Accused and feeling alone

[jojo26]

Hello Mark Anthony,my son was accused of rape,took the police nearly a year to charge him 11 month to be exact,then a further 2 year on top of that for it to be eventually taken to court.So this could go on for a long time yet...Do you have close family around you to help you through this??? as my son has said many times that without our support he didn't know how he would have gotten through all of this.

When they took you to police station,did you give a statement then??? advice given should have been No comment to everything they ask,get yourself a good lawyer,Not one who is just handed to you by the police.

Keep any facebook mail/text messages/voice mail that she might have sent you that will show her true character...the girl who accused my son actually facebooked mailed him the day after the so called rape had taken place?? (my son was found not guilty)

You can ask to see her statement to the police at anytime,to see exactly what she has said and is accusing you of,also if you do have family/friends as you said before who can vouch for her wanting to try for a baby make sure you tell lawyer this.

Recent law has changed over the last couple of weeks,before any female accusing a male of rape had to have to points of evidence pointing this ie her word and that of someone elses....Now you only have to have one ie HER word and her word alone is enough to get this taken to court,but the more witnesses you have to throw a shadow of a doubt into a juror the better....

Good luck

[markanthony]

Hello Mark Anthony,my son was accused of rape,took the police nearly a year to charge him 11 month to be exact,then a further 2 year on top of that for it to be eventually taken to court.So this could go on for a long time yet...Do you have close family around you to help you through this??? as my son has said many times that without our support he didn't know how he would have gotten through all of this.

When they took you to police station,did you give a statement then??? advice given should have been No comment to everything they ask,get yourself a good lawyer,Not one who is just handed to you by the police.

Keep any facebook mail/text messages/voice mail that she might have sent you that will show her true character...the girl who accused my son actually facebooked mailed him the day after the so called rape had taken place?? (my son was found not guilty)

You can ask to see her statement to the police at anytime,to see exactly what she has said and is accusing you of,also if you do have family/friends as you said before who can vouch for her wanting to try for a baby make sure you tell lawyer this.

Recent law has changed over the last couple of weeks,before any female accusing a male of rape had to have to points of evidence pointing this ie her word and that of someone elses....Now you only have to have one ie HER word and her word alone is enough to get this taken to court,but the more witnesses you have to throw a shadow of a doubt into a juror the better....

Good luck

i answered everything the police asked me in the interview room because i had nothing to hide i had done nothing wrong and most certainly dident do the things she had accused me of they went into great detail of what she said happened witch disgusted me i have done no wrong the truth will come out when she is found to be a liar and when it is over i will be going for full custody of my children i think with her trying this she is unfit to have them i miss my son and would love to see my daughter who i havent met yet

[lawlessone2009]

Not meeting your daughter yet is horrendous. The initial bonds that should be taking place, for both you and her, are being completely missed.

As for the bail itself. It seems very usual for repeated bails and also, as 'jojo26' indicates, for the time after any charges to be long and protracted for absolutely no obvious reason.

I hope you are fairing as well as can be expected with regards to your health. If you are having issues do not be afraid to ask for help.

Is there any way at all that you can see your kids? A contact centre for instance?

[thisisinsane]

My friend was allowed to see his kids a couple of days ago, supervised by children's services and only for one hour but still, it gave him so much strength and a reason to fight. I think they did it to make him do the risk assessment with the social worker which he refused to.
So, i think theoretically it should be possible for you to see your kids. Maybe you can ask your family law solicitor?
If you are not entitled to a family law solicitor or cannot afford one you could also call the frg helpline, family rights group, they have helped my friend a lot.

[thisisinsane]

frg

http://www.frg.org.uk/need-help-or-advice/advice-sheets

[markanthony]

http://www.frg.org.uk/need-help-or-advice/advice-sheets

thank you very much she is a very cunning person like when she took me to court for the injunction order on me and i went to court she told them she was to scared to see me when 2 days before the court injunction date she was telling me she loved me and she wanted us to be together

[Southwestaccused]

When this is all over you can use this obvious attempt to sever your relationship with your children as grounds to apply for residence.

I am in a similar position and holding on to the hope of that happening. Keep strong.

[jojo26]

i answered everything the police asked me in the interview room because i had nothing to hide i had done nothing wrong and most certainly dident do the things she had accused me of they went into great detail of what she said happened witch disgusted me i have done no wrong the truth will come out when she is found to be a liar and when it is over i will be going for full custody of my children i think with her trying this she is unfit to have them i miss my son and would love to see my daughter who i havent met yet

Solicitor’s top tip

Once you’ve provided the police with your name and address, it’s probably better to stay quiet and refuse to answer any questions until you have had the chance to speak to a solicitor. S/he can give you the heads up on what’s safe to discuss and what isn’t. You’re not obliged to say anything until you’ve taken legal advice.......

.Right now although you are MEANT to be innocent till proven guilty,you are not....I wouldn't trust the police Not to twist your words,the fact that you aren't used to given a police statement etc can and will be used against you...best advice we received was this....Have you got yourself a good lawyer yet??? not the one given to you by the police at the time you were accused....They will be able to put you in the right direction of a mediation team who will help you see your children..

[tellthetruth]

Hmmmmm........

Sounds pretty awful.... but maybe u should tell the truth instead of posting sob stories for sympathy. From someone who knows the truth n seen the truth.

[lawlessone2009]

Hmmmmm........

Sounds pretty awful.... but maybe u should tell the truth instead of posting sob stories for sympathy. From someone who knows the truth n seen the truth.

Hi and welcome to the forum.

I am a little confused as to the point of your message in this thread.

The OP has been advised by fellow members on what to expect in the proceeding months. He has also been advised on various points with regards access to his children. Members have also shared their thoughts, beliefs and experiences.

Your post seems to be lacking all of these and provides little to the overall discussion within the thread. Your post is verging on inflammatory not just for the OP but also for fellow forum members. I would ask that you refrain from random unhelpful posting. If you need help of any kind please feel free to create your own thread.

[Rights Fighter]

Possibly "tellthetruth" is somebody from prosecutions's side of Mark Anthony's case. They appear to have posted only once. Maybe they could start their own thread and clarify who they are.......

[lawlessone2009]

Possibly "tellthetruth" is somebody from prosecutions's side of Mark Anthony's case. They appear to have posted only once. Maybe they could start their own thread and clarify who they are.......

It is odd to post once within a thread but add nothing to it and not seek help or put forward that they are also in a similar situation or share some of their experiences.

[Rights Fighter]

Yep. That's why I wondered whether she is 'from the other side' so to speak. After all this is a public forum and anybody can read the contents....

[Casehardened]

Yep. That's why I wondered whether she is 'from the other side' so to speak. After all this is a public forum and anybody can read the contents....

Well spotted; I must hang my head in shame in assuming all posters without an obvious clue in their username are male.....

[Rights Fighter]

12 years in the work has taught me to have a suspicious mind about everybody - sadly.....