his temper when being cross examined. he must keep calm. Give his evidence and truth will find a way. I saw a fantastic quote on here earlier " The truth is like a Lion. You dont have to defend it. Let it loose. It will defend itself. " and its very true liars get caught out in court, the truth never does, have faith in that and good luck.

[Casehardened]

Very best wishes to you both for today

There is a thread in the Useful Information section of the forum about what to expect at trial:

http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...xpect-at-Trial

As IRB777 has said tell him not to get angry at the prosecution barrister's questioning; but respond calmly and positively while looking towards the jury (but don't stare at any one member, imagine he's talking to them as if he's a lecturer!)

[is there justice?]

HKM , will be thinking of you both. Let's hope the case falls to pieces early on. My best wishes for a good result.

[thisisinsane]

Hi HKM Ive been thinking of you and your husband today, hope it went well. I cant give much advice but i think it is a good sign they changed the charge to indecent assault - to me it looks like they don't really have muvh against your husband and they probably realised themselves they won't get through with a rape charge, still both accusations are ridiculous.
I hope you're lucky and have a reasonable jury.
Good luck to xou and your husband. Look forward to when this nightmare is over. Xxx

[can it get worse]

Hi - hope the first day has gone ok for your partner.

And that your team have proved to be as good as you expected. The fact that the charge has reduced has got to be a good sign.

xx

[worriedgirl]

hi, thinking of you and wishing you all the best as you go through this. stay strong and keep positive.